Welcome ArmyMPwife, and judging by your name, thanks are in order to your husband for his service.
Chronic pain of any type involves treatment from many different directions. The answer is not to be found in a bottle of narcotics only. In the end, the quality of your life is up to you and your mental state. It takes not only medication, but a fair amount of psychotherapy to learn how to deal with chronic pain. If your doctor has ever brought up therapy with a psychologist - do it! As you probably already know, there are days when no pain pill will get you out of a pain crisis. That's where the "mind games" come in to play. Anything you can do to distract yourself from your pain will be beneficial. Keep on reading here. You never know when someone will have an idea that works for you.
Living in the Republic of Texas minus a gallbladder, a couple of cervical discs, appendix, uterus, and 18" of colon; but still alive and living with my husband, 2 dogs, 1 cockatiel, 1 quaker parrot and 2 gold fish.