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   Posted 12/28/2004 5:33 AM (GMT -6)   
Hey guys
I went to the doc yesterday, and I have breast cancer!  I was so hoping the results would be good, but I had a feeling they weren't going to be. This week, I'm having a bunch of tests done, like a bone scan, a pet scan, a lymp node test....whatever.  Then either the end of this week or the beginning of the next, they are going to do a lumpectomy.  and other stuff i guess depending on results of the tests.  I will have to have radiation and chemo for about six weeks.  I've broken down a little bit but not really bad.  Right now I feel optimistic but I know i'll have my moments when i won't feel so good about it.  I"ll let you guys know more as I know.  Keep me in your prayers...

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   Posted 12/28/2004 8:38 AM (GMT -6)   
I am so sorry that you have had this diagnosis. Please know that every woman on this board has gone through what you are experiencing now and all are hoping that the rest of your tests come out on your side.
When you speak to the doctors, you might want to bring a recorder or have someone with you who can write things down. There is so much to know that it can sometimes be confusing. Radiation is usually for 6 1/2 weeks but chemo can be much longer depending on what the oncologist feels is necessary.
Most of us have had these tests before and know what you are going through. We also have something called the PCE and I will let Joyce let you know what that is. Hang on. You CAN make it through all of this.
Hugs, Jo-Ann
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but a true friend will be sitting
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"Dâmn... that was fun!".

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   Posted 12/28/2004 9:34 AM (GMT -6)   


I am sorry for the news.  We have all been through this so we know you can make it too.  Hang in there and stay strong.  We are here to help you and will be with you in spirit and prayer while you travel the road.  Please keep us up to date so that Joyce can get the PCE going.

Listen carefully and record everything the docs tell you and make sure you understand.  ASK,ASK,ASK every question you have.  There is no stupid question unless it is not asked!

With love and hugs,



Many Holiday Blessings to All



Life may not be the party

 we hoped for,

but while we are here we might as

well dance.

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   Posted 12/28/2004 9:57 AM (GMT -6)   


I have been checking everyday for your posts about your results and praying that they weren't this. I wish I could give you advice but since I am also newly diagnosed, I can only empathize with what you are going through. The ladies here have actually helped me more than anyone else by constantly reminding me everytime I click on this site that this is BEATABLE (is that a word LOL?)When I was diagnosed I broke down for days then i guess adrenaline kicked in because I knew I had a fight to prepare for. I have 5 children so NOTHING was going to ruin there Christmas. Well, now Christmas is over and reality is setting in again. I don't cry like I did in the beginning but when I do need to, I do. Then I get up and keep going. I hope you have some friends and family who are supportive. Other than my newfound friends here, I am surrounded by a great support network. I will be checking often for your posts and know that you are not alone. Even though my surgeon said I could have a lumpectomy, my once recommended the mast. I too have to go through chemo regardless of lymph node results because of my age. Only my left breast is affected but I want them both gone. My Dr. has sent a letter of "medical necessity" to my insurance and we are praying they will okay the bilateral. They already denied my genetic testing so I'm not counting on it but hopeful. I am to see a plastic surgeon on Monday and my surgery will be around the 2 or 3 week in January. I didn't really want to wait this long but I just couldn't do that to my kids at Christmas time. Their ages range from 24 to 5.  I am thinking of you and will pray for you everyday.


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   Posted 12/28/2004 10:31 AM (GMT -6)   
Even if you have received the diagnosis of breast cancer, you can still get good news with more pathology work ups. Good news is when there are no lymph nodes involved, good news is even when just a few lymph nodes are involved as opposed to many. Good news is the type or staging of the cancer to be one of the lower grades. Good news is when you don't have one of the more aggressive forms of breast cancer. So keep all this in mind as you have emotional turmoil. Of course the very best news is that there is no breast cancer at all, but now that you know there is you go on with hope and take aggressive action to fight what you do have. We are here to help in any way we can. Sorry you have had to deal with this at all. Many prayers and hugs, MK

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   Posted 12/28/2004 1:15 PM (GMT -6)   
I am so sorry to hear this.... please accept a big hug from me ((((Tamaralynn)))))... this is the beginning of a journey we all know you'd rather not be on... but we are all here holding hands and helping one another. The only advice I can add to what's already been said is to really try to take one day at a time, not to worry TOO MUCH about the future (which is practically impossible when you're first diagnosed), and concentrate on being a good patient (ie. ASK questions! talk about options! different treatment plans!) and get an onc you have a great rapport with and trust. I can't tell you how many times my onc has looked at me and said "you're gonna make it".... that fuels me like no one else; she is my angel! Her hugs give me faith and strength. Find that in yourself, your family, and hold on tight. You are stronger than you ever imagined you could be, and this journey will prove it.

"It's been worth everything I've been through,
 To do what I do"

                       To Do What I Do   -Alan Jackson, 2004

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   Posted 12/28/2004 2:25 PM (GMT -6)   
Of course this is not the news you wanted to hear, but it is doable. Just listen to everyone who has been through this experience (and to those who continue to get treatment). I have a feeling that you are a strong person and will fight like heck. It is all right to cry and rage against the injustices of life, but then surround yourself with the love and support we have to offer, lift up you chin and move forward. Sending prayers and hugs, Lauri

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   Posted 12/28/2004 7:33 PM (GMT -6)   

I'm sorry you had such bad news, but it certainly isn't the end of the world. I had a lumpectomy about 18 months ago. It really isn't bad. And we'll be here the whole time, ready to hold your hand or offer a shoulder to cry on.

Hugs, prayers, and best wishes,

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   Posted 12/28/2004 9:47 PM (GMT -6)   


So sorry you have to go through this mess. Learn all that you can about your cancer. Knowledge will help you in making informed decisions, as well as to help eliminate a lot of the fear of the unknown. We have all been through so much. If you have questions about what is ahead for you, do not hesitate to ask. I am sure that I or someone else will be able to answer many questions that you may have. My thoughts and prayers are with you, dear.



I would like to know...Where is the cure???

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   Posted 12/28/2004 10:25 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi TL....sorry you had to join our club, but hey, we're a pretty cool group in spite of the disease! The others have given you great advice! My personal favorites were making lists of questions after reading in Dr. Susan Love's Breast armed me with information which I craved. I brought a tape recorder with me which was a huge asset...I could cry and ask questions, then listen to the answers later. Also, I suggest reading a little at a time...if you read more than pertains to your situation, you may add unneccessary worry and anxiety. Last, listen to these ladies...but do not assume that all of our experiences will be yours. No two experience feelings, side effects, etc the same way. We might warn you of possible bumps in the road, but only time will tell how you experience things.

And there are tons of positive stories out there, just ask us!

No question is dumb....ask us whatever you need to, even if it is only for prayers.

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   Posted 12/30/2004 4:06 AM (GMT -6)   
{{{{{{{Tamaralynn}}}}}}}} they ladies pretty well said it all, but I wanted to add my hugs and say hang in there sweetie, it will get better in time. L&H, Gail
 It's only when we truly know and understand that we have a limited time on earth -- and that we have no way of knowing when our time is up, we will then begin to live each day to the fullest, as if it was the only one we had.   Elisabeth Kubler Ross

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