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skeeter1
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Date Joined Jun 2005
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   Posted 9/26/2005 10:43 AM (GMT -7)   
I am so discouraged and upset. I decided now that my hair is growing some I would go without my wig. My hair is short, very short but if feels better to be without the wig in such hot weather. It itched all the time and I would feel the sweat under it. Well anyway I went to the car dealer and to the store today feeling pretty good but some people are so rude. They were just rude to me and treated me like a second class citizen. I think it was my hair I really do. I think they though I was a freak or something and treated me bad it made me cry when I got in the car. I just wanted to share how I felt this morning. It helps to get it off my chest. thanks for listening...skeeter1

debbiR
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   Posted 9/26/2005 11:05 AM (GMT -7)   

Hey, congrats on your new hair! I bet that you look great w/ it. Aren't you surprised at how soft it is? I know how you are feeling right now. And it is good that you cried and got it out of your system. People can be cruel w/out realizing it. Just the stares alone can make you feel, as you said, "like a 2nd class citizen". First, and foremost, remember the battle that you have fought and all that you have endured to get that new hair. Don't let these few idiots stop you from proudly showing it. I can remember one night I was really stressed. So, I decided to go to WalMart and walk thru the Christmas decorations. (I am nuts over Christmas and just looking at the decorations puts me in a great mood). I left the house w/ just my sweatshirt and no bra or prothesis. I am walking up and down the aisles and notice that this man just keeps staring at me. I wondered if I knew him and had just forgotten his name (chemo brain) every aisle I would go in he would be there. I finally realized that he was staring at my lopsided chest. As I said earlier, I was in a horrid mood. I looked at him and said "OMG...my boob is gone. Have you seen it anywhere????" Well, he turned bright red, took off and I didn't see him following me again. Try and face these little things w/ humor if possible. It will make you feel better and the idiots feel more ignorant than they are!

Hugs...Deb


 


Skky
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Date Joined Mar 2005
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   Posted 9/26/2005 12:03 PM (GMT -7)   
Skeeter,
First of all I want to commend you on having the courage to go without your wig. My hair is just under an inch, and Im preparing myself for the same. I have not been out in public even once without it, unless I was at infusion. I guess I see my wig as a security blanket. I have no doubt the better you look , generally the better your treated. I also know the hair will grow, and my scars will fade. Still, it is hard to feel different. Over the weekend I seen a woman in Walmart looking at breast cancer shirts(That is the only reason she caught my eye) with hair just as short as mine. She looked great, and it made me feel good to see her out without any head covering.Now, maybe she seen me looking, and I hope she did not think I was being rude. I hope your next trip out will be a positive one. At any rate-hold your head high-and demand the respect you deserve.
Deb-Lol! I love the way you handled that situation.
Hugs
Michelle
"There are two ways to live your life. One is though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."     -Albert Einstein


JUJU8872
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Date Joined Jun 2005
Total Posts : 349
   Posted 9/26/2005 2:38 PM (GMT -7)   
Sorry these ignorant people upset you. My hair is just now fully covering my head -- no more than 1/4 to 1/2 inch (and thicker than before ughh!!). When I went to Knoxville over Labor Day weekend, I drove without my wig. I stopped and got gas at my usual road trip places. One guy at the pump even talked to me about the UAB-Tennessee football game that weekend. Turns out he only lives a mile from me -- and I thought I was being anonymous!!

Next time you go out without your wig, look at people straight in the eye and just smile!! Wear something pink, too; that just about says it all.

JUJU

babyseeester
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Total Posts : 826
   Posted 9/26/2005 4:15 PM (GMT -7)   
Try not to worry what others think.  You know you are a survivor and that's all that matters.  When I started going out without the wig, I wore a baseball cap.  It did take a lot of courage to go to work the first day without the wig, but I told my co-workers that I was going to, so they were prepared.  I forgot about how short my hair was after a very short while.  Now, I get so many comments on how cute it is.  It's probably still under 2" in length.  I love it!!!!!!
L & H,
Kathy


possitive
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Total Posts : 239
   Posted 9/26/2005 4:35 PM (GMT -7)   
I work at a school and i havnt been to work in 6 months and the kids and teachers were so glad to see me.My hair is only 1 inch long and before chemo i had hair to my knees.The kids want me to keep my hair short...Tammy

debbiR
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   Posted 9/26/2005 5:43 PM (GMT -7)   

Tammy, aren't kids wonderful! They are so accepting. My friend is a principal at one of our local grade schools. She had bc. While she was going thru chemo and rad, the kids all sent her cards and pics. When she was finally able to return to school, they were all waiting and told her how beautiful she looked w/ her short hair. My granddaughters were so accepting of my bald head. My eldest use to rub my head to see how the hair was growing. lol

Deb


 


tking
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Date Joined Sep 2004
Total Posts : 141
   Posted 9/26/2005 5:56 PM (GMT -7)   

I know how it feels to be stared at.  Mine was VERY short when I started wearing it.  The kids and teachers at school were GREAT, but I noticed cashiers, etc. staring at me when I would be in a store.  I finally told my husband if I caught another person staring - I was going to give them a piece of my mind (which i can't afford to lose HA HA) about cancer, chemo and "THANK GOD, I HAVE THIS SHORT HAIR!!!!!!

I KNOW that it feels so much better without the wig so do what makes YOU feel better - the others can go Kiss Your WIG!!!!!!!!! HA HA


Teresa King

Jeremiah 29:11 - "For I know the plans I have for you," declares the Lord, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future."

(NIV)


possitive
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Total Posts : 239
   Posted 9/27/2005 9:52 AM (GMT -7)   
skeeter,be proud of your short hair.I am so proud of mine i use baby shampoo and baby lotion on it,Its so soft and easy to manage.I colored my hair for years and i always said that i wished i had natural hair with no coloring ever applied and my wish came true.(High price to pay for healthy hair)Alot of women wished they could have healthy hair like ours,so be proud and show off your beautiful short hair....Tammy

Brnadebt
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Date Joined Jul 2005
Total Posts : 688
   Posted 9/27/2005 11:54 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi
 
I had to put my 2 cents worth in too. My hubby & I went to Walmart on Sunday and I wore just a cap with my bald head and I had alot of stares. I decided to look back at everyone that stared and as soon as I did they would smile. (my cap is pink) When I wear my wig it comes off as soon as I get in the car. I was driving down the freeway and a guy came up next to me and I thought he was going to run off the road. He was talking on his cell and got very animated. (must have been telling someone about my bald head) I looked at him and smiled. I always get a kick out of people staring. Dont let people get you down we have alot more important things to think about.
Hugs:)
Bernadette

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