I just want to dito what everyone else said and give a brief history, my daughter is a recovering herion addict and I would have never thought she would have gotten into all that, I have raised my kids to be stong and to be leaders and not followers and how dangerous that route is. I even have a brother who still is heavy into all drugs and has been sence he was 13 and he is now 34. My daughter was a straight A student in all honors classes and a great child with a loving heart. She dropped out of school at the end of 10th and still hasnt not got her GED. She is 18 now.
My daughters started off on pain pills she got from a firends house and it went from there and it went fast. Some people have very additive personalities. I dont know how much you know about prescribtion pill and kids. But it is so bad. Street value for one perc is about 10$ and they are rampit in the schools along with pot, coke, and meth or herion.
I do agree that you should make sure you have proff because once you cross that line there is no turning back. With that said , I say trust your instints, they usu. are right, and talk with your husband about your concerns a united front is always better. Not only is it better it is ness. You to need to be on the same page because if and thats IF he did take then you to need to be together on how to deal with it. One thing that I have learned is that when one parent doesnt see or believe that there child would do that, that then leaves open the door for your step son to play both sides agaist each other. That in turn will cause problems with you are your husband as well as distroy trust between you to.
I was not with my daughter father when she got into all this, and her father did not want to believe me so when I told him about it he let her move out there with him and she got into even more trouble out there and her drug prob got worse becuse he just refused to deal with it. He was like no, not my sweet baby.
I can understand you step son may be a good child and does well is school but at the end of the day as Ry said these kids today are under so much pressure to achieve so much more than we ever were and to be the best at it as well... There is no time for them just to be kids any more....I dont know if your aware of this but teen sucide is the highest it ever has been, drug use is a high as it has ever been with teens and young adults. They are looking for anything they can to stay on TOP of all that is thrown at them and so many are starting to crack under all the pressure.
Without you and your husband being on the same page is can cause so much more damage in the long run than you realize. No one and I mean, NO one wants to believe there child would do such a thing but it happens so much and to many GOOD and LOVING parents. If he is into it he will need both of you to get the help he needs and lots of love and support.
You diffently need to get a safe for you meds. With any kids in the house and potent drugs they should be locked up. I know I never thought of it myself intil my daughter came back to live with me. I should have done it along time ago because you just never know. I know I have went to take my pills and got disctracted, door, kids fighting, exc. and left them on the counter. All it takes is one.
Just one more thing I want to say, I hope you no this is not your fault if he did take them. He is old enough to make his own decissions, and knows the difference between right and wrong. The worse thing is for you to assign blame to yourself. It does not help anything to carry that blaim and it wil in the long run make things worse if he did take them. Guilt is a usless emotion and it only cause harm and not good. I only say that because as parents and step parents we always take that on ourselves. The what ifs. I know I did and it causes so much more harm for both me and my daughter. I couldnt even help her the way I needed to because I was to busy trying to make things better for what I thought was my failure. It took me many yrs to stop blaiming myslef and stop bailing her out all the time becuase of that quilt. I made it so much harder for her to get clean because of my quilt.
I wish you luck with whatever you deciede to do and at the end of the day it is your decission to handle this the best way you think. I just offer up my experiences. I will pray for you and your family Cloe and if you need anything at all please fell free to email at any time. This is never any easy sitution to aproach and I really do feel for you and can empathize so deeply.