Mel's journey is over

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nurse_mikki
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   Posted 12/1/2004 8:50 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi friends--I got a call from Mel's husband. She passed away in his arms at a little past midnight today, 12/1. Her best friend Rhonda was there, too. I will post funeral info when he has completed the arrangements. He said the funeral would be Monday. I know that she will be buried next to her dad in Ada, OK.
 
Mike said that she hadn't spoken more than 10 words in the past 6 weeks, but when Rhonda came for this visit, she was able to talk to her. He said Mel & Rhonda were joking and laughing so much that Mel's MIL accused them of having a party LOL. What a way for Mel to go out!!
 
While there is sadness in my heart, the overwhelming feeling that I have is elation that Mel has gone "home." She was ready and my heart feels lighter knowing that her struggle is over. I have been mourning her these last few months as this was NOT how she wanted to linger. I am sad that she won't be here to raise Ian and lend support to her DSS Kai (whom she raised as her own).
 
Her candle is lit, as she requested me to do a long time ago.
 
I will be sending flowers. If anyone wants to contribute, you can let me know.
 
Hugs, Michele
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Shells
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   Posted 12/1/2004 9:14 AM (GMT -7)   
Oh Mikki. I am so sorry. I am glad her friend was there and Mel sounded like she was happy to see and talk to her. But it also breaks my heart. Bitter sweet. I too, have been relieved that she is no longer suffering. I think we all have been mourning her since we heard what kind of state she was in. It just tears me up knowing that she won't be there to raise Ian. She was so proud of him and truly loved him so. She was a great lady and I admired her strength and determination. Now I feel like I am alone, healthwise. Alot of my ladies are gone that had about the same dx as I had and around the sametime.

Big hugs to you Mikki, and all of us that loved Mel.

Shelley
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jaaustin
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   Posted 12/1/2004 9:26 AM (GMT -7)   

This is such sad news for Mel's family, but I agree with you Mikki, she is in a much better place now. Her suffering is ended. She was such an inspiration to me -- always upbeat no matter what she was facing.

My prayers are with all who knew her, especially her family.

Hugs,
Julie


Do not go gentle into that goodnight,
Rage, rage against the dying of the light.
~Dylan Thomas


babyseeester
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   Posted 12/1/2004 9:55 AM (GMT -7)   
This is so sad, but as others have said, she's free from suffering now.  I didn't know her, but learned of her through all of your posts.  I'm glad she was able to have a few last moments of joy with her friend.  That will be a wonderful memory for her friend to cherish.  Best wishes for her family to get through this terrible period of loss.
 
Love and hugs,
Kathy


MNlady13
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   Posted 12/1/2004 10:56 AM (GMT -7)   
Mikki, like you I am relieved that this part of Mel's journey is over. I will never forget that mega-watt smile of hers or her courage and fortitude in the face of continuning treatment. It is just so, so sad. I have been thinking about her every day. She will be in my heart forever. Hugs, Lauri
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Jo-Ann
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   Posted 12/1/2004 12:53 PM (GMT -7)   
From early on in her battle, Mel became the biggest hero to me. Her journey was rough and rocky, but she kept on walking, sometimes even running.
 
She will certainly be missed by her family and by us. It hurts me so bad because I have children older than her and I feel like I've lost a daughter. Anyone who has ever met her can never forget her smile and her Ian.
 
I asked Mel to deliver a message to my Mitchell for me and she said that would be no problem. Today, she is no longer the wind beneath our wings. The wind beneath her wings is coming from the Lord. Godspeed my dear friend. The only comfort I have right now is that we will meet again.
 
Sorrowfully, Jo-Ann
 
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but a true friend will be sitting
next to you saying,
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cynd56
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   Posted 12/1/2004 12:59 PM (GMT -7)   
Thank you Mikki for always letting us know how she was doing. I can only imagine how hard this has been. God Bless her soul and bless those left to mourn. I feel very deeply that she is in a much better place and has been warmly welcomed by the sisters that have preceeded her. Love, Cyndy

sdearing
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   Posted 12/1/2004 1:26 PM (GMT -7)   
{{Mikki}} Thank you for letting us know. I am thankful she is finally at peace and I remember you telling us she did not want to linger. My heart breaks for those left behind, especially Ian. Mel was a very special person and such an inspiration to us all. I am sure Ian will have some wonderful memories of his Mom.

Sadly
Sara
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gma
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   Posted 12/1/2004 3:22 PM (GMT -7)   
What more can be said? Mel was our Hero, our engergizer bunny, one of our brightest smiles. Leah and Mel both had the greatest smiles. I don't think they met here on earth, but hopefull now their smiles are together and lighting up the heavens. I feel so badly, yet I knew this day would come many weeks ago. It was incredible how she held on. I really admired her family with their open arms. Thanks Mikki for letting us know, all weekend I kept thinking I should call and ask about her, but I really was afraid to hear the news you finally got for us. I will send a check, do I have the correct address? Mulberry? I can't read the file Jo-Ann sent have to get Word one of these days. Sad, sad, hugs, MK


Candy
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   Posted 12/1/2004 4:14 PM (GMT -7)   

Michele:

Thanks for letting us know.  Her passing is an answer to a prayer.  Like you said, her suffering is over.  My beliefs tell me she is well and whole again and waiting for the rest of her loved ones to follow.  She certainly has joined some pretty good company.

My prayers for her family will continue.  Hugs to you Michele, you are a good friend.

Love and hugs,

Candy



Tavish
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   Posted 12/1/2004 4:17 PM (GMT -7)   
Adding my condolences and wishes for peace for us all. Mel was a courageous warrior, with a beautiful smile and a remarkable attitude. She was our Energizer Bunny....going and going...and never complaining. Time after time, she accepted her diagnosis and carried on with it as a chronic illness, never letting us see if she was scared or mad. I am so sad that we have lost yet another sister...how many this year? Too many, for sure.

I too am relieved that Mel is at peace now, and hope that her grieving family and friends will soon be comforted as well.

Hugs to us all-
Lori


claramels2
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   Posted 12/1/2004 4:35 PM (GMT -7)   
My heart is saddened with the news of our amazing Mel but I know she is now at peace and busy chatting with our other sisters in Heaven. 
 
May God bless Mel's family and friends and may God bless us all.  Sad Hugs, Libby
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beck2000
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   Posted 12/1/2004 4:38 PM (GMT -7)   
While we're relieved that Mel's suffering is over, we still mourn the loss of this extraordinary young lady.  None of us who met her in MB will ever forget that huge smile and the obvious love she had for her son.  She fought a valiant fight, and we are the better for being able to call her our friend.
 
May God comfort those she leaves behind.
 
Hugs to us all,
 
Becky


kittyritz
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   Posted 12/1/2004 6:00 PM (GMT -7)   
Oh Michele,
 
I was hoping that I wouldn't see this post but I guess that was wishful thinking.  I wish I could agree that she is in a better place but I can't helping feeling that her place is here on Earth with Ian.  How unfair.  I will always remember and treasure the condo that we shared in MB.  She was such a sweet person and Ian was loads of fun.  How unfair that that little boy won't have his loving mommy to raise him.  I just don't understand.  It just doesn't seem right.
 
Love and hugs, Christi  sad


tking
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   Posted 12/1/2004 7:57 PM (GMT -7)   

I'm so sorry to hear about Mel.  I didn't know her but she sounded like a very brave woman!!!  I wish that she could have lived to raise her son but we know that she is in a better place now.  Will be praying for and remembering her family in the days to come.


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kmonke
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   Posted 12/1/2004 10:00 PM (GMT -7)   
I am very blue learning of Mel's passing.  Mike sent me an email to let me know this morning.  He said she was in no pain and was totally aware.  I feel so bad that Ian will not have his mommy as he grows up.  Hopefully Mike and the rest of the family will keep her memory alive for him.
 
This is such a hard time of year to be mourning the loss of a loved one, but I know by moving "home" they have a lot of support around them.
 
Michelle, I will send a check your way tomorrow.  Thanks for taking care of the flowers.
God Bless you and everyone.
 
Love, Kitty

postal2
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   Posted 12/1/2004 10:49 PM (GMT -7)   

Oh no, I knew this would be here one day soon. I am also relieved Melody is in a much better place, but we will all miss her until we see her again. That is one thing that keeps me at peace, is I know I will see my loved ones that have passed again. And that we will all be together someday.

I am going to paste something that Melody posted a long time ago. It was so moving to me that I saved it, and now I think she would like it posted again. We love you Melody. Now you have entered a tunnel of light. God bless you dear lady. I will see you later. L&H, Gail

 

 

Once upon a time I walked every day on a sunny path. The path was smooth and easy but I often complained about the sun shining in my eyes or the gravel poking my feet. One day, without warning, there was a huge hole in the path. I stepped right into it before I even saw it coming! Boom! I landed in a dark tunnel underneath the path. The floor of the tunnel was covered with thick sticky mud. I was so shocked and upset about landing in this dark tunnel that I wanted to just sit there for a while and get used to the idea. However, I realized that if I sat there very long, I would become mired in the mud and would never be able to move. So, slowly and painfully, I got up. I looked around and saw that there was no way to get out of the tunnel and back to my sunny path so I started to walk down the tunnel. It was so dark I could hardly see anything so I just hoped I was going in the right direction. The mud was so thick it was hard to walk but I kept going. As I walked, it seemed that the mud got a little thinner and it became easier to walk, although there were always spots were the mud was thicker and deeper. I soon learned, though, that these spots were only a part of the tunnel and if I kept walking I got through them. My eyes began to adjust to the darkness and I could see that there were beautiful flowers along the edge of the tunnel path. How did they grow in that tunnel? I don't know, but as I looked closer I realized that they were the very same flowers that grew along the sunny path I had walked every day. I had never realized just how beautiful and fragrant they were. I also began to notice that imbedded in the walls of the tunnel there were beautiful jewels. Each of these jewels glowed with an inner light of its own and as I focused on them, I began to see that they were providing light to the tunnel path so that I could better see were I was going. Sometimes a jewel would fall off the wall and become covered with the mud from the tunnel floor. I would do my best to pick the jewel up, rub it clean so that it shone again, and put it back into its place in the wall. I still walk in this tunnel and I realize now that I will probably never be back on that sunny path. But as I walk, I enjoy the flowers often and I am oh so thankful for the jewels which help to light my way.

Hugs,

Melody


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Ynkefan31
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   Posted 12/2/2004 4:09 AM (GMT -7)   
I am so sorry to read today abour our Mel. I will miss her. My deepest sympathies go out to her family and friends. Gail, thanks for posting that passage from Melody. SOmetimes we need reminding of certain things, that was one.
   

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Cathi
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   Posted 12/2/2004 5:19 AM (GMT -7)   
Thanks for letting us know Mikki....I am so sad that we lost
our Mel...She was a precious lovely, proud woman who
adored her son. It was an honor to have known her.

I am just so sad.....dont know what else to say.

Sadly,

Cathi

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gma
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   Posted 12/2/2004 7:23 AM (GMT -7)   
Gail, I don't remember that story, I am so glad you saved it and shared it with us. It really sounds like Mel's attitude through all the months of her journey in the tunnel. Thanks so much for giving it to us. Hugs and prayers, MK


Jo-Ann
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   Posted 12/2/2004 8:08 AM (GMT -7)   
Gail, Thank you so much for Mel's post. What a piece of inspiration in a dark time. She was truly a warrior. They say that no one is dead until they are forgotten. Mel will stay with us a long, long time.
 
Hugs, Jo-Ann
A good friend will bail you out of jail...
but a true friend will be sitting
next to you saying,
"Dâmn... that was fun!".


akdk
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   Posted 12/2/2004 10:51 AM (GMT -7)   
I am so sorry yet another amazing lady is no longer with us.
However, I do believe she is going to be looking over all of you.
My most sincere sympathy,
Kim
Kim
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coopfesta
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   Posted 12/2/2004 10:56 AM (GMT -7)   
Gail:
 
Thank you so much for Mel's post.  I was really affected by it.  I hope she is in a better place.  My hopes and prayers out to her family and friends.
"Our greatest glory is not in never falling, but in rising every time we fall." -Confucius

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ardee
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   Posted 12/2/2004 11:06 AM (GMT -7)   
Mikki, Thanks so much for letting us know. MK called me yesterday and told me, and I've just now found the time and energy to post.

MK, thanks for our conversation.

Gail, I'm so glad you posted that story from Melody. What a touching story, and how like Mel.

Love to all,

Rita


barkyboys
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   Posted 12/2/2004 1:12 PM (GMT -7)   
A lovely post, Michele.  You said perfectly all that my heart is feeling. 
 
So sad for her family.  She was an angel on earth.
 
Love and hugs...
BEV 
 
 
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