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PAlady
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   Posted 8/5/2008 3:20 PM (GMT -7)   
We all have to contend with disappointments as we deal with chronic pain and all it brings. When other "stuff' gets added it is sometimes too much. I'll be ok overall, but I'm feeling pretty bummed at the moment.

First, there was a part time job with good benefits I thought I might be eligible for. Saw the ad on Sunday and actually got a little excited - toying with whether I might be able to try it, as it was only 20 hrs./week. Maybe I could work (there's still a tennis match going on in my head over that issue). And it would sure give me a better financial outlook plus health insurance. Part time jobs with health insurance around here are rare. Very rare. I got laid off from one last year. Anyway, this job I found was with the federal government and of course they have a gazillion requirements and I found out today after talking with the human resources people I don't meet the qualifications. It's not one of those things that I can fudge around - govt. doesn't work that way! It had to do with specific experience I just didn't have, although I thought I had enough to do the job that was advertised. So that's now out.

Then I get a call from an attorney (not mine) about a financial matter I won't go into here but those of you who have had to struggle with serious financial issues probably have some idea. I have always been a person who paid my bills my entire life, but now my credit is ruined and at my age and with my health issues I'm not going to get it back without a miracle. That's just reality. But these realities hit hard. And I had to come somewhere I knew someone would understand.

Oh, add to that I screwed something up with my computer. And of course, my physical pain is worse (what a surprise).

I need a shoulder to cry on. sad

PaLady

Post Edited (PAlady) : 8/9/2008 3:15:57 PM (GMT-6)


ryand
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   Posted 8/5/2008 3:25 PM (GMT -7)   
PaLady, I've got two shoulders for you my friend. They're yours for as long as you need 'em. sad

I wish I could give you a great big (but gentle!) hug right now, but a virtual one will just have to do, okay?

((((((Ry hugs PaLady))))))

Tirzah
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   Posted 8/5/2008 4:40 PM (GMT -7)   
PALady,
Sorry to hear you're having a rough day. That's a real bummer about the job -- it sounded really good, too. I know that is a real rare opportunity, but keep at it. Never know when you might get lucky & have another one come along any day.

My sympathies are with you for today. Take courage for tomorrow. I'm ever impressed with the grace & wisdom with which you seem to handle things. Remember all the difficult situations you've made it through thus far in life. That strength can help you make it through this too.

peace,
frances

worsenow!!!
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   Posted 8/5/2008 4:51 PM (GMT -7)   
what a crappy day for you, but a little saying from my mum, whats for you won't pass you!! your job, a better one, is waiting just around the corner for you, maybe the man ustairs has better things in mind for you!!! lol wish i could make everyone troubles disappear in an instant, but i can't so I offer you one virtual shoulder! ( trapped wind in the other, hence unavailable right now, but you can call back later), but 1 is ready and willing. And of course i do have the freshly made brownies,,,,,,,,,, enough to put a smile on even the saddest of people,xxx :-)
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sunflower7
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   Posted 8/5/2008 4:54 PM (GMT -7)   
I am sorry you are going thru this.
Last fall I ended up having to do a bankruptcy
so I know how you feel. When you start
going backwards with bills instead of forward
and no end in sight it does not feel good at all.
Hang in there, there is an answer for everything.
As it turns out I was able to return to work the month
before the bankruptcy was discharged. Oh well at least
I am starting fresh. But if I had known it may have been
different.
You may remember me as gagabonnie. I was banned
from the site (I think for promoting an online thing) so
I have had to rejoin with another name.
Everyone PLEASE let me stay as I felt like I had lost my
best friend when I found out I could not come in. The
door was slammed in my face.
This forum was the one thing that got me thru the last 2
years of pain.
Be strong PA lady.
Ciao
Bonnie

shannon1
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   Posted 8/5/2008 5:21 PM (GMT -7)   
Im so sorry you are dealing with all this on top of your pain!!! You have my shoulder for as long as you like.
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PAlady
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   Posted 8/5/2008 6:28 PM (GMT -7)   
Thank you so much everyone!! It means the world to be able to come here, because you all understand. You know without my having to explain it all.

Ry- dear friend, one who understands bearing it all alone, thank you for both shoulders!

Frances - your kind words touched my heart deeply.

Worse - thank you and the brownies DO help! I may have to make some tonight (but it's so humid I hate to light the oven. May have to make a store run for some of those microwave thing, but then again I have hot fudge sauce and ice cream!

Bonnie - I didn't know you were banned. I thought your sig. just got edited. Just don't do any advertising and hopefully you can stay. Yes, you do know how the financial pit feels!

Shannon - thank you for another badly needed shoulder!

If I only had my health, I could fix things. I just want to get some part of my life back, but it seems I keep losing pieces. But I know each of you understands this in your own way.

Thank you! Thank you! Thank you!

PaLady

Chutz
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   Posted 8/5/2008 8:14 PM (GMT -7)   
Hugs Pa and I truly hope things start going better for you. Any time you need a shoulder feel free to email.

Hugs to Bonnie too.. ;-)
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Scarred_for_life
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   Posted 8/6/2008 7:29 AM (GMT -7)   
Hugs PA I too hope things get better for you hun. Anytime you need a shoulder to cry on I am there for you sweetie.

gentle hugs

Scarred
HEALTH ISSUES: Herniated discs at S-1-L5, L5-L4, L4-L3. Two level fusion (2000); one level fusion (2002); Revision at L4-L3 (2003). Diagnosed with Failed Back Syndrome, Permanent Nerve damage and Chronic Pain

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   Posted 8/6/2008 9:58 AM (GMT -7)   
(Hugs to you) And you have plenty of shoulders here. Yes I know about financial troubles. I had to file bankruptcy once. It is sure a stressful situation. Just remember that tomorrow is another day and maybe it will be better then the last.
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PAlady
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   Posted 8/6/2008 10:15 AM (GMT -7)   
Chutz, Scarred & Red,
Thank you so much. The shoulders are needed. Except I'm having a difficult time letting the tears flow. Ever feel like your tear ducts are constipated (even I have to laugh at that!)? Seriously, I so need a good cry, but it just won't come. I think I don't want to feel the emotional pain. Isn't our physical pain enough??!

PaLady

ryand
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   Posted 8/6/2008 10:32 AM (GMT -7)   
Hey, PaLady, just wanted to stop in and give you another virtual hug today. ((((HUGS))))

I do understand what you are going through. I've gotten to the point where I just let the answering machine take all of my calls anymore and only pick up if I hear a friend on the line. It can be tough to go it alone - especially when you just need a good cry! There have been many times I've just curled up in a little ball and cried like a crazy person and all I could think was how much I wished there was someone there to hold on to. Just someone to say "hey, it'll all be okay and I'm here for you."

Well, I can't be there in person for you, but I'll be HERE for you as much as possible. You can send me an email too, if you want, and we can chat some more off-line. So, here... take my hand (((Ry extends her hand to PaLady))) and hear me now... "it'll all be okay and I'm here for you."

Ry

btw...When I need a good cry and just can't get there, a good old fashioned chick flick is the only way to go! Ever seen Fried Green Tomatoes? It's got exactly the right elements for you - parts that could make anyone shed a tear (I sob unashamedly) but then so much humor you end up laughing through the tears, and most of all the story of friends who were there when they needed to be. So here's my prescription for you today - One great DVD, a bowl of popcorn, some M&Ms, and a box of tissues. Check in with us later. We still need to party in the chocolate hot tub! tongue

PAlady
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   Posted 8/6/2008 10:42 AM (GMT -7)   
((((((((((( RY ))))))))))))))

PaLady

Scarred_for_life
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   Posted 8/6/2008 3:05 PM (GMT -7)   
Ok....I am sending my hot tub over to PA so that she can sit and soak like she told me to do yesterday :-)
HEALTH ISSUES: Herniated discs at S-1-L5, L5-L4, L4-L3. Two level fusion (2000); one level fusion (2002); Revision at L4-L3 (2003). Diagnosed with Failed Back Syndrome, Permanent Nerve damage and Chronic Pain

Medications:

Kadian, Lexipro, Percocet, Temazapim, Lunista, and Robaxin.


PAlady
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   Posted 8/6/2008 3:37 PM (GMT -7)   
Awe, thank you scarred! It sure would feel good! That job got me excited probably like you are getting about at least some aspects of the move. Even though it was only a part time job, it would have been a good possibility and give me back some pieces of my professional and financial life. I know I've got to let it go....sigh....

PaLady confused

Post Edited (PAlady) : 8/6/2008 4:40:10 PM (GMT-6)


Scarred_for_life
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   Posted 8/6/2008 3:40 PM (GMT -7)   
Consider it done PA :-) *Wonders if UPS would deliver LOL*
HEALTH ISSUES: Herniated discs at S-1-L5, L5-L4, L4-L3. Two level fusion (2000); one level fusion (2002); Revision at L4-L3 (2003). Diagnosed with Failed Back Syndrome, Permanent Nerve damage and Chronic Pain

Medications:

Kadian, Lexipro, Percocet, Temazapim, Lunista, and Robaxin.


Tirzah
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   Posted 8/6/2008 4:24 PM (GMT -7)   
PAlady said...
Awe, thank you scarred! It sure would feel good! That job got me excited probably like you are getting about at least some aspects of the move. Even though it was only a part time job, it would have been a good possibility and give me back some pieces of my professional and financial life. I know I've got to let it go....sigh....

PaLady confused


PALady -
I was watching GMA this morning & they had a piece about legit at home jobs. Apparently Walgreen's is hiring a whole bunch of work-from-home customer service phone reps to work 20-30 hours/week. The pay was decent (about $30K per year) and they said something about benefits (though I don't know what they are). Who knows whether it's what you're looking for, but I thought I'd pass the information along since Walgreen's is a reputable company -- plus, if the benefits include not paying a large fortune for prescriptions then maybe it will prove to be a "virtual" gold mine.

Best Wishes!
frances

PS -- I want the hot tub after you're done with it! Please, oh, please! I'm thinking about rigging it up to a water spigot & setting-up Aqua Camp in the alley. Course I'd probably need some of those scented candles to cover the smell from the dumpster & a pile of rocks to throw at any of the meannie rats who'd probably want to crash my party & a privacy screen to hide my scar-crusted body from any nosy neighbors & an invisibility shield in case city inspectors come by and see what I set up without a permit ... ah well, I guess I still have some kinks to work out... ;)

PAlady
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   Posted 8/6/2008 4:53 PM (GMT -7)   
Thanks for the info Frances - and the laugh! But I don't think I'm giving up that hot tub without a fight!

PaLady

Scarred_for_life
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   Posted 8/6/2008 7:32 PM (GMT -7)   
Oh hey now no passing around my hot tub without me!!!!! It's got to come back so that the new buyers (hoping and praying) will be able to use it remember???
HEALTH ISSUES: Herniated discs at S-1-L5, L5-L4, L4-L3. Two level fusion (2000); one level fusion (2002); Revision at L4-L3 (2003). Diagnosed with Failed Back Syndrome, Permanent Nerve damage and Chronic Pain

Medications:

Kadian, Lexipro, Percocet, Temazapim, Lunista, and Robaxin.


PAlady
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   Posted 8/6/2008 7:50 PM (GMT -7)   
NOOOOOOO!!! sad mad sad

Sniff...sniff....

PaLady------> now you did make me cry!
(guess I should be careful what I ask for?)

Scarred_for_life
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   Posted 8/7/2008 9:46 AM (GMT -7)   
PA;

I am so sorry you are having such a bad day today. I wish that something that I could do to make it better and make your pain go away.

Love ya


Scarred
HEALTH ISSUES: Herniated discs at S-1-L5, L5-L4, L4-L3. Two level fusion (2000); one level fusion (2002); Revision at L4-L3 (2003). Diagnosed with Failed Back Syndrome, Permanent Nerve damage and Chronic Pain

Medications:

Kadian, Lexipro, Percocet, Temazapim, Lunista, and Robaxin.


Lindaloo
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   Posted 8/7/2008 1:50 PM (GMT -7)   
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sunflower7
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   Posted 8/7/2008 6:08 PM (GMT -7)   
Hugs to you PA lady. Hope you feel a bit better soon.

Thanks Chutzie ((hugs))

Bonnie

PAlady
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   Posted 8/7/2008 6:17 PM (GMT -7)   
Thank you to everyone offering support and hugs and understanding.

Scarred, you did help just by posting and by keeping the Beach Party going while I'm a bit down.

Tigger (Bonnie- love this name better!) thank you, too.

And thanks, Lindaloo, for helping!

Hugs to you all of you! yeah

PaLady------> working to crawl out of her hole and get back to cabana with your help!

ryand
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   Posted 8/7/2008 6:21 PM (GMT -7)   
Ry------>putting a ladder down PaLady's hole

Need a hand there, friend? :-)
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