Bertie - First of all, I want to tell you that your mother-in-law will be in my prayers. It is great that you care so much about her. Your silent well-wishing will reach her. I don't have the long distance issues that you have, so I am afraid I do not have any advice there.
Just wanted to welcome you and wish you and your family the best throughout this journey.
P.S. I am also from Iowa.
Dx: August 2004; bilateral mastectomies September
Diverticulosis, GERD, depression
Bipolar Grandson - age 14
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