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Scarred_for_life
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   Posted 8/8/2008 7:05 PM (GMT -7)   
Ok all thought I would give you an update on the house being on the market and everything else that involves us getting ready to move to KS.

The "Uncle" of this woman that came to look at the house yesterday is driving up to see the house tomorrow from the southern part of WY. He will be here at my little abode at 10am tomorrow and I am ready for the big showing (or so I hope). Apparently Becky, my Realtor, said he is very interested in the house and wishes to see it tomorrow. I am really impressed with Becky and her devotion to getting my house sold quickly. I told her that one of the gals that I speak to on the forum is selling her house as well and that she has not gotten a showing as of yet and she told me that it is too bad that no one is showing the house yet.

Today has been particularly challenging for me as the back is not cooperating very well and my pain has been intensified by twenty fold with the stress of moving and trying to help hubby pack 11 years of accumulated property into boxes. I think I have been in the hot tub more since we started this whole thing then I have in a year and it seems to be helping with the pain as much as anything else. I hate the idea of leaving the hot tub behind as it has kinda become my best defense in relieving my pain for a bit or even reducing the stabbing pains that have shifted to the back of my legs. But hubby is going to buy me a brand new hot tub that I will use quite more often then I do this one. He also says that he will make it easier for me to get in and out of so that I am using it a bit more often.

We talked today about the big move and I think we are both excited about this and are quite ready for a change in life. As I said in another post my poor little son (22 and a pain) has been having g/f problems as his broke up with him this evening. I have never heard my son actually cry on the phone and felt so helpless to comfort him in this hard time of his life. It was hard to hear him sound so brokenhearted as I talked with him for several hours tonight. I just wanted to hug him but as he is in WI and I am in WY it is hard to tell him that in time he will get over this breakup and will be able to go on with his life. He's depressed about this situation and I wish that there was something that I could have said that would have put his mind to rest and helped him to keep going without her.

Well I am off for a hot bath and then soon to bed as since I don't have my Lunesta I am not sleeping well. I am praying for each of you to have a lessened pain night and I hope that each of you sleep in a little peace for the night. I will check back before I go to bed.

hugss,

Yours in Pain.

Scarred
HEALTH ISSUES: Herniated discs at S-1-L5, L5-L4, L4-L3. Two level fusion (2000); one level fusion (2002); Revision at L4-L3 (2003). Diagnosed with Failed Back Syndrome, Permanent Nerve damage and Chronic Pain

Medications:

Kadian, Lexipro, Percocet, Temazapim, Lunista, and Robaxin.


Tirzah
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   Posted 8/8/2008 10:03 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi, Scarred!

Wishing you luck with the showing tomorrow. I'll say an extra prayer around 10 that everything goes okay and you get a great offer. That would be so exciting to get this thing all wrapped up!

Sorry to hear about your son. I don't have any kids, but I know the thing that always has helped me & my brother the most has been when my mom would tell us stories about how she made it through tough break-ups when she was younger, how she could relate to how we felt, and that eventually, no matter how sad it was to go through a break-up, we would be okay because we had a loving family and good friends to help us through. I'm sure your son already knows that you love him & are there for him when he needs to talk; those are the most important things when anyone's going through a tough time. Probably he just needs a little time to be sad about the break-up and then he can move on.

I hope you find some rest tonight. I'm heading to bed soon in search of the same.

peace,
frances

ryand
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   Posted 8/8/2008 11:55 PM (GMT -7)   
Scarred:

I am so excited for you about this move. It really seems to be coming together for you, doesn't it? I too will be praying for great results at the showing and a super offer.

I think Frances has given you some great insight about your son's situation. I have to second what she has said. I think just the very fact that your son called you at a time like this speaks volumes for the depth of love and trust he has for you. What a great relationship for a 22 year old young man to have with his mother! Many kids would be calling their "buddies," maybe doing a little bar-hopping, and otherwise generally avoiding their parents at a time like this. Like Frances said, he needs a little time to be sad - that's just a part of it all. What a blessing that he feels safe sharing that with you.

I hope things look up for your son very soon and he is able to look back on this time and see how it helped him to grow and mature. For you - I hope you will continue to rest enough in the hot tub and not overdo! It sounds like your husband is trying to take good care of you. Let him! :-)

Ry

PAlady
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   Posted 8/9/2008 12:06 AM (GMT -7)   
Scarred,
It looks like Ry & I are both sleepless tonight! Probably ate too many yummy desserts!

I also wanted to wish you good - no GREAT - luck with the showing this morning. Can't wait to hear how it goes, although I know you may not know anything right away. Just having had 2 showings already I think is wonderful progress. One way or another, the right buyers will come along soon. And you and your hubby (he's a great guy! Wish you could clone a slightly older version!) will find a wonderful place in or around the new "green" town.

Will away your added post here to let us know how it goes Sat.!

PaLady

Scarred_for_life
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   Posted 8/9/2008 3:22 AM (GMT -7)   
PA, Ry and Frances; I too am praying for a quick answer and hope that things on this end go quickly so that we can move on from here. Seems its 4am and I am not sleeping which is driving me nuts!

Hubby and I have always had a tight relationship with our son and I think that he knows that whatever he needs we are right there for him. He bought her a promise ring two weeks before this and it seems that she threw it back into his face after he was willing to do anything for her (even quit drinking!) and she just did not appreciate his efforts. Mom's wisdom to her son last night was "Everything happens for a reason" and "Time heals all wounds" which I think helped him in his pain. My son and I have always been tight and I am glad that he had the sense to call me when things were looking so bleak for him. I could only tell him that he will get over this breakup and that with time his heart will mend. I also told him that he needs to take time to be sad for awhile before he moves on to another relationship. I think we have all been in that situation where we were on the "Rebound" from a bad or hurtful breakup and I do not want him rushing into something that is only going to end up breaking his heart once more.

This was the first serious relationship with a girl in his life and I know how hard that can be. Another thing about my son and his newly ex is the fact that she took a pregnancy test three weeks ago and it came back positive, but refuses to go to the dr to be sure that she is pregnant. She had Mono for three weeks and is just getting over that when she found out she might be pregnant and thought that because she had what she called a regular cycle a day later that she could not be possibly pregnant. I don't know the whole thing sounds pretty fishy as a few days after she was positive she told my son that she didn;t want to keep the child and thinks that she is too young. Then after that she shut down on him and refused to speak with him about anything. She went to have coffee with her brother day before yesterday her usual weekly thing and did not return home that night. My son was worried sick about her as he stayed in their appt alone that night and the next day she would not return his phone calls until last night when she informed him she was through with the relationship and did not care for him like she had when they first became gf and bf. I do think that this is weird and my son is trying to figure out where he went wrong with her.

She still won't see a doctor to get a test to see if she is pregnant and my son was willing to "Step up to the plate" and take care of his responsibility of this child including paying for an abortion if that was what she wanted. She tells him she is "Scared" that her parents will find out and disown her and that is when she began to distance herself from my son (two weeks ago) and stopped talking to him.

Anyway, I think that things will work out for him and I truly hope that he can see past this to move on to other things.

hugsss
Scarred
HEALTH ISSUES: Herniated discs at S-1-L5, L5-L4, L4-L3. Two level fusion (2000); one level fusion (2002); Revision at L4-L3 (2003). Diagnosed with Failed Back Syndrome, Permanent Nerve damage and Chronic Pain

Medications:

Kadian, Lexipro, Percocet, Temazapim, Lunista, and Robaxin.


Scarred_for_life
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   Posted 8/9/2008 1:08 PM (GMT -7)   
Ladies and Gentlemen. I have wonderful news! Today we received an offer on the house and we have accepted! So what does this mean? It means that we are getting ready to move to where we are not sure quite yet. Hubby called his brother to tell him the house was sold and left a message saying as such. Got full asking price and the guy wants to take possession on Sept 4th. That gives us 4 weeks to get things done, so hopefully hubby get his brother into high gear from here and we will be in KS by Sept.


YAY!
HEALTH ISSUES: Herniated discs at S-1-L5, L5-L4, L4-L3. Two level fusion (2000); one level fusion (2002); Revision at L4-L3 (2003). Diagnosed with Failed Back Syndrome, Permanent Nerve damage and Chronic Pain

Medications:

Kadian, Lexipro, Percocet, Temazapim, Lunista, and Robaxin.


PAlady
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   Posted 8/9/2008 1:15 PM (GMT -7)   
Congratulations, Scarred!

Wonderful news for you and your hubby!

PaLady

ryand
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   Posted 8/9/2008 3:14 PM (GMT -7)   
Yay!! yeah

Happy house hunting! Remember - worst case scenario you could do a month-to-month lease at a furnished apartment if you didn't find the right house in the next couple of weeks. Now that your place is sold you can really be in the driver's seat on buying your new place.

Good luck!
Ry

Scarred_for_life
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   Posted 8/9/2008 5:55 PM (GMT -7)   
Thank you Ry and PA! I am so tickled that the house is finally sold and the loan that is on it will be paid in full that I think I could dance IF it was possible for that to happen hehehehe. You are right Ry, we are in the drivers seat as of now (that is if the guy doesn't find anything wrong when they do the inspection) and on the road to a new life. I don't know why he is insisting on an inspection as he is paying cash for the house and know that since it is a 1978 mobile home that certain things are bound to be a little off, but hey he is paying for the inspection and I am not worried about the pipes and things in the house as we have never had a problem with the pipes freezing or sewer backing up.

He was concerned about his part of the closing costs and must have thought them to be quite high. He made a stipulation in the offer that we would pay for the entire closing and since it was less then 200 bucks, hubby and I were ok with this and agreed to that part. Funny how things work out; hubby and I had decided to take the dogs to the lake while the Realtor showed the house and when we returned they were gone. Well I called her to see how it went and she said it's going great that they were making an offer as I spoke to her. She asked if we were going to be at the house for awhile and I told her ya no problem and she said that the prospective buyer had some questions and that they would be over as soon as they typed up the offer. So an hour later the guy comes to the house and we are introduced and he starts asking hubby questions about the house and things and Becky said after it was all over with and we were going over the paperwork that he seemed a little put out that we were not home when he looked at the house. He was concerned with the house's plumbing and wanted to ask hubby some questions about that. Well we must have put his fears to bed cause when he left the house he was ready to close this deal quickly.

Anyway I am tickled that everything is complete and even though right now I am at my wits end as to where I will be living in the next 4 weeks (wondering if the camper will be my home) I am pleased that we have sold this one and are moving on to another chapter in our lives. Becky said that she will still continue to show the house until the deal is shored up, just in case this guy backs out of the deal. Things are looking up so I do hope we will find out in the next week where we are going. I have a dr appt on friday to go over the Mylo results and am looking to the future for that.

hugs and thanks for all the congrats CP'ers loves ya!

Scarred
HEALTH ISSUES: Herniated discs at S-1-L5, L5-L4, L4-L3. Two level fusion (2000); one level fusion (2002); Revision at L4-L3 (2003). Diagnosed with Failed Back Syndrome, Permanent Nerve damage and Chronic Pain

Medications:

Kadian, Lexipro, Percocet, Temazapim, Lunista, and Robaxin.

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