Should I worry?

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immizliz
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   Posted 8/25/2007 8:43 PM (GMT -7)   
Hello all,my mom (56 yrs) went for a routine mammo in May and found out she had breast cancer,had 2 surgeries to remove what they could see and has been going to radiation .She only has 1 week left and now they had her treatment increased,a close friend of hers told me that my mom got very emotional the other day when telling her about this,my mom insists that she has not been told anything is wrong but I am wondering if she is holding back from telling us something.We are not extremley close but she did originaly have me go with her to all her doc appointments when the first mammo came back as not normal so I would think that she would let me know if things were not working out well.What do you all think about this increase in the radiation with only 1 week left to go,is that normal?

Tavish
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   Posted 8/26/2007 10:30 AM (GMT -7)   
I have never heard of increasing the radiation per se, but usually the last week is called a "boost". It is part of the normal plan and the routine treatment. Not sure if it is a different kind of radiation, stronger, or what, but in my case it was just to the biopsy cavity. The rest of the radiation that I had was to the whole breast. My doc took a paint pen and drew on my breast the outline of the area for the boost, and only that area was radiated for the last few times. I am not a doctor, but it sounds like what your mother is experiencing is normal.

As for getting emotional, many of us experience a 'let down' of sorts after treatment is over, now that we're finished with medical attention as often as we're used to getting, sometimes we feel vulnerable or alone. It is possible that the end of the radiation treatment itself is emotional for your mom.

Lori


barkyboys
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   Posted 8/27/2007 5:08 PM (GMT -7)   
I agree with Lori. When we are going through surgeries and chemo and/or radiation, we feel like we are actively fighting the cancer. When we near the end of our treatment, we suddenly realize that, after this, the only thing left to do is wait to see if the darned thing comes back. And that is a very hard and scarey place to be, especially when you are already physically exhausted and emotionally spent from the diagnosis, the surgeries, the radiation and/or chemo.

We are all, at some level, afraid of dying from this disease, no matter how good a game face we put on for the rest of the world. Often, it is our family that we feel we need the best game face for. Our husbands don't want to be without their wives, our children don't want to lose their mothers, and we don't want them to know we even entertain the notion that we might be anything less than positive and as close to immortal as a mortal can be. We don't want to burden our families with our emotional wreckage, because we know that cancer has taken such an emotional toll on them as well. We tend to blame ourselves for the turmoil that our diagnoses have churned up in our homes, through no fault of our own, but mothers do that, you know, take responsiblity for things which are beyond our control

So just let your mom know you love her, that you are there for her, and let her decide how much of the "hard stuff" she can share with you.

Take care, and best of luck to your mom!

BEV
"There's a difference between a philosophy and a bumper sticker."  --Charles Schulz


immizliz
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   Posted 8/28/2007 7:00 PM (GMT -7)   
Thanks ladies! I guess I'll take my mom's word that everything is alright and what you two have said about the reasons she could be becoming emotional make sense,I do know what it is like just waiting to see if something comes back and should have thought about that possibly being why she has been down.I do think(or maybe I am just hoping) if something else had turned up she would have said something to me about it. Thanks so much and take care
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