Hi. I am glad that you posted. I also have Stage IV bc, mets to the bone. A very small spot was found on my sacrum and after a biopsy, it was found to be the same cell as my bc.
I was first diagnosed w/ bc in 2001. I have a modified, radical mastectomy. I had 19 of 21 lymph nodes positive. I went thru 6 months of chemo and 36 radiation treatments. I was fine for a year and then one of my blood tests showed that there was cancer again. I am currently on a 6 week regiment of chemo. It is a very easy chemo and I have very few side affects. I will continue to be on this until it stops working (8 yrs so far and all is good). But there is another treatment waiting that has been proven to work.
it is very important for your mom to find an oncologist that she really trusts..one that feels he/she can help her. She can't be afraid to keep interviewing until she finds the right one. Have her make a list of questions. Take a small tape recorder if you have one and record the interview. Also, it is a great advantage if one or more persons go w/ her to the appointment. There will be so much info given that it takes more than one person to remember everything.
This is NOT a death sentence. She will have her ups and downs but it sounds as though she is going to have a wonderful support system. She has you, her daughter, that has taken the time to find us and ask questions. Don't hesitate to come back and ask anything that you want. No question is to silly to ask.
Sending prayers and lots of positive thoughts