Hi there...sorry to hear of your recent diagnosis. It really must have taken you by surprise at 34. I was diagnosed a week before turning 31 in 1999 and it was quite a shock. Take one day at a time, one minute at a time,...this will be a frightening and emotional time for you. Know that you may have ups and downs and it is ok....you'll run the gammit of emotions. There is a lot of information to gather for the doctors and for you...reading and researching what you can. For me, knowledge is power, and I needed to learn what I could so that i could converse with the doctors and control those things I had control of.
I also had to have a re-excision to get cleaner margins. I do not think being 'double negative' lowers your life expectancy...but each one may increase your chance of recurrance. Statistics are just numbers....even for the person who is told she has a 20% chance to survive, SOMEONE has to be in that 20%....so they may tell you your chances for recurrance, which does not mean death. It tells you a way to predict whether you might get cancer again...and even if you do, a recurrance can still be local. And a recurrance that is metastatic does not mean all gloom and doom either, many people are long term survivors.
Being negative for Her 2 neu is a better prognostic indicator, but that means that Herceptin can't be used for treatment, sort of a double edged sword.
Chemo is doable! I missed 2 full and 2 half days of work each chemo cycle and worked right through rads. I had no kids to take car of or family duties, but I took care of myself and my home and never missed a beat.
You can do this! Where do you live? Someone here may be near you.
Take care and stick around...
Post Edited (Tavish) : 7/4/2006 11:41:52 AM (GMT-6)