I had my mastectomy at 30 and my daugther was only 20 months old, so I decided on delayed reconstruction. I didn't want to take longer to recover than was necessary. I had the mast, then radiation. I didn't have recon. until 1 1/2 years later. At the time of recon. I had prophylactic mast. on "healthy" breast and had them both reconstructed. I had to have a lat. flap on my bc side because there was no tissue. It wasn't an easy surgery, but I don't regret waiting. It really didn't bother me to not have the breast. I wore a prosthesis that actually stuck onto my skin, so it looked and felt pretty normal. Hope this helps.
PS- My daughter is also 6.... what fun they are!
Do not go gentle into that goodnight,
Rage, rage against the dying of the light.