I spent a lot of time trying to stop the "what-ifs" and had set a goal for myself to go one whole day without even thinking about breast cancer. Since I log into here each day, that goal was not a realistic one, and I reframed it. Instead of trying to stifle the thoughts or "not think about it", I changed how I thought and what I did with the thoughts.
You have been treated for breast cancer and there is no way to deny it. It is a part of you now, but it does not have to be a bad part and it does not have to take over your life for one second. When I was willing to let it be a part of me, my anxiety lessened and the fear was less, as I was back in control.
I can't tell you how I did it, but I can tell you it took a long time, and that life after cancer treatment is different...it takes a new adjustment and an understanding that there will be some good times and some hard times along the way. For me, the key was to stop fighting the thoughts....but to let them happen and let them be with me, not taking over me.
Chantry: I agree what what everyone else has said. Having bc is the pits. We can't help, esp right after diagnosis, thinking about the "what-if's". That is only human nature. But, once you are finished w/ your treatments, and you begin to get your strength back, your attitude will be completely different. My youngest dd graduated from college 3 days after my mastectomy. I was unable to attend her graduation but she knew that I was there and how proud of her I was. Then 4 weeks later she got married to her hs sweetheart. Now talk about feeling like you were being stared at. It was to soon to wear a prothesis as I had not completely healed. Thank goodness I had delayed my chemo for the week following wedding. But I still felt that everyone was looking to see the "one boobed mother of the bride"! I also worried about my granddaughter. I had raised her since she was an infant. That was 5 yrs ago and I am still here. I have seen 2 granddaughters being born and one grandson. I have seen my dd and sil build a new home. So, hang in there. Don't let the cancer control you. Make jokes when you can and laugh as much as possible. You are a SURVIVOR!
PS..if you dd gets really congested again. Close your bathroom door and turn the shower on hot. Let the steam buildup and then go in and sit w/ her for a little while. It works!
I am NOT adverse to alternative meds/treatments. But, I have a problem w/ the above mentioned website. After visiting it and reading about it's author, I don't see where he has any medical background or training. I was surprised to see that he is from the town where I live. But, remember, anyone can make a website and post any and all info. That doesn't mean that it is valid. I would caution any of you to do thorough research before taking any of the alternative meds/treatments. As Lori said, this is not making headlines or radically changing the face of oncology.
Mageezy: I have to agree 1000% w/ what MK has said. This board is made up of members, all different ages, that are fighting breast cancer. Some are newly diagnosed and others have been fighting it for years. It is upsetting to have someone that has not personally had to fight this disease to come and imply that we aren't smart enough to decide what type of treatment we feel will help us stay alive. Each of us has done research to find the best treatment. We have asked the other members for their feedback and help and support. Each of us prays daily that there will be a cure found, not only for bc but for all types of cancer. I am delighted that those individuals you listed are alive and well today. But I am sure that you are aware that there are probably 10x more that chose that type of treatment that it did not help and are not alive.
I am sure that Peter, the administrator of this site, would be glad to email you the rules. MK moderates this site and makes sure that the rules that were set in place are kept. So please don't take a personal affront against her or any of the rest of us that reply to your post.