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TDoern
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   Posted 6/25/2008 12:21 PM (GMT -7)   
So I've come to realize I have a problem. That problem is that even on days I swear I'm going to do absolutely nothing, I end up doing something. Quite often I over do things and end up lots of pain because of it. It always starts as something innocent - like today I was going to clean the inside of the car. I'd be sitting the whole time, it wasn't dirty to begin with just needed wiped down and such. Once I get done with the car - it was still sort of cool (below 100 is cool for me) - so I decided to go ahead and wash the car.

In washing the car there was bending, and kneeling, and all the stuff that is just bad for backs in general involved. Half way through I KNEW I was going to be in a ton of pain, but I didn't think I could very well stop midway, the car would just look stupid. As I was almost finished, scrubbing dead buggies off the front of the car, I got some really sharp pains and landed on my butt pretty hard. Needless to say I'm in a LOT of pain.

My problem is this is something I do ALL the time. It always starts as something small - unloading the dishwasher, making the bed, and ends up with me spending two or three days unable to move - because I over did it. It never occurs to me until the pain hits that I've done way more than I should, and then it's too late to do anything but suffer through the pain.

Do any of you know any way to keep yourselves in check? How do you do just a little bit without hurting yourselves worse? It doesn't help at all that I'm a neat freak by nature, so sitting even when I'm in pain, is mentally exhausting looking at the mess that is my house. Ideas? Tricks? Any help?

Thanks,
Tammy
"When we come to the edge of the light we know, and are about to step off into the darkness of the unknown, of one thing we can be sure; either God will provide something solid to stand on... or we will be taught to fly.'"

"Cause when push comes to shove You taste what you're made of, You might bend, till you break Cause its all you can take; On your knees you look up Decide you've had enough, You get mad you get strong Wipe your hands shake it off, Then you Stand" From "Stand" by Rascal Flatts
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sjkly
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   Posted 6/25/2008 2:32 PM (GMT -7)   
Tammy, this is probably not an option for everyone but I am a contract worker not a salaried employee so it works for me. I have a job that is physically easy for me I can choose when to sit and when to move around etc to a large extent. House work is painful for me. So, I figured out how many hours per month I would have to work at my job to pay someone to come in to clean my house and went out and got an additional contract for that number of hours. I work a few hours a month at my pleasant job and pay someone else to do many more hours of painful house work.
Sj

Chutz
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   Posted 6/25/2008 3:04 PM (GMT -7)   
I like your idea Tammy. Wish we all had that option but I'm glad you do. When I read your post, Tammy, I felt like you knew my life day by day. My problem is when I end up down I still won't stay down. Just keep on pushing and that's never smart. There's this small part of my brain that says..You're Lazy!...if I just sit. Doesn't matter that I always have some stitching or reading going on but I can't seem to stop either. Like you it starts small and then going out of control.

A couple of weeks ago I started a daily list with a very small white erase board. I put on it either things for the week or the day. I'm still working out the plan a bit. It does seem to help if I keep it out in the open where I can see it first think in the morning. On the kitchen counter works for me. I'll let ya know if I have any better luck trying to follow it...lol

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pieceOfCRPS
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   Posted 6/25/2008 6:54 PM (GMT -7)   
denial -- it works for me.
 
yeah
 
Su
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sjkly
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   Posted 6/25/2008 7:28 PM (GMT -7)   
Su,
I too tried denial. I ended up waking up one morning (thankfully already had an appointment to see my PCP that day) unable to dress myself because my left elbow was useless and my right hand hurt so much I could not move it, in addition my knees were so swollen I could not drag myself down the stairs to get my dog out to pee.
I got a medrol dose pack from my pcp and a referal to my rhuemy who could not see me for six weeks-so there I was six days of meds six weeks to wait.
I try not to do denial anymore. (I also hoard prednisone now-with the advice and consent of my rhuemy).
Sj

Boxerlover
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   Posted 6/25/2008 9:24 PM (GMT -7)   

Tammy, yep that's me too.  When I do things with my husband, he's usually able to tell me I've done enough and to go sit or lie down, but the other times I'm not aware until the pain hits and then it's too late.  Maybe set an alarm or timer for a certain amount of time and when it goes off it's time to take a break or stop what you are doing.

Melissa


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   Posted 6/25/2008 9:32 PM (GMT -7)   
Tammy,
I wonder how many people who tend to overdo it have spouses or others fairly readily available to help if they need to rest for a couple of days because of overdoing it? I live alone, and so I know if I go too far, there's no one to call. I've got to get up and fix my meals, get my meds, do the wash, etc. and even work for a very few hours a week. I have learned over the years to really stay in tune with my body - learned the hard way, from the consequences that come from not paying attention. But I think those of us in pain have a hard time paying attention to our body because that means tuning into pain. We get pretty good at distracting. So it's a delicate balance to pay enough attention to know when you're just starting to feel things - or in some cases you may know you have to quit before you feel any pain - but not paying so much attention to the pain life becomes even more miserable.

Don't know if this makes any sense, but if you've got someone else around the house who does some things when you're down and out from overdoing it, try spending a few days completely alone, or not letting anyone pick up any slack when you've overdone it, and that may help you learn in the future.

Good luck!

PaLady

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   Posted 6/26/2008 1:22 AM (GMT -7)   
I do best by picking one chore a day. Otherwise, I will way overdo things and end up in bed. I began to look at it this way, if I over did things it would cost me valuable time because I would be laid up for a couple of days. Once I finish that chore if I have any energy left I can tackle a smallergggggggggggggggggggggggggggggggggggggggggggggggggggggggggggggggggggggggggg t t


TDoern
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   Posted 6/26/2008 10:55 AM (GMT -7)   
It's nice to know that I'm not alone.

I know that my pain doctor had mentioned sending me to a psychologist or someone similar who dealt mostly with pain patients. He mentioned specifically the fact that most people in chronic pain tend to abuse the small amount of good days that they have and make themselves suffer more for days after because they feel the need to get stuff done. I admit that's exactly how I am. BUT I haven't heard anything else on that, and honestly don't think I could afford it.

My biggest problem is that since my back got worse 2 years ago, I haven't been able to work. So part of me feels guilty for not bringing any income in. I like to keep the house clean and cook and such because hubby is the one working. It just seems that over the past three weeks I can't do anything - including walking - without my pain getting worse.

Also, I try to get things done when hubby isn't home so that he doesn't help because he's already worked a full day, I just can't keep up with it all, and I don't like asking him to help.

*sigh*
As I said - at least I'm not alone.
"When we come to the edge of the light we know, and are about to step off into the darkness of the unknown, of one thing we can be sure; either God will provide something solid to stand on... or we will be taught to fly.'"

"Cause when push comes to shove You taste what you're made of, You might bend, till you break Cause its all you can take; On your knees you look up Decide you've had enough, You get mad you get strong Wipe your hands shake it off, Then you Stand" From "Stand" by Rascal Flatts
_____________________________________________________________________________
Dx.: Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome, Ulcerlative Colitis, Chronic Inflammation of the Colon, Ruptured & Fused L4-L5-S1 w/pinched nerves, Degenerative Disc Disease, Chronic Costochondritis, Back Muscle Spasms, Asthma, Benign Tremmors (hands)


marthamae
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   Posted 6/30/2008 2:26 PM (GMT -7)   
I suffer with bipolar depression and get totally overwhelmed with getting stuff done. I also have burning pain from a mouth condition.

A friend recommended this site called FlyLady. It has really helped me to get my life organized and to keep my house neat without getting overwhelmed. There is a forum there for people with all sorts of disabilities. Lots of people are working and getting things done even though they have pain and all kinds of situations. The system does teach you about taking little steps. You might check it out.

Developing routines has really helped me. Even if I am in pain or am really down in the dumps...if I look at my morning routine, I can always pick something on there and get it done. Then usually I can move on to another thing. Pretty soon I have made progress. It's been really good for my depression. And nothing causes depression like CP.

erin.K
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   Posted 7/4/2008 10:14 AM (GMT -7)   
TDOerm! wow you're like my long lost sister! hah!  it's hard to stop yourself right! and the worst part is that we feel better when everything IS RIGHT & as should be! and when there's things laying about, need to clean, fuzzies & crumbs on the floor or carpet, it like "I can't relax!!!!!" "I won't be right until it's picked up!"
 
oh we're our worst enemy! hah.
 
ok, this pain is from "over-use" of the joints (i have RA & Crohns) so when i am able to be on my legs for a good time & am OK to do a few things I GET CARRIED AWAY!!!!!!
ok, i wanna sweep?...it quickly turns into sweeping...THEN I BUST OUT THE WET-SWIFFER! well then it makes sense to vacuum now too....
 
oy!
 
my check is my hunny...he'll kind a pull a "WHOA"...
he'll see & know it before i do so he'll put me in my place & remind me i'll be incapacitated for the following 3 days.
(i too cheat & when he's at work i do the house...ssshhhhhhhhhhhh.)
 
when i have a good day, what i'll do is "sections"
it'll be either the whole bathroom or do only vacuuming. not both. if there's a ton of laundry that'll be it but i'll go slow & make sure i'm on the couch with my legs up & iced during cycles.
 
this took a long time to get accusotmed to. of course we all like to do it all in one go....but not moving for a week after if definitely not worth it.
oh, i also will take my pain meds before or in the middle of doing some heavy activity that i know will cause my joints to hurt & swell.
best wishes to you...
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Pamela Neckpain
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   Posted 7/10/2008 2:53 AM (GMT -7)   
Tdo ...
Ha! Just look at your name. It looks a little like "To Do"
I too am driven nuts by my house and garden.
What do I do? Turn on the TV and hide in there. I seldom have guests.
What should it matter?
I hate Chronic Pain.
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