My onc's this cute little guy. In yiddish, you'd call him a nebbish, a sweet (usually not the burly type, shall we say) guy who is willing to have a woman be the boss. Anyway, he just just lit up when I told him I was considering an oopher. You could tell he felt funny about being so happy about the possiblity, like he'd be offending me because he was happy I might become barren (the super-sensitive type). I guess he didn't realize that his lighting up at the thought of my doing an intervention is exactly what I want him to do!!!!!
ANYWAY, I had no symptoms from the oopher except the hot flashes (I definately swear by the vitamin E (400 2X/day). There is a nasty leftover scar tissue damage from the hyster I had a the same time. I had it done laproscopically, with two holes near my hip bones, but a little more inside, about where the ovaries would be. The machine they used was called a morselator, and I really wasn't squeemish about what was going to be done (stop reading if you're squeemish). They took my uterus out through a tiny hole because they crushed it up inside my body. That's how they do the oophers too, I think.
The main side effect of menopause I've heard the most about is diminishing bone density. I feel more creeky than I did before the cancer, but that could be long term effects of chemo, or aging, the confounds are to numerous to conclude that it's the menopause. That's one, then of course, there's the Edith Bunker thing (power surges) Of all our mysterious female problems, this is the one they think about with the mood swings and the power surges. Maybe it's a good time to get exactly what you want from that DH or DS or any man. You're probably not going crazy, just adjusting to the hormonal change.
of course, you may be going crazy, have I mentioned I'm going into private practice???????
"Our greatest glory is not in never falling, but in rising every time we fall." -Confucius