Boy, is it me or is that new anti-spam feature a P.I.T.A? I don't have the energy or patience to wait it out (when I read & want to reply quickly) so I just leave. I understand the reasoning but grrrrrrr LOL
I spoke with Mel's MIL and her best friend visiting from W. VA. Mel has been having a lot of pain. Originally it was in her back but now her head seems to be bothering her the most. She is barely taking anything by mouth & has difficulty swallowing. She sleeps most of the time, most likely due to the drugs she is getting for pain.
She gets the pain meds in gel form applied to her wrist so that she doesn't need injections, since she doesn't swallow well. I am relieved at that.
I told her friend, Rhonda (they met in the military YEARS ago) to give her a long hug, a kiss on the cheek & to whisper in her ear that we love her and that she is always in our thoughts & prayers. She said she would be glad to do that for us. She has been making a point to fly in about once a month to be with Mel.
MIL said they are keeping a really tight rein on anyone they let in from Hospice. MIL said that Mel's DHH has counseled both boys (Kai, 24yo & Ian 5yo) on the inevitable, as he has his Master's in Social Work. He & MIL don't want any negativity in the house, since they know what is happening & don't feel it would be good to have Hospice add to it.
I talked to Ian. School has been a wonderful thing for him! His speech is as clear as a bell now. He wanted to know all about the fat cat sleeping in my lap & laughed at her name ("Boots!? Like on your FEEEEET??"). When he asked me where I was & I told him Michigan, he told me that HE was in Oklahoma. Then he ran off to watch Friday night cartoons lol.
My heart just aches for Mel. I know she wants to be there with her family, but not like this. One of her fears was of dying too slowly. Months ago, they told her family "anytime now."
I am not a praying woman but I know that SHE is. I wish for her pain-free days and nights. I wish for her lucidity in her waking moments with her family. I wish for her PEACE and strength through all of this. And I wish for her to continue to feel our love sent in all ways.
May this disease NEVER be allowed to take another wife, mother, daughter, sister, lover or friend........
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