If you want to call what I wrote venting, great! But it's not! This is the only board that HealingWell has that deals with cancer. And, how is it that I am "calling attention" to myself? I am just trying to reach out for advice and support so that I can better support my loved ones that have all of this going on in their lives. Is that too much to ask? I can't say that I understand because I don't. I don't have whatever it is these "victims" you refer to have. I can only be there supportively and to the best I can. I wasn't even talking to you. I was refering to the reply that MNlady13 had given.
I am very sorry you are feeling so overwhelmed right now with all of the problems that people you know are having.
We are a breast cancer board and we are a very compassionate group- Jo-Ann among the most compassionate among us. However, you seem to be missing the point entirely. We are in no postition to give you the kind of help you need right now- hence the suggestion that you find another outlet.
Do you know about breast cancer? I am not talking about the pretty pink ribbons, candy and parades....
It strikes YOUNG women as well as not so young women. We endure multiple surgeries and toxic treatements that make us sick as dogs and then we get radiated. But it doesn't end there. The younger women can no longer have children. Many are put into a chemo-enduced menopause. And for some of us the treatments don't work. So that means daily toxic chemicals, whole brain radiation, bone replacement, difficulty breathing, difficulty in concentrating, mouth sores, bone pain and joint pain far worse than than the worst fibromyalgia you can imagine...the joint pain from the chemicals is so bad that sometimes even our nails come off - all this while trying to live each day the best you can under circumstances that are unbearable.
And with all these treatments we sometimes lose our sisters. Long before their time.
They are beautiful vibrant women who are taken from us. But not without a fight- they spend YEARS fighting. And when we lose one of us each woman here loses a part of herself too. We've lost four sisters since July.
Now I realize your problems seem monumental to you right now so you should definitely try and find some help.
But right now we are all just trying to keep swimming and hold eachother up. We have breast cancer and that is all we can deal with right now.
Maybe you would feel better if you volunteered a little of your time and gave to people. You could volunteer at a hospital and hold AIDS babies. A Hospice center and help terminally ill patients on their final journey. A women's shelter and help battered women and children. A Nursing Home and help the aged. You might learn to appreciate the good in your life by seeing what others have to go through every single day.
Our focus here is to help our sisters battle breast cancer. We are not equipped to tackly the myriad of problems you presented. Even though our title has the "Word cancer in it" a 94 year old man with cancer is not the same as a 36 year old woman with two young girls who died last month and left a hole in our hearts forever.