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   Posted 6/26/2005 6:22 PM (GMT -6)   
slapping the crap out of them? I saw something today at the Walmart and didn't say anything but still got angry. There was a woman there, about 10 years younger than me, with her mother, maybe 10 years older than me. As I walked by them, the younger one was yelling at her mother saying, "DO YOU KNOW WHAT TOMORROW IS? DO YOU ACTUALLY KNOW WHAT TOMORROW IS?".

I'm thinking that it must be a family event maybe even a birthday but then the b*tch starts yelling, "IT'S MONDAY, GD IT, IT'S MONDAY AND YOU DIDN'T EVEN KNOW THAT!". I really came pretty close to grabbing her. Living up here alone, I don't always know what tomorrow is. In fact, I think I'm doing pretty good just knowing what today is.

If there is truly a higher justice, I hope to be in a walker someday at that Walmart and find her daughter treating her that way. I just can't see an excuse for that. Knowing that I forget things scares me enough and I'm sure it scares that mother. We sure as h#ll don't need to be harassed about it.

I'm getting off the soap box.

Still irate, Jo-Ann
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   Posted 6/26/2005 9:31 PM (GMT -6)   
I would have said something, I cannot hold my tongue in a situation like that. I once thought an older man was gonna deck me when I criticized his handling of his dog. He told me it was his business how he handles his dog, and I said when he chokes him and yanks him like that it was mine too. We cross the street to avoid each other now when we walk, but boy is it hard to not say anything sometimes. The only reason I keep my mouth shut in those public situations is that I am not sure who is packing heat.


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   Posted 6/27/2005 12:24 AM (GMT -6)   
Jo-Ann: I usually don't hold my tongue when I see a situation that deals w/ the elderly or children.  I also can't hold my tongue when a kid (age doesn't matter) is rude to me. My ddsays that I am going to be killed one of these days for opening my mouth. Well, so be it. I cannot stand to see abuse..physical or mental. If you are ever witness to something like that again, go find a manager and tell them. Not only has my memory gone to he@@ but I have less than 1% hearing in my left ear now. My family has to either repeat themselves or scream. If we are in a place that is noisey, then forget it.

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   Posted 6/27/2005 6:50 AM (GMT -6)   
Jo-Ann, I have gone up to the person involved and asked their name. They immediately ask why you want to know. I explain it is obvious to everyone in the store that the stress is getting to you, and I thought I might help. I then explain I will have the local support group for caregivers get in touch with her. If this does not work and make her realize how out of control she is, forget support go directly to the senior abuse line. I also hope you have your friends, S&W with you. A good way to get the name if this is not a person you want to take on is get behind her in line and when she runs her charge through say " Hi, I know you, you are Jane Smith right? Chances are excellent that the cashier will realize that is not the name on the charge and she will have to get her license out and prove to the cashier who she is. This way chances are good you can end up getting her name, and never have to confront her. Signed the chicken livered defender of the underdog.
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   Posted 6/27/2005 7:57 AM (GMT -6)   
Ha Ha you guys are all too much. I feel that if a person is ugly to begin with aggrevating them is not going to help the person they are being ugly to. I could be wrong, but .. I just saw a piece on our local news where a man left his little dashound sp? in the car while he went into a restaurant to eat. It was 90 degrees and a policeman was there and told him along with some other people how dogs don't sweat, etc. and told him he should not leave his dog in the car. After all that he went back into the restaurant and finished his meal just to prove the dog could make it. Fortunately the dog did make it. See what I mean, even an explanation by a cop made no difference to this guy. What a creep. Poor little dog probably gets kicked when he is feeling extra mean. MK

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   Posted 6/27/2005 3:45 PM (GMT -6)   
Jo-Ann, How awful for anyone to see that kind of abuse. Chances are no matter you say, that idiot is going to keep abusing her mother. It's hard not to say anything, I know. But we never know what really goes on between closed doors, do we? If this woman treated her mother like that in public where everyone can see and hear her, do you think she's any kinder at home when she's all alone?? You have such a good heart; I wish I could just hug you. Love, Luci
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   Posted 6/27/2005 6:49 PM (GMT -6)   
I wish I had the nerve to say something to some of these people. But if they treat family like that, what will they do to strangers???? But I probably would attempt to do something. It must be my training as a teacher. We're born interventionists.

It's such a crime to treat people like that. My mother can drive me crazy in a matter of minutes, but I could never imagine myself yelling at her like that. I agree with Lucy. You have a good heart Jo-Ann. Hugs to you both.


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   Posted 6/30/2005 12:58 PM (GMT -6)   
Wow, You have all said it all, but I just thought I'd chime in. As a daughter whose mom has Alzheimers as my grandmother did, I would have wanted to deck her too. You all had good suggestions. I don't know what I would have done either. I usually think of things to say too late. I have an elder abuse counselor in Sunday school sometimes. I should ask her what to do the next time I see her. I'll make a note of it. Thanks, Jo-Ann. Love, Di
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