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Desertdreaming
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   Posted 7/7/2007 4:39 AM (GMT -7)   
Tramflapgirl (Chris) passed away last month.  The "old" ones on the board will remember her.  She was only 40 and leaves three girls, the youngest is 4.  She was the first person I met here in Cincinnati  who also had breast cancer.  There were four of us who would get together and have dinner every few months. I miss having those dinners as they kept me going and in touch with everyone.  And I miss my dinner partners too.
I know that once she got to heaven she was met with open arms and long hugs from our friends who have already lost their battle with this disease.
 
 
God Bless Crystal.   May she rest in peace.
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 

Annette
We have done enough "racing for the Cure"
 
 Just give us the cure already


barkyboys
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   Posted 7/7/2007 7:01 AM (GMT -7)   
Amen. I'm so sorry to hear those beautiful little girls will have to grow up without their mother. Such a waste of life, to be ended so soon.

I, too, miss those days, Annette, and those friendships. I think we need a commerative dinner to honor them, what do you say?

Hugs...
BEV

stkitt
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   Posted 7/7/2007 11:01 AM (GMT -7)   

Hello,

I did not know Chris but I am sure her wings are pink. I am so sorry for the loss of your friend and a member of Healing Well.

Bless You

Kitt


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postal2
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   Posted 7/7/2007 11:59 AM (GMT -7)   
I am so sorry to hear this. sad   I remember Chris from San Antonio. I have pictures of her. I pray for her family, so sad to leave behind small children.
 
Sadly, Gail
  It's only when we truly know and understand that we have a limited time on earth -- and that we have no way of knowing when our time is up, we will then begin to live each day to the fullest, as if it was the only one we had.
 
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Tavish
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   Posted 7/7/2007 6:27 PM (GMT -7)   
OMG, this is terrible terrible news. I thought of her every single day since her mets diagnosis and shook my head in disbelief when she told us.... I remember her so well, Myrtle Beach, St. Louis and one time she came into town to see her favorite singer, and had dinner with Cathi, Mikki and me. She was such a gem. She had such aggressive chemo for her diagnosis, that of all people, she should never have had a recurrance.

I was so sad when the village group busted up, I never understood it, but missed the beautiful friendships and rapport that we all shared. Remember those days! I miss those old chats too, compass anyone? I checked in at the village now and then to lurk and see any updates on Chris, I knew the cancer had spread to her brain.

Once again, this DAMM disease has left me speachless with the wind knocked out of me.

Hugs to us all,
Lori


Tavish
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   Posted 7/7/2007 6:33 PM (GMT -7)   
I just found this link when I googled her name.
In Peace, my friend.

http://www.meyersfuneralhomes.com/obituaries.asp?id=636


replystreet
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   Posted 7/7/2007 6:58 PM (GMT -7)   
I bless you and her. I am here to support you in every way.
 

 

Post Edited By Moderator (Admin) : 7/8/2007 7:28:18 PM (GMT-6)


undefeated
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   Posted 7/8/2007 5:31 AM (GMT -7)   
Thanks for the link, Lori.  Peg notified me when Chris died, but I didn't feel I should post it if Peg had not.  I miss all you guys, too.  I'm so very happy that we all met one another, and so sad that so many have left us.
 
Peg had visited Chris over the last couple of years fairly frequently, and was able to be with her not long before she passed away.  I feel that Peg kind of represented us, and I thank her.
 
Hope married life is agreeing with you and you're doing great health-wise.  All seems okay here.
 
Hugs, Glenda

lemonz
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   Posted 7/8/2007 8:11 AM (GMT -7)   
Sometimes there really are no words to express what you feel when anyone becomes one of our BC Angels. This disease is mean, and when it strikes and takes a young mother, I can hardly contain my anger. I received one of the nicest e-mails from Chris when another of our young mothers became an angel. Chris knew the rage I was feeling over the loss of Shell and wrote such a special note that I had it until my computer crashed. All I could think of was how nice, but truely difficult it must have been for her, to write me a note when she was facing the same future as a young mother. For those of you that did not know her, this should tell you something about the type of person she was. My sympathy to her family, Peg, and other friends. Joyce

How wonderful it would be to see Angels where there are only clouds. How sad it would be to see clouds where there are Angels.
 
 


Tavish
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   Posted 7/8/2007 8:42 AM (GMT -7)   
Thanks Glenda... a couple years back, Chris had sent an email to me with some updates, but our contact had dried up prior to that. I thanked her for keeping me apprised, told her how much I cared and never heard from her again. She was never far from my thoughts. I am happy that Peg was able to be such a close friend for her and also represent "us", especially what we used to be as a group. Look how this disease has torn us apart in so many ways....

I hope that Chris knew how much I (and we) still cared, despite the distance that had been wedged into the relationships.

hugs,
Lori


Cathi
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   Posted 7/8/2007 12:31 PM (GMT -7)   

Annette, thanks for letting us know about Chris. I am so angry. It upsets me when we lose anyone to this disease but to a mother with 3 young children...that is horrible. Although I havent talked to Chris in 2 yrs or so, I did think about her often...There are some great memories....the day she announce that she was pregnant with Ellen..we were all at Myrtle Beach for one of our reunions. also the trip to Michigan that Lori mentioned was fun.

I hope that Peg is doing alright. I know that they were so close...talking and visiting each other....I am sure it has been so hard for her.

My thoughts are with her family and especially her 3 girls...how she loved them.

 

Cathi

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stout rope; She clings to one end, I the other;
She calls it friendship; I call it hope....


babyseeester
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   Posted 7/8/2007 3:33 PM (GMT -7)   
Annette,
 
Even though I didn't know her, I am sad by the news.  It's so sad her girls won't have their mother anymore but in their memories.  Just terrible.
L & H,
Kathy


gma
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   Posted 7/9/2007 11:17 AM (GMT -7)   
I was stunned when I saw this post although I knew it would be coming one of these days. Like Cathi, I have not heard from Chris for a couple of years. A small acorn grew into a tree of misunderstandings and hurt. It was too bad that it happened and I still blame the village for not helping us when we needed help, but they were commercially interested and did not open their eyes to the hurts our ladies were enduring. Ah well, that is passed. I, too, have good memories of Chris and many of the others who are no longer with us. I wish we never had to meet under these circumstances of breast cancer. I wish they never had the pain, physical or mental knowing their time was limited on this earth. Many, many tears have fallen and many prayers have been said and will continue to be said for those who have lost their mothers, friends, life partners, daughters. I am so very sad for all who loved Chris and all the others. Mary K.


Candy
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   Posted 7/9/2007 3:01 PM (GMT -7)   
Peace be with her, her family and her friends.
 
Hugs,
 
Candy
Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their work: if one falls down, his friend can help him up.  Ecclesiastes 4:9-10
 


MNlady13
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   Posted 7/22/2007 6:03 PM (GMT -7)   
Oh, what sad news. I have not been here in a long time and just thought I would drop in this evening. So sad about Chris. She and I shared a room at that interesting motel in St. Louis and then I met her at the airport in Myrtle Beach when Ellen was just a baby. What great times we had and how we laughed together. I sent her messages and a card at Christmas time, but did not hear from her. Guess the hurt and misunderstandings were just too great. What a loss. Sad hugs, Lauri

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eveie
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   Posted 7/23/2007 6:25 PM (GMT -7)   
It always breaks my heart when a "sister" is taken from us. My prayers will be with her family and I hope that her family alwasy tells the kids what a strong, courageous mother they had. She will be with them always.
xoxoxox
eve
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Luci
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   Posted 7/26/2007 4:00 PM (GMT -7)   

I read this news 2 days ago and can't stop thinking about Chris.  So sad and so unfair to her girls.

Obviously there has never been a "reconciliation" between this board and IV.  It was awfully nice there until all of that miserable business happened.  However, Healing Well has been good for all of us, even though our original group has been much reduced.

Trying to get on with my life here, but BC and all its wretched effects are with me constantly.  I think of you all often, but for some reason the posting is very difficult.  Maybe I feel as so many others do.  In 1998 when I was first dx'd I thought that by now there would be a cure.  Well, on July 14 it was 9 yrs for me and there are still mighty few answers.

Keep strong everyone.  Love, Luci


In the depth of winter, I finally learned that within me lay an invincible summer.  Albert Camus


Desertdreaming
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   Posted 7/27/2007 3:44 PM (GMT -7)   
I hear your words Luci...Chris's death hit me hard.  She and I would talk and I was one of the first who knew she was pregnant with Ellen.  My favorite picture was one of her with her three girls and the caption was "Lucky, lucky, me".  
 
I hate this disease.  I hate the color pink.  And I hate that no one realizes that it has been twenty plus years since the first race for the cure and we are still racing.  Where the hell is the cure? 


Annette
We have done enough "racing for the Cure"
 
 Just give us the cure already

Post Edited (Desertdreaming) : 7/28/2007 5:33:55 AM (GMT-6)


Tavish
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   Posted 7/27/2007 8:41 PM (GMT -7)   
Ladies, I feel sucker punched since losing Chris too. Even though in some ways we here at HW lost her a few years ago, I never stopped thinking of her and wondering how she got the recurrance that she should have never gotten...Statistically speaking is one thing, but we all know how those statistics really work. We are not numbers, we are us, we are individuals.

And I still have the picture from SL on my desk and hate to count the numbers we have lost an each time another one loses her battle, we are painfully reminded of the disease and mortality.

BUT...in the 8 years since my diagnosis....I have seen progress! The use of hormones for long term relief is no longer the norm. Herceptin is now used as first line tx (when i did chemo it was for stage IV only, and years before it was based on a lottery). Aromatase inhibitors have replaced Tamoxifen for post menopausal women, MRI is now widely accepted.....all major medical advances just to name a few. No cure yet, but progress. And the numbers show that survival rates are increasing.

We must not stop fighting the disease...we need to keep racing for that cure and not let misunderstandings get in the way of relationships and love.

L&H,
Lori


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   Posted 7/30/2007 8:55 PM (GMT -7)   
This is a very hard death fror me to accept. Chris and I shared a like interest in good music. And, I was always interested in watching her girls grow. We also shared some of life's personal downs and I greatly admired her resolve in raising her girls.

May she find the love of those who went before her, gain her wings in record time, and let us catch a glimpse of her flying like a shooting star in the midnight sky. Via con Dios, Chris.

Love You, Jo-Ann
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angelconnie
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   Posted 7/31/2007 10:32 PM (GMT -7)   
Hello..I'm new here. No I dont have IBC but my sister-in-law did.She went through every experimental treatment there was known. She was dia. in Dec of 2002 the week of Christmas and they gave her 7-9 months ..Well, she beat those odds..
On 7-29-2007 at 11:08 pm the angels came to take her home.. She too wears Pink Wings .I dont know anything about the diease except it is very painful .. Our Connie was a fighter ...It finally got the best of her she fought for almost 5 yrs.
My hugs go to each and everyone of you who are having to deal with this ungratful monster that is in your body and I prayer with all my heart that you all survive so you may live a life without the pain and you have happiness.
sincerely Angel

gma
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   Posted 8/1/2007 6:38 AM (GMT -7)   
Angel, I think your post was very thoughtful and shows your love and respect for your sister-in-law. It is hard to lose someone to such a senseless disease be it breast cancer or other cancers. I know you will keep her in your heart and help others along the way to remember to get mammograms and annual physicals. Early detection is best but certainly is not foolproof. Take care of yourself, too. A big hug and prayers for you and yours, MK


eveie
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   Posted 8/1/2007 12:19 PM (GMT -7)   
Angel...
A fitting name for you. Your Connie was a courageous woman and it's women like her who make me fight harder and harder.
Blessings to you and yours.

eveie
The true joy of life is in the journey


angelconnie
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   Posted 8/3/2007 9:01 PM (GMT -7)   
Thank You MK and Eveie

I will keep you all in my prayers/thoughts.
My husband and I live almost 3 hours from Connie so it was hard to be a support to her. It really didnt help that we were not told how bad it really was.So the impact of this hit hard. Please if you have this Cancer or any other kind be honest with your loved ones and let them know the seriousness of it . Do everything you can to prepared them for what may be.As I have been finding out there is more research and new drugs coming out all the time and hopefully this Monster called "Cancer" will meet it's match and there will be an end real soon.
Best Wishes to all of you.
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