Snowflake, I am also very glad to hear that you have seen a therapist. I think she will help you a lot in coping with this horrible situation. My dear, you have been going through this for 4 years...repeatedly thinking the cancer was gone, only to have another type pop up--all in or on your nose, which is disfiguring. You must be a very strong person to have made it this far without cracking up. I had liver cancer, and after diagnosis had to have many tests and scans. Then the study that would hopefully save my life kept getting delayed. During that time, I was so afraid that the cancer would spread or get worse before I had a chance to get it treated. Thank goodness, that was not the case and I had successful treatment followed by surgery. I went to Mayo, where they take a team approach...which is the sort of thing I think someone was suggesting. However, you seem to feel you do have good specialists.
I hope that your psychological issues will be resolved, so you can better deal with the physical problems. Just know that a Higher Power must be watching out for you to bring you this far.