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sherryg
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   Posted 12/5/2004 11:09 PM (GMT -7)   
I am new to this site and hoped i would never have to look for support in this area but it looks like i might. I am 37 and my doctor said lets go on and get a baseline mammo since i was getting close to 40. Usually, i put these things off but i went on and did it and WHAM! They found a 3cm "spiculated"? lesion and clusters of microcalcifications and to top it all off suspicious lymph nodes the film. Needless to say i was a wreck when the radiologist sent me directly to my dr and two days later had a biopsy which was Friday. I am supposed to get results Tuesday.
 
I got to read the radiologists report which probably wasn't the best thing i could do but i think it is helping me be realistic about the situation. I am in limbo right now with crying jags when i am alone and trying to stay busy in the meantime.
 
I just wanted to post this so i wouldn't be so afraid to come tuesday if the results are what i think they are. Thanks for listening.

postal2
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   Posted 12/6/2004 12:35 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi Sherry, Welcome, although I hope you find out Tues. that you do not need to come here. If you do, however, you couldn't have found a nicer bunch of ladies, who will help you get through it. There is a lot of knowledge and experiences here and ladies who will hold your hand when you need it, let you scream, yell, vent, cry, whatever you need to do. We have all been where you are today and know how scared you are. Waiting is the worst part. We will wait with you, and please let us know how you are. L&H, Gail
 It's only when we truly know and understand that we have a limited time on earth -- and that we have no way of knowing when our time is up, we will then begin to live each day to the fullest, as if it was the only one we had.   Elisabeth Kubler Ross


Candy
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   Posted 12/6/2004 5:27 AM (GMT -7)   

Hello Sherry,

So glad that you found us, but hopefully you will not have to stay.  One of the things we have found on this board is that we all have to wait.  Hurry up and wait.  Along with Gail you will find all of us waiting with you.  Please let us know as soon as you can about the results. 

What you are experiencing is very normal.  Please share with someone that is close to you.  I hope that you find lots of support from family, friends, your doctors and their staffs, and from us here.  We want to support you and help you. 

Reading the reports is for some a very good thing to do.  When you are ready, please study and research.  Knowledge is power and knowledge takes some of the fear away.  If you are having any questions find the answers, it helps. 

Please do not be afraid to come to us.  We are hear listening all the time.  There is always someone here that can help you specifically and all of us to support you.  You will find lots of "breast friends" here.  We love you already and look forward to hearing your news.  We will be chanting B-9  (benign).

Love, hugs, and prayers,

Candy 



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sherryg
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   Posted 12/6/2004 6:18 AM (GMT -7)   
Thanks so much for your support. Right now, I am just trying to keep things as normal as possible and trying to stay busy. I have given my kids (according to their age), bits of information just to let them know something. I was 12 when my mother was diagnosed with cervical cancer and I know that kids pick up on things and leaving them in the dark is not fair. I will not use the word cancer until it is diagnosed as such. My way of coping is I am preparing myself for the worst and hoping for the best. My husband is wonderfully supportive (although in a little denial) and I have alot of family but sometimes you can't vent what you are really feeling. They don't want to hear that my gut instinct says I have cancer. I know that attitude is half the battle and I have alot to fight for. Thanks again for your words of encouragement........................Sherry

Tavish
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   Posted 12/6/2004 7:13 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi Sherry-
You are smart, I can tell! I have the same mantra, to prepare for the worst and hope for the best...or even expect the best!

I was diagnosed a week before my 31st birthday 5 years ago, and there is no easy way to get this information. One day at a time, one test at a time. Worrying will not change the outcome, and will only make you nuts, so trying to stay busy is a great way to cope.

We'll be waiting with you and will be here to hold your hand or celebrate, whichever way it goes.

If you read our roll call post at the top, you can find out about us and our diagnoses, home states, etc.

Hang in there!
Lori


MNlady13
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   Posted 12/6/2004 7:55 AM (GMT -7)   
Sherry, all I can do is echo the words of Gail, Candy and Lori. I know that this is a worrisome time for you, but we are right by your side. Everyone here has been through the waiting and hoping. No matter what the outcome of the biopsy, you are a strong person and will manage whatever lies ahead for you. Adding my voice to the benign chant. Please keep us posted. Take care, Lauri
"Go confidently into the direction of your dreams. Live the life you always imagined" Thoreau
 
Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away.


babyseeester
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   Posted 12/6/2004 11:13 AM (GMT -7)   
I can only second the words of the ladies here.  Knowledge is power and this is a great place to get that knowledge.  I am somewhat new here myself, having just been diagnosed in September.  This place has been a great help to me.  I've learned many things from these wonderful women.  Most importantly - you are not alone and ATTITUDE IS EVERYTHING! 
 
We are all here for you and hoping it turns out to be nothing.  You sound like you have things in the right perspective, so keep it up!
 
Hugs,
Kathy


gma
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   Posted 12/6/2004 5:35 PM (GMT -7)   
Welcome. I think, too, that you have a good attitude. Spiculated is a very fancy word that is usually used with the term "suspicious". The key is to take action and have a lumpectomy or whatever is advised. Early detection is quite often most important. Hooray for the doctor who sent you for a baseline at your young age, so many do not. We will be here waiting to hear the results and help in any way we can. Hugs and prayers that your news is good. Mary K.


coopfesta
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   Posted 12/6/2004 5:41 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi Sherry
 
I was 38 last year when my husband found a lump.  I really related to you.  I have just gone through the treatments and now, a year later, am on the other side of it, and doing fine.  I'm hoping they find what we call a pork chop bone in there tomorrow instead of what you're fearing, but just in case, know that you'll have us there thinking of you, with you, ready to support you. 
 
I really used this site, and it really helped me.  I live in rural new york, and there isn't much around.  The women on this site really helped me, my husband wasn't as supportive as yours, you're a lucky woman.  I have a son, too, and he had a hard time with it, but we talk about it in the past tense now. 
 
Please feel free to post about what you're dealing with.  Let us know tomorrow what's up. 
"Our greatest glory is not in never falling, but in rising every time we fall." -Confucius

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tking
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   Posted 12/6/2004 5:55 PM (GMT -7)   

Sherry,

Sorry you've had to visit us here but it's a good place for support and answers.  I had my first round with bc when I was 38.  It wasn't fun but survivable!!!  I hope that everything is fine when you get results but be glad that your radiologist could actually read your mammo.  My second round with bc was this year.  My mammo in beg of Feb. was NORMAL and then blood work the third week of Feb. showed elevated tumor markers which led to PET which led to diagnosis.  My brother-in-law read my mammo and said that the tumor was OBVIOUS....but missed my our radiologists in my hometown.  So at least yours can read.... Let us know your results.  We will praying for the best possible results!!!


Teresa King

Jeremiah 29:11 - "For I know the plans I have for you," declares the Lord, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future."

(NIV)


Tamaralynn59
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   Posted 12/7/2004 6:07 AM (GMT -7)   
Sherry
I know exactly how you feel.  I found a lump about a few weeks ago.  Yesterday I went to get an exam and the doc is sending me to a surgeon.  I'm scared to death they are going to find something.  I will be scheduled for a mammo soon I hope.  I've been searching online all morning trying to find a place where I can talk to others who have been thru this and now I've found it but I can't figure out how to post.
My name is Tammy.


Tamaralynn

Post Edited (Tamaralynn59) : 12/7/2004 6:11:57 AM (GMT-7)


gma
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   Posted 12/7/2004 6:38 AM (GMT -7)   
Tammy, welcome to you, too! You posted just fine. Remember that there are benign lumps, too. I had two twenty years apart before being diagnosed with breast cancer. My daughter was diagnosed also at age 39. I am glad to hear your doctor is sending you to a surgeon who most likely will do a biopsy. A biopsy is the only true way of knowing what that lump is. I was in the hospital three days with my first biopsy, lol can you tell that was a long time ago? Now they are done on an outpatient basis and you can go to work the next day. Please be sure to let us know your results. We love good news, so come back and tell us even if the dr says it is benign. Hugs, Mary K.


Tamaralynn59
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   Posted 12/7/2004 6:44 AM (GMT -7)   
Mary K
Thank you for replying so quickly.  I'm trying to keep a positive attitude.  I guess it is a good thing that I'm going to a surgeon, then I'll know for sure.  I was looking at it like oh no this is a bad thing, but really its a good one, going to the surgeon, I mean.  I'm not sure what's going to happen, but I just know I can't afford to miss any work.  I'm single and self supporting, no insurance, as of yet, and ....need I go on? 
Thanks and I'll keep in touch. 
Tammy
Tamaralynn


gma
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   Posted 12/7/2004 6:48 AM (GMT -7)   
Many girls here are single and self supporting and should you need any pointers in that direction, I am sure you will find help, but hopefully you won't. We'll cross that bridge down the road when we know the story. Hugs Mary K MK for short.


Tamaralynn59
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   Posted 12/7/2004 6:51 AM (GMT -7)   
MaryK
Thanks, that's good to know.  I do have a question.  I know I posted an answer to Sherry but how do I start a new one that everyone can read?   Tammy
Tamaralynn


gma
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   Posted 12/7/2004 7:23 AM (GMT -7)   
Go to top of page and see new topic and click on that. You will start a new thread. Also in the top three threads which are constant there is one called Roll Call which tells about members of this board. You can see where we are from, ages, a a little info. Feel free to post your name, etc., too. Hugs Mk


sherryg
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   Posted 12/7/2004 8:15 AM (GMT -7)   
I just wanted to check in with you all before I go into my surgeon this afternoon. Has anyone out there ever felt in their gut what the results are and were you right?
 
These last few days have been absolutely terrible but since coming to this site, i feel a sense of peace that i haven't had since Wednesday. This may change this afternoon but knowing i have a place to vent and cry and scream, helps so much.
 
And yes, Mary, many kudos to my doc who sent me. I always complained about him being so conservative everytime we went to him. It always seemed he was overdoing tests and referrals. Well, lol, I will NEVER complain again. He will be getting a special christmas goodie bag from me this year.
 
I will post my results later today or possibly tomorrow. Thank you all for your prayers.
 
Counting my blessings, one by one.
 
*********************Sherry***************

Tamaralynn59
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   Posted 12/7/2004 8:19 AM (GMT -7)   
I'll be doing that soon, too.  I'm waiting to hear this morning when my surgeon's appt is and when my mammo is.  I hope it's soon.  I don't know if I can wait very long without going crazy. 
Tamaralynn


sherryg
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   Posted 12/7/2004 8:37 AM (GMT -7)   
Tamaralynn, hang in there this waiting is for the birds. I was lucky. I went for my mammo and they set me up with a surgeon that very day but only because I told them that i wanted to be seen NOW. I am not usually that aggressive but it paid off. Mammo was on Wed am and surgeon was that afternoon and biopsy was Friday. i get results today.

Please keep posting like i am even though i do not have a diagnosis yet but it has made the waiting bearable. It seems i have become obsessed with this disease and want to talk. Family and friends are wonderful but they can't relate and they don't want to talk about it until they know its there sometimes not even then.

I am so sorry you may be facing this with the situation you are in. But there is help out there and even if i find out i don't have cancer, I will be checking in on you here.......Keep posting..............Sherry

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   Posted 12/7/2004 9:30 AM (GMT -7)   
Sherry and Tamaralyn, I'm hoping neither one of you will need our board, BUT if it turns out that you do, this is the best place for support and information.

Sherry, I'll be waiting for that post later today. Waiting is the worst; once you know something either way you can either take a deep breath and celebrate OR take a deep breath and swing into fighting mode. Keep strong.

Tamaralyn, hope that appt. is scheduled quickly. As I said waiting is difficult. It doesn't hurt to be aggressive in a nice way.

Sending you both hugs from here, Luci
In the depth of winter, I finally learned that within me lay an invincible summer.  Albert Camus


gma
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   Posted 12/7/2004 12:17 PM (GMT -7)   
Yes Sherry, I knew going into surgery that it would be breast cancer, but then I had had two benign lumps biospied and going into surgery for those I had not heard from the surgeon what I heard the last time. I knew and told everyone that it would be cancer, and of course everyone said no way do you know. But I did. And altho I am not a nurse, I had half the training before leaving for marriage back in the 50s when you weren't allowed to marry. LOL. I had OR training and worked after leaving as an OR tech, so I knew what I was dealing with. We have some nurses on board here, too. Most active are Mikki and Connie. Connie has been having some treatment and problems lately and hasn't posted a lot. Mikki has a website listed under her posts, so check that out, too. Good luck at your appointment. Not knowing where you are I don't know your time vs my time. I'm in TX. And several of us have had a peace about the whole experience. Hugs, MK

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