I agree with Lori. When we are going through surgeries and chemo and/or radiation, we feel like we are actively fighting the cancer. When we near the end of our treatment, we suddenly realize that, after this, the only thing left to do is wait to see if the darned thing comes back. And that is a very hard and scarey place to be, especially when you are already physically exhausted and emotionally spent from the diagnosis, the surgeries, the radiation and/or chemo.
We are all, at some level, afraid of dying from this disease, no matter how good a game face we put on for the rest of the world. Often, it is our family that we feel we need the best game face for. Our husbands don't want to be without their wives, our children don't want to lose their mothers, and we don't want them to know we even entertain the notion that we might be anything less than positive and as close to immortal as a mortal can be. We don't want to burden our families with our emotional wreckage, because we know that cancer has taken such an emotional toll on them as well. We tend to blame ourselves for the turmoil that our diagnoses have churned up in our homes, through no fault of our own, but mothers do that, you know, take responsiblity for things which are beyond our control
So just let your mom know you love her, that you are there for her, and let her decide how much of the "hard stuff" she can share with you.
Take care, and best of luck to your mom!
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