Hello, I am Kitt. My best friend has a long family history of breast cancer. She found the lump in her breast and was offered the same options as your wife.
We are nurses and worked in ER, so she went to our Director of Emergency Medicine and he said to her, "If it was my wife I would encourage her to have the bilateral mastectomy"
My friend did this and had the breast implants inserted during the original surgery.
Good luck with your decision.
You are one heck of a great man and husband. Your wife is lucky to have you and you to have her. cherish each other and I wish you peace.
I was peeking through the boards and saw your post about your wife. I had bilateral mastectomies exactly one year ago today, and also underwent chemotherapy and radiation, and now I'm on the Tamoxifen for five years. It is rough, no way around that, but it is doable.
I asked my boyfriend what his thoughts are, a year later...his reply: "I miss them....oh boy do I miss them!!! But I love you and want you more..."
My scars did not heal very well - very tight and puckery.....some could say they are ugly. But they are awesome on Halloween - I can draw red lips around them...and a tongue...and blue eyes....and I have a toothless old mouth!!! LOL
It's all in our perspective of things and how we see our world. I see the body as a shell, or vehicle...and just like our cars, we get banged up a bit out on the freeways. Just do what you are doing - loving her and being there, and let the doctors do the rest. I will keep both of you in my thoughts...