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Suzy35
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   Posted 7/6/2007 3:05 PM (GMT -7)   
that I have breast cancer. I have posted before on the Depression and Anxiety board, that was last September, October..ect. I got that all under control and was feeling pretty good. Now this.

This lump is very pronounced in my right breast, right under and around the nipple, a bout the size of a walnut, if not bigger. When it started it was smaller and I had a mamo and sonogram done, they came back fine and off I went. about three months ago I noticed it changing but thought it was because of hormones. It got to the point it didn't shrink, just got bigger. I was sent to have a biopsy done on Tuesday, I got the call a while ago that it was cancerous. I'm really scared because it's so big!

I go in for an MRI on the 17th then will take with my doc about options. My poor husband is so sweet and strong and I know he will love me and be with me through all of this.

I have three girls that I need to tell, sometime soon. I worry about how we are going to pay for this and what will happen.

Eight months ago I was fighting a depression so hard I thought about dying, now here I am again. It's so scary.

barkyboys
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   Posted 7/6/2007 3:14 PM (GMT -7)   
Suzy, I am so sorry you've had to come here. There is nothing harder than hearing the word "cancer"...except for having to say that word to your children.

I'm glad you have a husband who is supportive and sweet and strong. I'm sure he's devastated as well, but you w ill support each other and get through this.

And we'll do our best to be here for you, too. We've all been where you are.

Hugs...
BEV

Tavish
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   Posted 7/6/2007 6:51 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi Suzy, sorry for your news. We can all feel your pain...and we can tell you that it will ease up over time. Right now the emotions are raw and there is so much to think about and learn about...and before you know it, you'll be in control and feeling like you are in a much better place. My advice is to learn as much as you can so you can make informed decisions...but learn it in small doses so as not to overwhelm yourself. You may want to wait till you have more info before telling the kids...this way you'll know the plan as far as surgery and chemo or other medications, and you'll know how to answer their questions. For me, knowledge was power. Once I learned enough and started making appointments and taking charge, I was much better able to talk about it with others.

Take one day at a time and surround yourself with what feels good. Ask us lots of questions and take your husband or friend to your doctors' appointments, along with a tape recorder.

And since you know you have had trouble with depression, be sure to talk to your doctor about that and keep it from sliding out of control.

Hugs,
Lori


Suzy35
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   Posted 7/6/2007 10:23 PM (GMT -7)   
Thank you both. I remembered how much this board helped me out throught the depression and anxiety I had, comming back here just seemed like the right thing.

I think my husband is reeling from this more than I am. He is he one who always wants to "fix" things and is always there for me. He always figured he would be the one to get something like this, he works around toxic chemicals and such. It never really crossed his mind that I would be the one. He's already said he's going with me to all of the doctor's appointments and such.

I'm in no rush to tell the kids, but know it will have to be done, but I am going to wait till I have more info.

Tavish
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   Posted 7/7/2007 6:29 PM (GMT -7)   
Suzy, I think you're right that the husbands take it hard...they are fixers. Many of us have agreed with us that it is harder on those that love us, as they feel helpless, while we can take control and fight.., we are actively fighting.

Hang in there!
Lori


Suzy35
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   Posted 7/7/2007 9:12 PM (GMT -7)   
I have been more focused today and not so "doom and gloomy". My husband and my best friend are taking it harder than I am. LOL I'm the one telling them "It will all be ok"

I just want to get through this week and to the 17th to get the MRI done so I know what I am dealing with. What ever it is, I will face it head on.

babyseeester
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   Posted 7/8/2007 3:41 PM (GMT -7)   
Suzy,
 
I am so sorry you have joined our club.  However, this is a wonderful group and we will be right there beside you every step of the way.  I had a large tumor (6cm) with other smaller ones throughout the breast.  I ended up needing a mastectomy(I had a lumpectomy first).  It had also metasticized to the lymph nodes (thank goodness only 1).  Since my treatment of chemo and rads, I am definitely a survivor.  You will be, too.  I agree that information is power and you need to be your own advocate with your medical team.  Please don't be afraid to ask any question here.  Chances are someone has been through the same thing and can give you some advice.
 
Take it one step at a time and things will be easier to handle.
 
 
L & H,
Kathy


Suzy35
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   Posted 7/8/2007 8:53 PM (GMT -7)   
Thanks Kathy. For the moment I'm doing pretty well. My lump is pretty large, about the size of a quarter, I don't know any of the details on it. It's just a lump very close to the surface, it feels like if I cut the skin I could pop it out. LOL, not a pretty image I know, but that's how it feels.

I told the kids today, there was getting to be to much talking and I was afraid they would over hear something or hear it from someone else. They took it hard, but we talked it all out and they are doing ok. My youngest is 11 and she took it the hardest, which I knew she would. I let her ask me any questions she wanted and she's doing better now.

It will be a long week, but we will get through it one day at a time.
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