I have to agree with PA Lady. I also remember your posts from before, and although I'm sure that you wish that he was not abusing his pain meds, he is abusing them just as he was before.
The problem med before was the Oxycodone/Oxycontin- by the way, they are both the same med. He was using the methadone to get him through the times when he used up his monthly script in less than half of the time to avoid withdrawal. All he did, was manage to get his doctor to give him far more of his drug of choice, and to get rid of the methadone, and I am not convinced that he does not have a supply somewhere of that......
He is still abusing the same med. Altering the method of delivery is a violation of his pain contract. Whether or not he gets it into his bloodsteam faster or not is irrelevant. He is abusing the meds.. He is abusing them also by taking more than prescribed when he can find them. If he is not abusing them , why is he not asking you for an extra dose ,rather than go sneaking around the house looking for them?
Have you met with his doctor? I believe that you should. You might get an eye opening when you describe to the doctor what your husband's previous experiences are with abusing pain meds and what his actions are now....he would be cut off and that would not necessarily be a bad thing in his case.
I know that you want to believe him, as you did before, but the evidence is right before your eyes. Just because he is not drugged out on the couch means that he has learned to hide it better and it does not mean that he is not abusing......
He needs treatment........long term, rigidly controlled treatment, and in my opinion, his access to narcotic pain meds cut off.....permanently.
I'm sorry if my stance is harsh, but he has a history of repeated substance abuse, and regardless of the negative consequences, he still choose to abuse....
Thank you Sandi for taking the time to help. I DO know that what you are saying is the truth....I just need to hear it every time this happens. I thought he had made some progress, and maybe he has, but definately not enough progress. I will make an appointment with his doctor. His doctor is on vacation for three weeks, but I WILL keep you all posted.
I also told my husband that he now has to come off narcotic painkillers completely and forever. Right thing to do? He has another script filled this Friday, and he said he would begin a taper then with me holding his meds. I will also insist on random drug tests. I hope he'll be able to find another way to control the chronic pain. He has tried nerve blocks and a number of other things in the past, with no relief.
Post Edited (Disce Pati) : 9/9/2008 2:21:03 PM (GMT-6)
Post Edited (PAlady) : 9/9/2008 3:21:41 PM (GMT-6)
I did want to add something that I forgot...I give my daughter her meds and she is 18 an adult leagaly the doc asked to me to monitor her and it is not uncommon to do so with many additics. She always asks the doc if she can and he always says no! I am to watch her take them as well...its part of the personal accountablitly of it. You can not trust an addtitic until at a point they have PROVEN they can be trusted and that takes time and constiatacy.
The other thing I do is I make her pay for her doc appointments and all her meds again personal accountablitly as well as making sure she is working and becoming a fuctioning adult . If an additic wants to get clean they do what they must and will.
The other thing I fogot to address is be very careful of the lies and excusses that the additic makes Trust. I think the righting is on the wall here for you and we as the supporters must look at the actions and not the words. They wil tell you whatever you want to hear in order to protect there habbit.
I hope you are not offened here Trust just letting you know my own expericnces and the cost of trying to believe the words and not looking at the actions. It has cost me personaly alot of valuable time and alot of undue heartache wanting to believe. Lies are never a good sign with anything in any sitition. Its always a warning sigh as is justification.
I dont want to seem harsh but addition is a harsh life and requires harsh and hard decissions for both the additiced or the families of the additiced.
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