I agree with straydog! You know Jen you could very well lose your kids, if the authorities ever find out that you knowingly have kept them in an unsafe environment with your bf. Your there mother for crying out loud, your suppose to care for and protect your children. That is your responsibility! Keeping them in an environment like that is not reponsible parenting! If you don't care about yourself that is one thing, but not caring about your innocent children is quite another! So do the right thing for them!White Beard
I am sorry if I sound to harsh,but somebody has to tell it like it is! Jen you have to stand up and be the responsible parent here!
Post Edited (White Beard) : 3/6/2009 6:36:53 PM (GMT-7)
PALady is right you need to get you and your children out of the situation your in. Back on the 27th of Feb, I expressed my concern for you and your children. you have told us some of your bf's behaviors, those type of behaviours frighten me, for you. They frighten me for your children. You are obviously in a very bad situation, and I do feel for you, but only you can get your self out of it. Taking action now, has it's risk, but waiting, will only make things worse, and make it harder. You must start a new direction while you still have a chance. A shelter for woman, might not seem as nice or as comfortable as what you are in now, but comfort is not a luxury you can afford to worry about right now. Safety and security for your self and your children is far more important, the luxuries will come later, as you find your new direction in life. I echo PALady sediments you can't do it alone, search out and find help, there are lots of organizations out there that can provide you help and support. It is doable, but you have to make it happen, if you really do care, about your self and your children you will. With everything you have said in your post I do believe you care. But actions speak louder than words, and words do not give you or your children security nor safety, but your actions will! I wish you only the best!
Good Luck to You
Post Edited (Pete's trips) : 3/8/2009 7:23:31 PM (GMT-6)
It takes 1 second for something disastrous to happen, don't let that happen. Listen to everyone, go today to a woman's shelter or go to the courts, they will direct you....do you really think he would waste his drug money and follow you or take your children? My ex husband had a drug problem, I made excuses for him and felt sorry for him, I guess somehow I felt responsible...I had fears (I didn't have children by him THANK GOD and I wasn't in chronic pain then) of the what iffs, please get out of there. I was frightened too and with help I did get him out, it wasn't easy but I did it...by then we were bankrupt...! The emotional roller coaster was awful!
You are just prolonging the inevitable and putting your children at risk! If you can't do it for yourself do it for your children! You have to be ready for THEM!