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PAlady
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   Posted 8/17/2008 12:15 PM (GMT -7)   
Dear Ry,
Just wanted to send you hugs!

((((((((((((((((((( Ry ))))))))))))))))))))

I know there's a full moon out. Is that what's going on? smhair

It seems so many of us are out of sorts in one way or another.

Thanks for the thought about the car. It's really the combination of the two problems that has me a little nervous. Normally I just try it anyway, and usually can make it. The hood latches partially, but it's the gas fumes that are a bit scarey. And then I started to wonder about the combination - more air getting in under the hood with gas fumes? It somehow doesn't sound too great! So I may have to break down in the morning and call AAA. I was just shocked though that you only get 3 free miles of towing! And then I'll have to ride in the tow truck, which should do wonders for my back. And I'll get a ride to the office to work for a couple of hours, but will have to walk to get lunch, and there's major construction on the road the office is on! Can't cut a break! But I keep telling myself somehow I'll get through it. I'm just praying the repairs aren't too costly (like they're ever cheap? shakehead)

Anyway, enough about my woes! I'll try to get up the "feeling" to start a new Beach Party thread, but maybe we're all in mourning a bit for Wilson!? idea Either way, you won't see much of me Monday as I won't have access to a computer until I get home at night - and I'll probably be hurting and collapse by then! But likely without a car for at least a few days so I sure do hope my internet connection doesn't get wacky!!!

More and more hugs to you, friend,

PaLady yeah

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   Posted 8/17/2008 12:26 PM (GMT -7)   
((((((((((((PaLady))))))))))))))

Thank you so much, friend. I needed that.

idea Hey, one more thought on the AAA, though. After I just read what you wrote about the mileage limit, I remembered a time when I had to have my car towed out in the country (hit a deer!) and didn't have enough miles. Anyhow, instead of paying extra for the towing, I "upgraded" my AAA membership to the "gold" or whatever the next level up was and then they had a 50-mile towing for free option. It cost me an extra fee for the upgraded membership that year, but that was still quite a bit less than the mileage would have cost for the towing. Worth a try, at least. :-)

But thanks so much for the note. You know, when I saw the "for Ryand" pop up there, well... you just warmed my heart. I know you are in the middle of so much right now, and for you to take the time to encourage me is just above and beyond! You are a true friend. I can't tell you how blessed I feel to "know" you.

smhair (this is going to be my pseudo-Wilson until they come back!)

Ry

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   Posted 8/17/2008 12:56 PM (GMT -7)   
Ry,
I feel equally blessed to connect with you. Most everyone here understands the pain issues, and many the finances, but add to that being alone.... it compounds everything in ways I never dreamed!

But the upgrade membership - hmmm - did you do that right when you called them for help? Or did you upgrade after you had that tow? Maybe I'll go online and see if I can upgrade my membership today!! That's a great idea!

Thanks!!
PaLady

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   Posted 8/17/2008 1:07 PM (GMT -7)   
I think I upgraded on the phone when I called for help. Not really sure, actually. (memory, you know?) I do know that I did it before the tow happened, though. I hope you can do it online! That would be great! smilewinkgrin

Ry

PAlady
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   Posted 8/17/2008 1:08 PM (GMT -7)   
I'll finish reading posts here, and then go on the AAA website.

THANK YOU for the idea!!! idea

By the way - did you see Phelps last night!!! And Torres! (too bad it wasn't gold for her but what an inspiration!)! yeah

PaLady

Post Edited (PAlady) : 8/17/2008 2:14:16 PM (GMT-6)


PAlady
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   Posted 8/17/2008 2:27 PM (GMT -7)   
Ry,
Well, it was a good idea! idea BUT now needs to be classified in the 'if it's too good to be true..." column. sad

I called AAA (they won't let you upgrade online - just gave an 800#) and they said there's a 10 day wait before upgraded benefits go into effect. Seems too many people were doing it just when they needed the tow!! smilewinkgrin

So, back to square one. Do I take the risk and try driving (unfortunately, I don't have a cell phone...can't afford it and really would only use it on these kinds of occasions!) and if something "happens" oh, say, like the hood flies up in my face, or the engine catches on fire....
then I just pull over and wave or scream or cry or all of the above? shakehead

I know, I know, anyone reading this will say "don't do it", it's not worth the chance... and the odd thing is it's not only about the money which will probably be around $60 or so, but it's the dread of riding in some bouncing, hard-seated tow truck with heaven only knows who driving! And that's just to START my day! shocked

Oh, well, the earth is not coming to an end. It is beautiful weather (could be mid-winter, blizzard type!), and I will survive. For now. Just like you and everyone else. confused

PaLady

ryand
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   Posted 8/17/2008 5:34 PM (GMT -7)   
Oh, bummer. These are the kind of situations that make me hate all our new computerized and techno ways of doing business that have removed the local contacts. Before, when the people were all folks you knew, they would have just waived that 10 day rule and made an exception.

Well, I will be thinking of you and praying for you tomorrow. I know what you mean about not wanting to ride in a tow truck! Is there any way your cousin could come out and follow you into town whilst you drive your car? Hopefully there wouldn't be any problems, but then if you ran into trouble, she could run you the rest of the way to town and you could have a tow truck go pick up the car? I don't remember if your cousin lives close enough.... Wish I did! I'd be there in a heartbeat! yeah I'd even see if I could find a few Wilsons on the way and bring them with me! smhair (tee hee)

My pain seems to have gone back up through the roof again tonight, which is super frustrating. I got a nasty headache over my right eye accompanied by nausea this afternoon on top of the pain, so that was fun... shakehead (sigh) At least that has faded a bit. I am hoping I get some sleep tonight, because I was planning to try to work for a couple hours tomorrow.

Okay, so here's the bad news, too... You know how my PM wanted me to stop taking the oxy that my PCP put me on? Well, I figured I'd finish the script I had and then stop, so that's done this week. shocked Well, you might imagine what I'm thinking now... I have felt SO crummy this past week and weekend. Now I'm really scared that if I stop the oxy I'm going to end up in the hospital again before I can blink! cry Oh, what should I do? Should I ask the PCP for a step down dose of the oxy? 1/2 what I'm taking now? instead of just stopping? That means I'll still be on it when I see the neuro. Which means he might not see how much pain I'm in. Or should I just stop it and let what happens happen? I guess it would be technically good for the neuro if I ended up in the hospital again, but I SO don't want to be in that place again - physically speaking or pain wise! sad

I think you're right, PaLady. Between the full moon and our missing Wilsons we are just all a mess, aren't we? smhair
Ry

PAlady
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   Posted 8/17/2008 6:51 PM (GMT -7)   
Oh, Dear Ry,
My initial thoughts are I can't see why you have to be off all the meds for the neurosurgical eval. Maybe I'm wrong. But I've had two evals (surgical) and no one ever said I was to stop taking pain meds before. Granted, I wasn't on any ER meds, but I still think they rely mostly on MRI's and such as well as your reports of pain. I definitely think you ought to contact your PCP for something - at least an increase in your BT meds.

I don't know if this is a helpful idea or not, but for the past couple of years every time I go into a new MD I write a nice introductory letter that not only spells out my meds, but as succinctly as possible gives them the history of my pain, and an accurate report of current symptoms, as well as how they developed. Some docs pay attention to this; others don't but actually my surgeon from Pittsburgh did rely on it. I brought him a stack of my medical records (the ones he wanted - they only tend to want what's relevant for them) but he said my letter (I think it was just a page but it was neatly typed - like if you were applying for a job!) gave him a better overview than the reports.

So maybe doing this, so that even if you're still on some meds you can tell him specifically what your pain is like without the meds. It seems so unfair for you to have to go without. shakehead

Does any of this help? sad

PaLady

ryand
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   Posted 8/18/2008 4:05 PM (GMT -7)   
PaLady:

The letter is a good idea, thanks! I guess you just get used to the run of the mill appointment routine - being shuffled into a room (usually at least 45 minutes AFTER your scheduled appointment time) and then waiting another 20-30 minutes for the doctor to come in open your chart, ask a few cursory questions, and then whisk away again after spending all of 3 minutes with you! I forget that there are doctors who don't operate that way. That sometimes they really take the time to listen and talk to you.

I think I'll call my PCP tomorrow and just ask to talk to the nurse and have her find out what the PCP recommends. I trust him and think maybe he might even just tell me to stay on the full dose of this oxy. I am taking a BT med too, so going off the oxy wouldn't leave me without anything, so if he advises trying to step it down, I will do that too. I think if I go that route I will feel a little less nervous about it because I know if he has me start to step down and then find it isn't working he would likely be willing to re-up the increased dose again.

I am going to work on a letter right away!

I hope you had an okay day today. I know it was a rough one in lots of ways. Did you get the car to town okay? I hope your pain wasn't too terrible.

smhair Lots of Hugs,
Ry

PAlady
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   Posted 8/18/2008 5:38 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi!
What a day!! I took the risk and drove the car myself to the dealership, about a 45 minute drive normally but going about 35mph took a "tad" longer. But a least the hood didn't fly up in my face and nothing caught fire! smhair

BUT that was only the beginning of what looks to be a long and expensive endeavor. i got the car there but it won't be back home anytime soon! There was a gas line leak but it was on top of the lines over the gas tank, so I didn't see anything leaking, just smelled it! shocked But Honda no longer makes this type of car, so the parts are getting harder to get. They could locate 2 of the 3 parts i need, but the third? On "back order"! Could take 3-4 weeks! shocked shocked

It's a good thing I'm not working very much, but I don't know what I'm going to do. The office is 45 minutes away, so I can't just ask people to transport me. My one cousin made the entire round trip tonight to pick me up. The dealer is going to make more calls tomorrow, and the District Manager will be there so if they can't find the part I need within a few days I think they're going to ok a rental or loaner. And we won't even talk about the cost. It's probably a good thing it's going to take a few days or longer because I have to find the money! And this wasn't even one of the parts i expected to go in the car. shakehead

Anyway, I'm exhausted, but home. Drinking iced coffee, and will see what the tv holds. I'm sure I'll be back on later ....unless I totally crash (very possible!).

I'm glad you're going to call your PCP. You're getting better "service" there than that PM doc, that's for sure!

Hope you're doing a little better today. Did you get to work at all?

Hugs,
PaLady
Thanks for finding that post for Cloe! I'm so burned out tonight I'm amazing I'm writing! confused

Post Edited (PAlady) : 8/18/2008 6:46:56 PM (GMT-6)


ryand
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   Posted 8/18/2008 7:04 PM (GMT -7)   
PaLady:

I am glad you made it to town safely! I was thinking of you lots today and praying you'd be okay. Sounds like quite a nasty problem. I wish more than anything there was some way I could help out! sad I don't know what type of work you do, but is there any option of working at home somehow until your car is repaired? Since you have a computer and internet access it might be something to explore?

I am feeling a little better today. Thanks for checking. The headache is gone. The pain was still pretty bad today, but the meds took the edge off again. Unfortunately, the nausea didn't go away with the headache. Oh well, can't have it all, right? shakehead I did manage to get into the office for a little while. I had one of those moments (I'm positive you'll know what I'm talking about here) where I was having a conversation with someone but my back was hurting SO much and I was SO nauseous that I could barely even attend to what she was saying... I was just thinking "don't pass out. don't pass out. don't pass out" rolleyes I started getting that cold clammy sweaty feeling and everything. Thankfully she didn't notice! smilewinkgrin

I am thinking when I call my PCP tomorrow that this might just end up turning into the conversation where I break down and ask him if he's willing to take over my pain management officially so I can just dump my PM. We'll see how it goes.

Hugs & Happy Wilson Visits!
Ry

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   Posted 8/19/2008 4:27 PM (GMT -7)   
Well, my PCP said I definitely shouldn't stop the oxy suddenly, so he's going to write a step down script for a 1/2 strength dose for a couple weeks. He wasn't worried about me being on it when I saw the neuro. I feel better about this with him in the loop. I did tell the nurse that I was not feeling very comfortable with this PM, but we didn't talk about having the PCP take over my pain management completely since I have this neuro consult coming up. We'll see what happens there.

Anyhow, thanks for all your good thoughts and ideas. I hope your day was low key and you were able to relax a bit.

Ry

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   Posted 8/19/2008 4:45 PM (GMT -7)   
Ry,
Good for your PCP!! I hope he's willing to take over your PM, depending on the neuro consult, at least until you can find another PM. That one you're got needs to be introduced to Dragoness' surgeon! And they both need to be put on a boat and sent way out to sea!! devil

At least I got a bit of good news a little while ago. The dealerhsip is going to pay for a rental for me, so my cousin will drive me in tomorrow morning to get it. Whew! It was weird to look at the empty driveway all day and feel so helpless and dependent!

Now tonight we need to watch some Oympics, although one of the other stations spoiled the gymnast results for me! GRR! mad

Later,
PaLady

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   Posted 8/19/2008 5:44 PM (GMT -7)   
PaLady:

Oh, turn hahahaha I just had to laugh about the surgeon and the PM on a boat. devil I agree - they'd be good company for each other. hahahaha tongue

What WONDERFUL news about the rental car! That is a blessing indeed! yeah I'm so glad to hear it. At least it is one less thing to worry about, right? We will take every little break we can get at this point, won't we?

Ugh... I just got one of those phone calls today that I am putting off returning. I'm beginning to wonder how cold I can bear to keep my house this winter.... Well, I guess the one good thing about living alone is that my grocery bill is pretty minimal! smilewinkgrin I'm still waiting on Scarred to come through with her $15 million!

lots of hugs!
Ry
smhair

PAlady
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   Posted 8/19/2008 6:26 PM (GMT -7)   
Oh, one of "THOSE" calls dealing with $$? Yuck. Puts pits at the bottom of your stomach, doesn't it? sad

Maybe we should all start returning eachother's phone calls? Give these people different numbers and really mess with their minds?? smilewinkgrin

I thought Scarred was buidling us an entire resort? Hey, that's the deal I made!! yeah

Later,
PaLady
(and yes, I know what you mean about how cold you can keep it...I have too many windows and hate closing myself in but really may have to put plastic on most of them. Even then, this place is cold! Better buy more long underwear! smhair)

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   Posted 8/20/2008 6:21 PM (GMT -7)   
Ry,
How are you doing tonight, friend? Something makes me feel like you're not having a great day. I hope I'm wrong! yeah

PaLady

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   Posted 8/20/2008 8:41 PM (GMT -7)   
PaLady:

Thank you, friend. Your intuition is right on, unfortunately. I just stopped here for a couple minutes - I really don't even have it in me to talk about it all... ya know? But I can't tell you what an encouragement it was to see your note here. Just to know you were thinking of me means the world.

I'll try to come back later.
Ry

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   Posted 8/20/2008 9:45 PM (GMT -7)   
(((((((((( Ry )))))))))))

PAlady
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   Posted 8/22/2008 9:40 PM (GMT -7)   
Ry,
I hope you're ok. Haven't seen you post in a couple of days. shakehead

Wilson's cousin is getting worried! smhair

Hugs,
PaLady

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   Posted 8/22/2008 10:33 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi Ry,

Just wanted to echo PA's sentiments that I hope everything's okay. My mac won't let me put in any icons, but I wanted to point out that if you mouse click while the rolling heads are rolling across your screen, you can freeze them in the upside down position. When you're tired enough it's a super fun game to play to try to get them exactly upside down. :)

anyways, we're missing you & wishing you well.

peace,
frances

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   Posted 8/23/2008 9:55 AM (GMT -7)   
Ry,
I have a Mac and am frustrated because I can't use them. I'm not sure I understand your game with the heads. I'll have to read it again.
Poor Mac people ... All we can do is play Head Games. : /

Ry, I haven't read this topic. I'm have to get to the grocerey store. I want to ask you about the Pain Pump. I can't read my thread because
for some reason it's really long horizontally and runs off the sides of the screen. Did I say that clear? Anyway, I'm posting a new topic
regarding Pain Pumps so I can read them.

It may be out of the Forum rules to post another thread on the same topic but I gotta try.

Pamela Neckpain

PAlady
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   Posted 8/23/2008 10:31 AM (GMT -7)   
Just to avoid confusion - I just started this as a little aside to check in with Ry. So glad you decided to start another thread re:the pain pump.

I also have a Mac but can use the emoticons, so I'm not sure what the story is. You do have to click on I think where it says "post reply" or "new reply" to get the emoticons to appear (at least on my computer). If you just fill in the box at the bottom of the screen you don't get any emoticons - just text. I don't know if this helps. I'm certainly not a computer wiz! Maybe read under the "help" buttons because there's a lot of good ideas and explanations there about all this!

Ry - still hoping to hear from your soon. yeah

PaLady

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   Posted 8/23/2008 7:36 PM (GMT -7)   
Thanks, PaLady & Frances, for your kind comments and well wishes. I've had a rough couple of days and it's just been all I can do to pull myself through from one moment to the next. cry My back pain has just been really out of reach for my pain meds, so sleep has been elusive. And then I went to work for a few hours this week and while I was there I got a message from one of the "financial" people calling about one of my medical bills. They left a message on a line I SHARE at work! I was just appalled and completely humiliated! shakehead It's bad enough that it's nearly impossible to hide the pain from everyone at work (and, yes, they DO discriminate because of it whether they mean to or not). But now they all know that my bills are mounting up too. I can only imagine the water cooler chatter when I'm not there.

I am working hard to find the silver lining right now. I do have to say God has been gracious to me too, though. I found myself just sitting in my living room crying as I thought about how I'd lost so much - social life, work life, financial security, my dreams... and now I felt like I had to add losing my good reputation to the list. But then I got a phone call from a friend at work who wanted to share some compliments she'd heard about me, and then an email came from someone I hadn't heard from in a while and they said several really encouraging and complimentary things, and then I finally logged in here again and found that you guys were thinking of me too - that someone really cared. I need to remember those things most. So thank you, dear sweet new friends. What a blessing you've been to me this week. (and many times before and no doubt many times to come) :-)

PaLady, you know you have a special place in my heart. Thanks for checking in and for keeping Wilson in the picture! smhair

And Frances, it's been a blessing to get to know you as well, and thanks for the great Wilson game idea! I HAD to go try it out, and it's pretty cute. smilewinkgrin

Thank you friends. I hope to be back in fighting form soon. Many hugs!
Ry

p.s. Pamela - I'm sorry I don't know how to help you with the emoticon thing. I am using a Mac and it works for me. ??

PAlady
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   Posted 8/23/2008 9:10 PM (GMT -7)   
Ry,
I'm so glad you checked in. I was getting kinda worried. smhair I do know about losing one's reputation and things along those lines due to the financial issues. So much info. came out during a failed worker's comp. case - including one lousy note my PCP's office had written that of course, was seen by my employer. And those financial people can get very nasty. I've had a message left at my office, too, and thankfully it was a private voice mail, but just listening feels like a punch to the gut. I always at least prided myself on paying my bill, and my reputation and such, and like you said along with so many other losses sometimes it's almost too much to bear. shakehead

But it's good to hear from you, and to know you had a few things to help uplift you. And that you figured out how to play the Wilson's game (I haven't tried yet!). I so wish we could get him back!! yeah

I'll be looking for your posts again....and am trying to get up the energy to start a new Beach Party thread. Seems this has been a lousy week for a lot of us! sad

Hugs,
PaLady

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   Posted 8/24/2008 6:25 AM (GMT -7)   
PaLady:

Thank you, friend. I knew of course that if anyone could understand it would be you. There is this person at the office who has decided that it is their responsibility to monitor and adjust my work now too. She acts (toward the boss) like she "just cares so much for Ry" and "really wants to help" but what it really boils down to is that she has been envious of the respect I've gotten from others and she sees this as a chance to announce to everyone that I'm not 100% anymore. I had a conversation with my boss after I returned to work and told him I was very taken aback by the gossip that was going on and felt personally attacked and really felt that it crossed the line. He said "oh, what I've heard isn't gossip... it's just real concern for you." Right. People who were "really concerned" enough to not once pick up a phone and call ME and ask ME how I was or visit ME when I was in the hospital are "really concerned" enough that they should have a right to talk about me and say things that are not true when I'm not there. uh-huh. Thanks for the support, boss. rolleyes

OK, good grief. I need to stop moaning, right? smilewinkgrin I know I'm not alone in this. And I need to remember that what these people really want (the scoop on exactly what is happening with me) they cannot have unless I give it to them. So even if more dirty rotten scumbags from accounting departments decide to call my phone, all they can leave are innuendos, right? I'm OK! I'm OK! We're OK, PaLady! We're OK! I think we can, I think we can, I think we can.... turn

I hope you are feeling okay today. How goes the car situation? Did they find the 3rd part?

Ry
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