Pam, I'm sorry she was so rude to you. If that was how she felt, she could have said it in a much nicer way. For me I have no problem talking about my illness, like you I am very open about pretty much anything. I personally would have been offended, but she might have been in a lot of pain and cranky. I am isolated a lot and if I found someone who could relate to my life, I would have wanted to talk too. What I find socially is that no one ever seems to ask me about anything. I don't know if they assume I have nothing to talk about because I am on disability and don't have a job. Plus we have no kids so I cannot relate there. I have stopped going to gatherings where there is a lot of people and instead tend to just got out with one other couple at a time. This way my hubby and I can particiapate in the conversation. Although there have been many times even with just 1 other couple that they have talked the whole time and never once asked us about ourselves.
I used to get quite offended about it but now I find it a little funny. Just the other day, I was getting my nails done and the woman beside me made a comment about something that I said soemthing to her about. I ended up hearing all about all 3 of her children, her job, their plans and she not once asked me anything about myself. I feel sorry for people that self-involved.