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   Posted 3/1/2005 8:32 PM (GMT -6)   
And she has not a clue.  Seems my DFIL didn't tell her.  I almost told her before I realized.  I got my DFIL on the phone and in encrypted language, he said he didn't tell her.  I said I wouldn't tell her, that I would say I was getting an ovary checked and maybe removedand he said "ok".  I had mentioned that I was grateful she called me and that my imagination had been going strong about her being catholic, and then had stopped when I realized she was clueless before getting him on the phone.  I explained the remark by saying that some catholics believe in no reproductive surgeries, and she said "but not for your health, I'm not like that."
Went crazy for maybe a half hour before I broke down and called back.  Asked to speak with him.  He said it was nothing like what I was thinking, that he just thought I would want to tell her myself if I wanted her to know.  He said to be at peace and that they weren't angry at all and I asked him to tell her.  
They just aren't built like me I guess.  My family has always been very open.  I tell mom and she tells everyone else.  Bob's family is probably private.  Trouble is, no communication, no support, and thoughts run wild. 
"Our greatest glory is not in never falling, but in rising every time we fall." -Confucius


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   Posted 3/1/2005 8:42 PM (GMT -6)   
Seems like you wasted a good worry.  LOL  Funny how our imaginations can run wild and we just need the other person to tell us what is going on.
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now you do yours and get us that cure.

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   Posted 3/2/2005 7:57 AM (GMT -6)   


Remember that we always advise the newbies that everyone that they are in contact with will handle the news differently.  It takes some a long time to get it all in perspective and be able to help and support you.  This is not any different except that our spirituality and faith systems encourages us to meditate over the situation, such as this, more deeply.  It is so personal.  Between you and God.  The rest of us, including your in-laws, have to pray for you and yours, which I do.

Love and hugs,



 Perfume and incense bring joy to the heart, and the pleasantness of one's friend springs from his earnest counsel.

Proverbs 27:9

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   Posted 3/2/2005 10:10 AM (GMT -6)   
Remember my line, don't worry about something until you know you have something to worry about? I guess that would have worked in this case, too. I know you feel better being open rather than keeping everything to yourself. I am open, too, and my one sister in law is very closed about personal matters. Months, even years later she will mention something and I was completely in the dark, usually about her grown kids which all live distances from here. Me, I get on the phone and tell her all about my kids and what is going on. She won't discuss her health issues, either. She had a really strange very high blood pressure experience when hers is usually really low. Her doctor told her to tell her siblings who had low pressure about it because they could experience the same. She told us, then every time I would ask her how she was doing, she would get very upset and say "I am fine!!!." In other words don't ask me again. LOL Some of us need to talk and I guess some don't. Big hugs for a better day today, MK

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   Posted 3/2/2005 11:13 PM (GMT -6)   
Glad everything worked out OK in the in-law department. I'm probably not the best one to talk to about in-laws, since my ex's parents more resemble outlaws. I think about you constantly, and always say a prayer for you. Just a few more days, girlfriend. Hang in there.

Love you,

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