thank you so very much I really appreciate you replying. We have a long drive a head of us from Ozark, MO to S. Calif where the surgery will be.
Hello my friend! I'm so glad that you decided to join us here. As I told you, this is a great group of women that will be here to support you, no matter what.
I know how shocked you were to hear the news. It is not something that we plan for (thank heavens) or something that we want to deal with. As Judy said, it does take a while to recover and doing the range of motion exercises that you are given is very, very important.I did them in the shower. I only took pain meds for about 3 days after I came home (made sure that my nurse gave me the shots while I was in the hospital) and then was able to function on Ibuprofin 800. There are shirts that you can purchase that will help you hold the drains. (these are usually removed after about a week..sometimes less) Something else that is important is to remember to get gowns or tops that button. You won't be able to lift your arms up for awhile. Also, after my surgery, I found that it was difficult for me to sleep in my bed. Fortunately, I had a very comfortable recliner that I slept in for about 3 nights.
I wish that I had been given the option to have a bilateral. I am hoping that I will be given the ok to have my other breast removed w/in the next year or so. I opted NOT to have reconstruction. This is a very personal choice for each woman. I felt and feel that a woman's breasts do not make who she is or will become. It is a very painful surgery and does take some time to recover. I personally know women that have had the reconstruction and they are very pleased w/ the results. Most have said, after the surgery and during recovery, that had they known the pain, they wouldn't have had it done. But once recovered, said that it was worth it. Guess it is kindof like having a baby. Once that baby is born, the pain is forgotten. lol
Lynda, you will get thru this. Please don't hesitate to post question that you have..no matter how silly you think it is. Most of us have probably had the same question at one time or another. One more thing, keep a notebook close and write down any question that you have. Take it w/ you when you see the dr in Calif and make sure that he/she answers each and everyone of them.
Lots of hugs and prayers coming your way.
Hope that you are enjoying our wonderful Mo weather while you are here.
Very few of us are prepared to have our lives literally stopped in mid-stride. Take a deep breath and tell yourself this is like a longer than usual "rest stop" along the highway when you're rv'ing.
Unfortunately, we don't have a choice about whether or not we stop. It simply has to be done. The 29th isn't so far away and the surgery part will be over. I know, I know it seems like it's forever away, but it really isn't. After the surgery you'll rest a bit and then make decisions about add'l care. Right now you need to focus on YOU. It seems like this is overwhelming but you'll take it one step at a time and with all of OUR help you'll get through this.
The women here are wonderful; very caring, loving and supportive and that is exactly what you need right now. Keep coming here. We'll get you through this time. Thinking of you. Luci