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Scarred_for_life
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   Posted 8/10/2008 2:26 PM (GMT -7)   
I do hope you all slept well(?) I didn't sleep very good at all. Kept waking up in tremendous pain and it seems that I am thinking about this move too much and its giving me a stomach ache. I keep wondering where we are going and what we are doing and then it gets my stomach to turning. Moving for a "Normal" person is stressful enough, but with us CP'ers it seems that it takes a huge toll on our minds and bodies that we often think that it will kill us before we even get things done.

It does not help that I am only getting 3-4 hours of real restful sleep and am so exhausted that I cannot even think straight. Boxes are beginning to be packed a little more regular around here and I feel like everything is so topsy tervy that it seems sad to me. But this too I will overcome and I know that with all of your support and good wishes as well as prayers that I will be ok in the long run. :-)

To this I thank each of you for your support in this time that I am feeling so up heaved and not knowing where I am going to land. Friday is the big day where I find out what they are going say regarding my Mylo and I am anticipating that as well. I am excited and nervous about the appt and wonder whether they will see anything on the Mylo or whether I too am going to end up with "Residual pain" that I believe to be something causing it. With everything off the walls, no pictures or wall hangings showing my family or my life here the house seems so empty and uninhabited that it leaves me feeling sad and totally alone.

I guess this move is beginning to get to me inside and I have been feeling a bit depressed. But this too shall pass unlike the pain that I am in every day with my back and legs.

Anyway, had to vent a bit. hugssss


Scarred
HEALTH ISSUES: Herniated discs at S-1-L5, L5-L4, L4-L3. Two level fusion (2000); one level fusion (2002); Revision at L4-L3 (2003). Diagnosed with Failed Back Syndrome, Permanent Nerve damage and Chronic Pain

Medications:

Kadian, Lexipro, Percocet, Temazapim, Lunista, and Robaxin.


PAlady
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   Posted 8/10/2008 2:52 PM (GMT -7)   
Dear Scarred,
You have so much on your plate right now! Sit down for a few mintes. Take a breath. Take several breaths. Get a box of kleenex. Look around at the empty walls and stacked boxes and remember all has taken place in that home, and let yourself have a good cry. Several good cries. Alone. And with your hubby. Maybe take one small photo or other symbol out that you can pack at the last minute to keep some continuity to look at and transport easily (even something you can just put in your purse). Write a good-bye letter to the home. You need to grieve this loss, and then I think you'll be ready to open to the new "space" that's being readied for you somewhere at this very moment!

And you're not just feeling in an upheaval - there's literal upheaval all around you! I am terrified when I think of moving (which I very likey may have to do one day and maybe not in the distant future and in a hurry like you and I won't have a hubby to help!) and for all the reasons you describe. The physical aspect alone is terrifying. And then there's the emotional piece. And in the middle of this you have the mylogram results. I wish I could come over and let you cry on my shoulder, but you can lean and cry on all our shoulders here as you go through this (as long as you make us some virtual ribs now and then! LOL).

Remember whatever the mylo shows you have time to make decisions about what to do, because you'll likely want to wait until you're settled in your new home. And your home so SO quickly and at full asking price (Wow) that seems to say to me the universe is working with you and this is the right move, and the next "place" will open itself to you just as easily.

But do let yourself grief. You don't want to push it all away. It's ok to say good-byes. And then you'll be saying hellos!

Hugs,
PaLady

ryand
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   Posted 8/10/2008 4:43 PM (GMT -7)   
Scarred:

I am sorry you've not been sleeping well. I know all too well how difficult it is to sleep with the CP alone, much less with the added stress of moving! I think PaLady has given you some god advice. Give yourself some time to enjoy the things you like the most about your home and savor those memories. You could even take some pictures of those places or parts of the house that hold particularly sweet memories for you and create a little memory book to take with you to your new home.

I will be thinking of you Friday as you meet with your doctor. I really hope this mylogram has given him some helpful information and that he will present you with some new and powerful treatment plans. Can't wait to hear how it goes!

Ry

Scarred_for_life
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   Posted 8/10/2008 6:27 PM (GMT -7)   
I think your both right. Its time to have a good cry and remember all the good memories that I have had in my house. I have sat out in my hot tub which will really be missed and cried for the fact that I will miss it as well :-( I think that is a great idea to make a photo album of my old home and plan to take a bunch of pictures to add of all the things I will miss about WY as well. (the mountains in particular are going in my little album). Your right about several things PA; so much things going on right now that I just don't know how to feel about them.

But I messed up badly this time. It seems that I have been saying that the warranty for the hot tub will transfer over to the new owner and in reality I found out that no it won't. Do not know how the new owner is going to feel about that but I hope that he still will take the home as is cause that is how we have told everyone it is being sold "As Is". There will be no deals....they either take it as it is with no more remodeling or they walk away and we start all over again. Of course I am getting a hold of my hot tub dealer to see what he can do for the new owners as far as parts for the tub if it should break down in the next four years, but I hold no hope that it will happen.

God I feel like such an idiot by telling them that the warranty transfers when it didn't. Guess I should have spoke with my hot tub guy before I said that. Anyway thanks gals that really helps to know that I can cry over the loss of this home.

hugsss

Scarred
HEALTH ISSUES: Herniated discs at S-1-L5, L5-L4, L4-L3. Two level fusion (2000); one level fusion (2002); Revision at L4-L3 (2003). Diagnosed with Failed Back Syndrome, Permanent Nerve damage and Chronic Pain

Medications:

Kadian, Lexipro, Percocet, Temazapim, Lunista, and Robaxin.


ryand
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   Posted 8/10/2008 6:58 PM (GMT -7)   
Scarred:

I don't think it would be a deal breaker about the hot tub warranty. That's a cool feature of your home, but ultimately it's not the only reason the buyer wanted the place I'm guessing. :-) I wouldn't worry too much about it right now. Like you said it can't be helped. He's still getting the hot tub! That in and of itself is pretty cool IMHO! Like you said - you've advertised the house "as is" so this just fits with that. I'm kind of surprised your realtor didn't track that down for you actually. To me that sounds like it would have been her job, not yours since the hot tub was a feature of the house. She should have researched the warranty issue as a part of her specs on the house.

Well, happy picture taking! I think it's a great idea to do some pics of the local scenery and places you like to visit too. You'll have a great memory book to share with your new neighbors.

Ry

Scarred_for_life
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   Posted 8/10/2008 7:25 PM (GMT -7)   
Well Ry I told her that I "Thought" that the hot tub might be able to transfer to the new owners, but that I would have to check with my dealer to see. But I think that you are right, I don't think it will be a deal breaker since it is in good running condition and that we have taken very good care of it. I am surprised as she did do a complete background research about the house and the lot from the paperwork at the courthouse.

Anyway I am going to speak to her tomorrow and let her know that the warranty does not transfer over to the new owners but that I have never had a problem with it and that they can speak to my hot tub dealer to verify whether there are any problems with the hot tub.

hugs

Scarred
HEALTH ISSUES: Herniated discs at S-1-L5, L5-L4, L4-L3. Two level fusion (2000); one level fusion (2002); Revision at L4-L3 (2003). Diagnosed with Failed Back Syndrome, Permanent Nerve damage and Chronic Pain

Medications:

Kadian, Lexipro, Percocet, Temazapim, Lunista, and Robaxin.


PAlady
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   Posted 8/10/2008 7:56 PM (GMT -7)   
Scarred,
I think you're understandably anxious over everything. From what you told your realtor, you're fine. And if you signed the sales agreement with it being "as is" then that's what the buyer has to abide by unless thre are some other clauses that would allow him to get out of the deal.

Now be careful that you don't cut off your nose to spite your face, as the saying goes. If the buyer, who's paying your full asking price, complains about the hot tub warranty, you can offer to see if you can purchase an extended one (maybe can find this out in advance), or give him a little discount on the price. But you don't want to lose that sale!! Don't let your anxiety get in the way!

PaLady

Tirzah
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   Posted 8/10/2008 8:29 PM (GMT -7)   
Scarred_for_life said...

But I messed up badly this time. It seems that I have been saying that the warranty for the hot tub will transfer over to the new owner and in reality I found out that no it won't. Do not know how the new owner is going to feel about that but I hope that he still will take the home as is cause that is how we have told everyone it is being sold "As Is". There will be no deals....they either take it as it is with no more remodeling or they walk away and we start all over again. Of course I am getting a hold of my hot tub dealer to see what he can do for the new owners as far as parts for the tub if it should break down in the next four years, but I hold no hope that it will happen.

God I feel like such an idiot by telling them that the warranty transfers when it didn't. Guess I should have spoke with my hot tub guy before I said that. Anyway thanks gals that really helps to know that I can cry over the loss of this home.

hugsss

Scarred


Scarred-
You can always buy them a home warranty. That should cover the hot tub & any other major appliances & wiring and all from any defects within one year from the date of closing. If needed, you can probably purchase one through your realtor's office.

Hope you get some sleep tonight!
frances

Scarred_for_life
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   Posted 8/11/2008 4:23 AM (GMT -7)   
Thanks gals for all the help I really do appreciate it. I am going to call my hot tub guy on Tuesday to see what we can do for them as far as the hot tub warranty. Maybe since the hot tub is not being moved he will extend the warranty to cover them or maybe he will just keep it in our name for the next four years until the warranty is up. But I will see what I can do about getting them ok with the warranty. I do not think that it will be a deal breaker as I did tell my real estate agent that I "thought" the warranty was transferable. I am also going to call Becky today and see if she thinks this will be a problem. I also have another thing that I can do and that is have my hot tub guy come and do an inspection of the hot tub to determine its "New Owner Certification" so that the new owners will know that the hot tub is in good working condition before the sale. They will give them a certification saying that the hot tub is in good working order at the time of the sale.

I am also going to check into what you said Frances and if it is not to expensive I will purchase a one year extended warranty to cover just the hot tub in case something happens to the pump or heating unit. The jets are really not that expensive to replace as they only cost maybe 10 bucks for the biggest jet and the new owner should be able to cover this. After much thinking upon this I am not real worried about it and I really don't feel that this is going to be a huge problem for the new owner. I will talk to Becky and see and my hot tub guy to see what he can do and go from there.

As far as the price.....I do not want to come down from what I have put the price at and the owners have offered. Lots around my little town are selling for 7000 for the same size of lot with no hookups. I can get at least 3500 to 4000 for the trailer if I sell it separately and I know for a fact that I can get 5400 out of the hot tub without the warranty as is. so the guy is actually getting a 500 dollar discount as it stands right now. Plus I am throwing in the washer and dryer with the house which I had been thinking about but did not tell Becky that it was a definite that it was included in the sale of the house anyway. I told her that if we could find a house that included the washer and dryer that I would leave them behind and the new buyer wanted it thrown in with the sale so this I am not worried about.

We have already signed the contract that includes these things with the home: the curtains and blinds.; the washer and dryer, the hot tub, fridge and stove plus a storage shed. So I don't think that the fact that the hot tub does not transfer warranty is going to be a problem and if it is, I will leave the hot tub out and sell it outright or do a trade in so that I can buy a new one when I reach the other end of my journey.
HEALTH ISSUES: Herniated discs at S-1-L5, L5-L4, L4-L3. Two level fusion (2000); one level fusion (2002); Revision at L4-L3 (2003). Diagnosed with Failed Back Syndrome, Permanent Nerve damage and Chronic Pain

Medications:

Kadian, Lexipro, Percocet, Temazapim, Lunista, and Robaxin.


kara487
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   Posted 8/11/2008 9:22 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi Scarred, I am hoping you are have a LPD today.

d_davis777
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   Posted 8/11/2008 10:20 AM (GMT -7)   
Oh scarred i feel so bad for you just try to relax. I know easier said then done exspecially without a peacful night sleep! I have to move because the bank forclosed so i too am stressing and a little to much is going wrong with me so i share your pain. At least we can go through this together! I wish you the best!
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PAlady
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   Posted 8/11/2008 10:45 AM (GMT -7)   
Scarred,
Dear friend, I say this with all kindness....I think you're obsessing way too much abou the hot tub issue and a few other details of the sale. That's what the realtor is for! Your real anxiety I think is much more over bigger things like your health and the move. I think you need to find some way to center yourself a bit, and reassure yourself it will all be ok! Tell the realtor about the hot tub, and let her deal with it! She's getting a commission for these things. Go about your packing. And grieving. And trust that you will have a place to live when you get to Greensburg. You have a wonderful hubby (and I'm married to my tv in a far different way than you!) and he has what sounds like a great job. This will work out!

Sit down. Breathe. Cry. Laugh. And believe it will come together.

And I, too, know that's easier said than done, but you have many more good things happening to you now! The hot tub will work out!

Hugs,
PaLady

Scarred_for_life
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   Posted 8/11/2008 11:20 AM (GMT -7)   
PA; I feel much better since I spoke with the Realtor today. She assured me that it was no big deal about the warranty on the hot tub and that it was not the selling point of the whole home. She is going to do an addendum on the sale stating that there is no way that the warranty transfers to the new owner and did not think that it would be the deal breaker. So with this on my mind I am no able to relax and ease into this whole new path in my life.

I also called a Realtor in Bucklin KS and found out that I have two options for homes there as well, so that too made a world of difference as far as my mood and stress level. I do think that I was stressing too much on this move but now I have had a good cry (eeeep last night I blew up at hubby for even selling my hot tub and told him that he will buy me a new one soon) and hubby let me get it all out of my system so I am good as far as dealing with all of this stuff.

So the move is on and I am dealing with this move in a different way then I did last night. I cannot do anything about certain things in this house and I will be sooooooooooo glad to get out from under it that I am now looking forward to this move.

The Mylo results are in and I am none too happy about the results as doc's nurse said to me that they saw no remarkable changes on the films that would explain my increased pain. mad So what now??? Well now we move on with the appt on Friday and see what doc wants to do with me from there. Feeling kinda blue that they did not find anything on the Mylo and I wish that something were there to explain my pain. But there is nothing I can do about that either so from here we just keep trucking on and see what happens in the future.

Your words of encouragement really helped me PA and Ry and I feel like I can finally put everything to rest as I move forward into another phase of my life. Thanks you two and hugssssss.

D: I am so sorry that you had to move and wish you the best of luck. Thank you so much for your words of encouragement and god bless you through this tough time in your life.

Kara; God bless you darlin. I am so happy that I found you all and think of you often as I go through my painful days. got good news to tell everyone.....remember how I was getting no sleep 3-4 hours a night because the doc's office messed up and did not refill my Lunestia in time??? Well as of tonight I will have my Lunesta to aide me in sleeping and I hope to get a little more sleep tonight YAY!

Anyway, hugs to you all and hoping your days are a little less with the "Pain Monster"

hugsssss

Scarred
HEALTH ISSUES: Herniated discs at S-1-L5, L5-L4, L4-L3. Two level fusion (2000); one level fusion (2002); Revision at L4-L3 (2003). Diagnosed with Failed Back Syndrome, Permanent Nerve damage and Chronic Pain

Medications:

Kadian, Lexipro, Percocet, Temazapim, Lunista, and Robaxin.


Tirzah
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   Posted 8/11/2008 11:43 AM (GMT -7)   
Scarred,

Maybe the pain level is up because of all the stress with selling/moving plus all the extra housecleaning and stuff you've had to do.

I know I don't do too well when I have to take on extra things. I get distracted & stop paying as much attention to my pain for a little while, but before I know it, it comes roaring to life worse than ever. Also, my doc tells me that sleep is needed to heal our bodies. Maybe that has something to do with it also.

Hopefully after getting a good night's sleep tonight & a little less stress in the days ahead your pain level will go back down.

take care,
frances

ryand
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   Posted 8/11/2008 2:26 PM (GMT -7)   
Scarred:

Glad to hear that things are coming together for you and that you are settling in to these changes in your life. As PaLady said, you are blessed with a wonderful husband, so be thankful for that and draw strength from him. He clearly loves you. The move will all come together in good time.

I know the Mylo results are kind of frustrating too, but don't spend too much energy worrying about it yet. Wait to hear what the doctor has to say on Friday. He may have some new ideas to share with you even with the results seeming similar. Keep your chin up!

Ry

Scarred_for_life
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   Posted 8/11/2008 2:55 PM (GMT -7)   
I am just going to try and relax and not worry about this. Time to move on from here and hope things will be ok from this point on.
HEALTH ISSUES: Herniated discs at S-1-L5, L5-L4, L4-L3. Two level fusion (2000); one level fusion (2002); Revision at L4-L3 (2003). Diagnosed with Failed Back Syndrome, Permanent Nerve damage and Chronic Pain

Medications:

Kadian, Lexipro, Percocet, Temazapim, Lunista, and Robaxin.


Scarred_for_life
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   Posted 8/11/2008 4:01 PM (GMT -7)   
Well boys and girls at least one thing is now verified and ready to continue on. We are definitely headed to KS. Within the next two weeks we should be packed and leaving wonderful Wyoming for the great state of KS. For now we are going to be living in Bucklin, where hubby's mom and dad live and it sounds like it will be a permanent deal later on. I am going to have hubby put in for a loan for a home so that we can get the new house locked in before we move so things are going quite well!

Hubby has to call his brother tonight and then we will get things going here so that we will be ready to move within the next two weeks.

YAY!

Scarred
HEALTH ISSUES: Herniated discs at S-1-L5, L5-L4, L4-L3. Two level fusion (2000); one level fusion (2002); Revision at L4-L3 (2003). Diagnosed with Failed Back Syndrome, Permanent Nerve damage and Chronic Pain

Medications:

Kadian, Lexipro, Percocet, Temazapim, Lunista, and Robaxin.


ryand
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   Posted 8/11/2008 4:25 PM (GMT -7)   
Yay! Great news, Scarred! I'm sure this is a big load off for you. turn

Look! Did you see all the fun new emoticons, too? Great news and fun smileys to celebrate with!! What more could we ask for? (Okay, so we could ask for pain relief, but I'm trying to stick with what's within my grasp here! LOL! smhair Isn't it cute?)

roll

(okay, I'll stop...)
Ry

Scarred_for_life
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   Posted 8/11/2008 5:51 PM (GMT -7)   
I love it Ry!!!!! I am so excited to move on with my life and find a place where I can feel at home! HOME...........there is a word that I don't get to use often!!!!! I am buying a HOME.....not a trailer like I have lived in since I was 17 years old but a real Home. Something that is going to gain equity and will be mine to do with as I wish!!!!

Excited??? Can ya tell?? hehehehe
HEALTH ISSUES: Herniated discs at S-1-L5, L5-L4, L4-L3. Two level fusion (2000); one level fusion (2002); Revision at L4-L3 (2003). Diagnosed with Failed Back Syndrome, Permanent Nerve damage and Chronic Pain

Medications:

Kadian, Lexipro, Percocet, Temazapim, Lunista, and Robaxin.


PAlady
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   Posted 8/11/2008 6:45 PM (GMT -7)   
Scarred,
That is so great! I'm glad you're going to relax some and also that you're getting excited about having a HOME. smilewinkgrin

And as far as the mylo results, my first thought was good - there was no change for the worse! There are reasons for your pain, but maybe no one is going to pinpoint a source that can be resolved easily. But you have pain, and it needs managed. And at least there's no huge negative news right on the heels of your move!

Ry - you shouldn't have given me a heads up on the emoticons! I didn't see them at first! Still no upsidown head, though! rolleyes

PaLady

ryand
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   Posted 8/11/2008 7:06 PM (GMT -7)   
PaLady - This one rolls upside down!

roll

(Do I deliver or WHAT? tee hee)

smilewinkgrin

PAlady
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   Posted 8/11/2008 7:15 PM (GMT -7)   
Ry,
You sure do!! yeah

Can't wait to see what we do with the Beach Party thread!! smhair

PaLady

Scarred_for_life
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   Posted 8/11/2008 7:35 PM (GMT -7)   
Exactly PA and that is still encouraging to me. But....and there is a huge but here, it looks like we will actually be making less at the wage that the big boss quoted to hire hubby at and with the state taxes it just won't work. But I still will get a new home, as if this does not pan out we will move to the next city over and I will have a new home and still be in WY. I'll keep ya'll posted as to what we decide hugssssss.
HEALTH ISSUES: Herniated discs at S-1-L5, L5-L4, L4-L3. Two level fusion (2000); one level fusion (2002); Revision at L4-L3 (2003). Diagnosed with Failed Back Syndrome, Permanent Nerve damage and Chronic Pain

Medications:

Kadian, Lexipro, Percocet, Temazapim, Lunista, and Robaxin.

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