Seems as if I have set a fire! I am sorry ladies, but I do understand your problems, and I do know my wife better than any of you, I have only been married to her since I was 19 and now I am 53. I know that the change isn't fun, and I also now that you ladies can't control what happens to you, but, you cannot In any way speak for what my wife is going threw or acting like unless you have lived with her 34 years.
i came here to find comfort and help, and all I got in this topic is a Person that must have a PHD. in the study of wowen that have and are going threw menopause! I would like to read your book, instead of you preaching to me about something you think i know nothing about!
This is my last post, I will not be back! I don't need to feel worse than I allready do! Life is way to short to jump in and think you now ever thing about a subject, and base it on being a lone, if I didn't know better, and you know who I am talking to, I would sware you are my old boss, and she is the one that made me this way! She knew everthing about everthing, but couldn't do anything she thought she was telling you what to do!
I will pray tonight that all of you that are in chronic pain get some relief, I will also pray for those that know it all, to wake and find out there is only one person in this world, that Knows IT All.
So you don't think any man can ever understand what metapause is like, mentally & physically? Well, now you have and are talking to one right now! Beleive it or not, when a man looses the ability to produse testosterone or has to take lupron to get to castration levels or testosterone for advance prostate cancer, he goes through almost idenitcal symptoms as females do during their "change." After my surgery, as I mentioned earlier, my body stopped producing testosterone and I spent 3 1/2 years trying to figure out what was wrong with me. Doctors, urologist, enocronolagist, phychiatrist, no one could tell me what was wrong with me. I was loosing my mind! The hot flashes were so bad and embaracing, I would be at work at my desk just soaking all the paperwork w/ puddles around me, my bed was never dry! My breasts were hurting & growing and something else was shrinking (use your Immajination on that one!) Sex was the last thing on my mind and had none the entire 3 1/2 years, I don't think I could if I tried. I would start crying and not be able to stop. Big 6-3, pushing 300lbs and growing fatter every day even on diets. My wife was at witts end, everyone thought I was crazy. I was taking anti sychotic & anti depression drugs like candy but nothing helped. I came so close to ending it and would have except I couldn't do that to my family. Then one new young doc asked me if I had my "T" checked lately? Got tested and was well below castration levels. Then the doc told me, "I would put you on testosterone replacement BUT>>> giving you a prostate cancer patiant "T" would be like throwing gas on fire! PC feeds on "T"!!!" OK doc, what the ^%$(_)_^@@#_!! do I do? Deal with it! Well at least now I knew what was wrong w/ me. I went to doctor after doctor untill I finally was listening to a doc about my age talking at an "US TOO" meeting a PC support group. After talking about hormone treatments, I asked him would he ever concider giving "T" to a PC survivor? To my delight he said, "its his choice, its a quality of life issue and if he was willing to gamble his life on it, he would." I called and made an apt w/ his office the next day! I've been on TRT for a little over 2 years now and I'm still in remition and no more hot flashes! Sometimes you just have to roll the dice. So, sorry about all the dramatics but yes, I do know what Y'all are going through w/ your curse and I don't envy you!!!
Ace, I don't want to add to the others but I think they are right. When I was at my lowest, I wasn't working, couldn't walk and never thought I would be able to work or walk again I never would have beleived that I would now ghave a job working over 50 hrs a week! I like others here had to push way beyond what I believed I could do. A little at a time, yes it hurts like H*** but just giveit time. Talk to your doc, did you get a new doc yet? Wasn't it you who was looking for a better doc and fighting the state? I've got to work so I can get out of gere today, I could write for hours about all this but, no time. Good luck brother, we are all with you!
I've never had a spouse (not been married) but my last boyfriend sort of left me because of my pain. I sort of pushed him away, too, though. But he just could not understand that I could not do many things. I couldn't go walking around anywhere, couldn't go to the movies, couldn't do this and that, etc.. so he got frustrated, but I can sort of understand that. Although he kept saying my problems didn't bother him, I knew they did. And he had said to me many times "what's the matter with you??". It aggravated me as well. So to me it wasn't even worth and it was better we seperated sooner than later. Now i don't even bother anymore b/c I cannot have a normal relationship.