Hi. My name is Debbi and I have stage IV bc. I was first diagnosed in 2001. At that time I was staged between II & III. I had a radical modified mastectomy w/ 19 of 21 lymph nodes positive. I had 4 chemo treatments, 36 radiation treatments and was deemed clean. Then in 2002 I had a recurrance. It was found in my sternum. I have been on monthly chemo treatments, herceptin and several other, and am doing fine. My last pet scan (last month) showed no difference in the scan from 2005. I have a pet and bone scan every 3 months as well as a mugga to make sure that my heart is ok from the meds that I take. I feel great. I look good and am constantly told that I really can't have cancer and be taking treatments because I don't look sick. Now what a person that has cancer is suppose to look like, I have no idea. lol I won't lie and tell you that I don't hurt but there are meds that I take to ease the pain. And I still function fine. My bones are a little weaker from all of the chemo but I get a med every month w/ my chemo to strengthen them. I believe that the most important thing is that you have a POSITIVE attitude. Not only your wife but you also and your family. Understand that your wife is going to be frightened at times. Each new little ache and pain will make her wonder if the cancer has spread. But she has to remember that this is, as the other gals have said, a MANAGABLE DISEASE! If she doesn't have faith in her onco, then find another one. I have gone thru 3 since my journey began.
I hope that things go well and please come back and visit us. Hopefully your wife will join us. This is a wonderful, knowledgable group of women. They are very compassionate