Hello and welcome! Don't feel like you are all alone with this problem. I know that many of us have experienced the same thing - whether it was right after the diagnosis, after surgery or during treatments. Well meaning friends and family can drive you straight up the wall. The one thing that I found worked for me was being very honest w/ everyone. I told them how I felt and what I needed. If they continued to call constantly, then I just stopped taking the calls. I let the answer machine do its job. There are some family members that I have absolutely no contact w/ now. Remind everyone that stress is not healthy for you and their calls are adding stress to your life. If there is anything that they need to know or anything that you need, you will contact them.
There is a book that I have found to have some great info in it. It is published by the U.S. Dept of Health and Human Services, National Institutes of Health and National Cancer Institute. It is called "Taking Time", Support for people w/ cancer and the people who care about them. I don't see a telephone number or address on the book. I got it from my onco office. There is some great info and I have found it to be helpful.
Hang in there. Remember, stand up for yourself and be honest w/ family members.
I had the same problems. I had some very good friends from work, church and family who called and brought food and checked on me but not TOO MUCH. I, also, had about 3 friends who almost suffocated me. I know that sounds harsh but I didn't want to talk about cancer all the time and I wanted to be as normal as possible. One friend in particular was always calling and wanting to come "sit" with me. That was fine but she always called when I was going out of town to a baseball tournament with my son. I kept thinking now why do I need someone to sit with me??? She also called one day and asked me for the name of a Hospice volunteer in our community - I was thinking "Hospice? How the Heck do I know? I've finished my chemo and tests and blood work is normal, I'm back at work full time and feeling great....haven't called in Hospice yet!" HA HA
I guess that sounds cruel but I just wanted to be treated normal. I'm just an average, middle-classed teacher who had bc. Ya know what I mean? I finally let my husband and boys know who I wanted to talk to or more to the point, who I Didn't want to talk to and they took care of the problem for me.
We know they all mean well and can't do anything else to help but you can't let them stress you too much.
Jeremiah 29:11 - "For I know the plans I have for you," declares the Lord, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future."
I would encourage finding someone who does the blood tests regularly because that's how my recurrence was detected.
As far as your family, maybe instead of talking to them, write them a letter. Just tell them how you feel and what you need right now. Then, leave it up to them. They may not realize how they're acting. We all lead such a busy life nowadays that sometimes we don't see the obvious. If that doesn't get their attention, then just leave it for now. Your most important job right now is to take care of yourself!!!
As for the hair, it will grow back. I didn't have the same treatment that you did so I can't offer a timeline. I had Taxotere - finished in August and didn't take off the wig until Feb. or March, can't really remember right now.
Hang in there - you will make it. Remember to take care of yourself!