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barkyboys
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   Posted 4/7/2010 6:16 PM (GMT -7)   
Have been off to NY and NC to see my kids and grandbaby. Came home late Sunday night, only to have a state trooper pick me up at the airport so I could drive my husband home, he was so sick. Took him to the ER and he has been in intensive care since. He had a "raging" (one of those darned medical terms!) case of pneumonia and kidneys were on the verge of shutting down, he was so dehydrated. To think, I trusted him to take care of the dogs, and he couldn't even take care of himself! He is doing much better, thanks to IV fluids and antibiotics, but they plan to keep him in ICU til at least the end of the week. Oxygen sats are still low, even with 100% oxygen going in. I just had to come home early tonight, I was so worn out. Anyway... that's how my life seems to go! Always an adventure just around the corner!

Hugs to all the breast friends...
BEV
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Lmmackey
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   Posted 4/8/2010 12:03 PM (GMT -7)   
Bev, Certainly not the news I'm sure you wanted, nor the circumstances. Know that I am thinking about you both and for a speedy recovery for your SO! Take care!!
Lauré
The finger of God touches your life when you make a friend.
----Mary Dawson Hughes---


barkyboys
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   Posted 4/11/2010 11:53 AM (GMT -7)   
Finally, we're doing a bit better here. Out of ICU, anyway. He now has congestive heart failure, but they are managing it. I took a much needed break and let some trusted friends sit with him while I went to the store, got some laundry done, and checked on things here in cyberspace.

Love and hugs...
BEV
"There's a difference between a philosophy and a bumper sticker."  --Charles Schulz


Lmmackey
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   Posted 4/11/2010 5:59 PM (GMT -7)   
So what does that mean? Is it manageable with medication? How old is he? Glad you've got some friends nearby for a break. We certainly have our trials and tribulations here on earth, don't we? Keep us posted and please take care of yourself!!

Lauré
The finger of God touches your life when you make a friend.
----Mary Dawson Hughes---


worryhusband
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   Posted 12/1/2010 3:59 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi Bev and the other ladies,
Bev you seem like a smart and loving woman. Your husband is very lucky. As you can see I'm a new member. I posted last week about my wife's biopsy. Well our worst fears are now reality. My wife 41 has breast cancer. We found out yesterday at 6pm. I know I have to stay strong for her but I am a broken man. I've been crying like a baby for the last hour, can't sleep. Guess what? She's sleeping. It's just like her to be strong. However I can see she's scared. I sure mostly for the kids. The only good thing is she caught it early [no lump] Now she has to go through the cat scan, mri, gene testing to see if it's anywhere else. I know this sounds selfish but I can't believe this is happening to her. She's beautiful, kind, giving. She takes her vitamins, works out, eats fruits and vegetables. She participates in all her kids stuff. Positive thinker! I don't get it. I'm sure all you women out there are just as wonderful. I hope it works out. I'm so scared.
 

barkyboys
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   Posted 12/1/2010 12:06 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi, Worryhubby... I'm so sorry to hear about your wife's diagnosis. We all deal with things differently. Some of us cry, some of us scream and rage, and some of us shut it all out and sleep. I was 36 when I was diagnosed with breast cancer. My girls were in pre-teens. It was very hard, not knowing what to expect... if I was going to live long enough to see my girls grow up, that was my biggest fear. And you husbands, at least my husband, was even more afraid than I was. Suddenly, he had no control over our lives, our future...

I hope your wife has someone she can talk to. If not, send her here. I didn't know anyone who had had to make the decisions I made in that period of uncertainty. Had I had some of these ladies around, I may have made better informed choices.

Again, sorry to hear about the dx. My surgeon, at the time, told me, "this is not the end of the world." It sure felt like it to me at the time. But now I know he was right.

Hugs...
BEV

LdyJane
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   Posted 12/1/2010 6:24 PM (GMT -7)   
Dear Worryhubby. I post here and some other forums; the support you get is beyond priceless... This is early, there is hope, there is a tomorrow. My Husband, bless him, gave me my space, and kept me close; he participated in my discussions, my what if's, my fears. Start and keep a dialogue, take your cues from her. My sons are in their late 20's and early 30's and live far from home; they were terrified; a lot of support went to them. Go to her appointments with her, listen and help her remember what is said. Find the best care you can and keep looking forward.
You may think she's not afraid, but I know I was..not of the cancer, but for my husband, my kids and for my self image, of how my husband was going to see me...he told me all the time that he didn't marry my breasts, but it was still a difficult time..reassurance is a good thing.
I think the early stages of this are the worst, primarily because of the unknown and lack of knowledge; but we have gotten better; we just changed oncologists because I didn't care for the one I had and I'm feeling a lot more comfortable; my point here, is that you do still have some control. Stay with us!
Janice

worryhusband
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   Posted 12/1/2010 7:09 PM (GMT -7)   
Thanks Bev and Janice,
I will support her to the fullest. I will show her this site. If for some reason she doesn't participate I hope you girls don't care if I write on this forum. Men are ok on this site, right? I have great family support but I'm just so sad I don't want to bring down them or my wife. My heart is broken. Your words are very comforting and reading the other stories are so encouraging.
Thanks so much Mike

Candy
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   Posted 6/6/2011 12:49 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi Bev,

Wanted to know how your husband is doing. I hope much better.

Blessings,

Candy

barkyboys
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   Posted 6/6/2011 5:45 PM (GMT -7)   
He is doing much better. He has good days and bad days. The hot, humid weather is very hard on him, and of course, he is too stubborn to stay inside in the air conditioning. I'm heading for Missouri for a few days to see my mom sibs, and I'll be leaving him in charge of the dogs. Again! This time, I'll have an appointed person to check on him and make sure he's staying healthy. Cross your fingers for me that he doesn't wind up in the hospital again!

And how is Candy??? Hope you're doing well. I miss you hanging around here! Board is pretty slow these days...

Thanks for checking on us!
Hugs...
BEV

kfleming1
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   Posted 6/8/2011 10:48 AM (GMT -7)   
does anyone in this thread have experience of use of a human hair wig?
thanks so much.

barkyboys
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   Posted 6/8/2011 2:02 PM (GMT -7)   
Sorry... my insurance wouldn't pay that much... LOL I was a wig-hater, though, and I don't know that human hair would have been much better.

BEV

kfleming1
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   Posted 6/10/2011 7:02 AM (GMT -7)   
oh.. just cos i've found somewhere that 'ethically sources' theirs.. still not too sure what that means though!

kfleming1
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   Posted 6/24/2011 11:34 AM (GMT -7)   
does anyone know about ehtically sourced hair?

robcavil1
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   Posted 8/21/2011 10:06 AM (GMT -7)   
I wear an ethically sourced human hair wig. Would be happy to discuss as I am very pleased with it.
Robert

kfleming1
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   Posted 8/22/2011 10:59 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi there. How do you know the hair is ethically sourced? Where did you purchase it? I am based in London.
Thanks Robert.

robcavil1
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   Posted 8/23/2011 8:11 AM (GMT -7)   
It took a long while for me to find ethically sourced hair, but eventually I was lead to Bloomsbury Wigs. They have a London salon in Northington Street (near Chancery Lane station).
I know that the hair is ethically sourced as the company have their own 'hair harvest' procedure whereby the wigs that they make are made solely from hair donated by those willing to sell their hair to the company for a personal profit.
I found the website - www.hairharvest.co.uk and went from there.
Robert

kfleming1
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   Posted 8/29/2011 4:58 AM (GMT -7)   
Thanks Robert, it has also taken me forever to find somewhere that can prove they ethically source their hair, it is an issue that bothers me greatly so that was the first step I wanted to take in terms of purchasing a hair piece.
What is your hair piece like and how was it applied?
I suffer from alopecia and am very interested in going for a hair replacement procedure... any tips?
Thanks!

robcavil1
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   Posted 8/31/2011 10:50 AM (GMT -7)   
My hair piece is undetectable. It is natural and moves easily, while my original hair line is still showing. It was applied using a thin layer of polyurethane which acted as a base for the human hair strands to be individually knotted onto.
What type of alopecia are you experiencing?
Robert

kfleming1
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   Posted 9/2/2011 10:56 AM (GMT -7)   
This is really good to hear. I am very worried that I will put a lot of money and energy into a hair piece that I am not going to be fully satisfied with, so to know your experience is a relief!
I am suffering from the alopecia universalis, an all over loss of hair.

robcavil1
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   Posted 9/5/2011 4:27 AM (GMT -7)   
I felt the same, however I made sure I did as much research as I could before purchasing my piece. Visit www.onlinewigstore.co.uk to get a rough image of the range of pieces you can buy.
Robert
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