Good for you Shell for making the decision that will put you more at ease! My tah/bso is next Thursday, the 18th. I cann't have it done by lap because my uterus is tipped. Unfortunately, I have to have an incision. My recoop time is supposed to be 6-8 wks off work. I think it MAY be slightly shorter if you can get a lap. Get on the hystersister.com web site and there won't be any questions that someone cannot answer for you - or at least tell you how it was with them. As far as the sex thing - your uterus won't affect it at all. Good luck to you Shelly and my prayers are with you!