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Pete trips again!
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   Posted 3/17/2009 10:23 AM (GMT -7)   
I can't even remember the last time I called in sick! I haven't been sleeping worth a crap and last night was just too much! I thought my neck pain was getting better wearing my new collar but the last two nights it came back with a vengance! Maybe it's tha way I'm moving around in my sleep or just staying in one position too long. I don't know, but I've been waking up with #10 stabbing pains in my neck shooting down my shoulder through my arm and into my fingers which tingle like electric with every pain.. I called my boss at 6:00am, he sounded shocked and in disbelief, like I said, I never call in. I felt too guilty to turn off my cell phone so I talked to just about every foreman out on the jobsites this morning, most woke me up. They all said, we need material for our jobs, what should we do? Who can give us a PO#? You are not allowed to miss work, we need you! I have spoiled them terrable! I even take calls when I go to see my doctors either driving to & from or in the office waiting, I always manage to get them what they need. They are going to be in for some reality when I'm gone for my upcoming surgery! I see my Neuro Surgeon about last weeks tests tomorrow at 11:30am! I just know they will want me to work after the surgery when I should be recovering. I can hear it now, you can do it from home, you have a phone and computor!
Why do I feel so guilty about work? They don't care about me at all except they know I get the job done! We have actually been getting busy at work again but the boss hasn't said anything about giving me back the overtime he cut from me which was over 1/3 of my paycheck. I know times are tough and I shouldn't complain but the overtime was negotiated into my yeary pay when I took the job to get me up to the yearly sallary I was demanding to work there. Like so many others, I feel like I'm killing myself and getting the short end of the stick again.
Geeze, I knew depression would be grabbing at my heels as soon as I called in today! I have too much time to think which leads to guilt > anger > depression Some of you older regulars may remember when I started posting here, I was in a horrable funk of depression with all kinds of unwarrented thoughts racing through my head. I was a mess! You good people helped me so much back then to get my **** together again. I feel I'm headed back down that road again and I hate it! I have so many things to do around this lonely house but I don't feel like doing anything. GRRRRR> I hate feeling like this! I can't even turn my tens unit up because I lost it! I can't watch daytime TV either, way too much stupidity there! It's time for another pain pill and my doc told me last week when I saw him that if it gets bad, I could take two perc's instead of one. I haven't tried it yet but I think I will. I'll check back w/ Y'all later>
Sorry for all the crying & whining again> Pete's in a bad place today!
I love you guys which I hope you know means all of you! Not just the guys! Pete doesn't switch hit!
Lonely, hurting & sappy Pete
56 years old, Surgury, Radical Prostatectomy 8/20/03, PSA 6.6, Gleason 3 + 3 = 6, Adenocarcinoma extent (moderate) Stage & Margin:T2NOMX, No Metastases, Organ Confined, bone scan: Neg. 3 1/2 years of depression after surgery prior to Hypogonadizm DX, Testosterone Theropy> new 2/6/09> 400mg injections every 2weeks . 56 and so glad to still be here to see my two sons grow up to be fine young men. They are both serving in the US Navy, one on the aircraft carrier USS John Stennis in port in Japan and the other on a Gator Freighter USS Bataan stationed in Norfolk, Va. I am one proud PaPa! 


QTKaren
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   Posted 3/17/2009 10:42 AM (GMT -7)   
You go on and whine to you cant whine no more my friend. If anyone gets to you do. Sometimes I feel like that too ya know,specialy with not knowing what words are most times. You take al the time you need ya hear me? Before we know it we will get though the mostest amount. I love ya man.
 
Your friend QTKaren


Karen
 
Mom of one gramma to 4 lover to One
 
Had another stroke 2/09 and it took my speach for the most part and dont know when it will coming back. Caused serious stroke symptoms on right side of body.
 
 
Fibromyalgia,IBS,Stroke x2,endometriosis,Diabetes type 2,neuropathic pain,nerve damage due to tailbone removel,nerve damage due to fractured back,deppresion,high blood pressure,severe nausea,atrophy,chronic pain,nerve damage due to botched bladder surgery,torn hip joint,hypoglycymic
 
Norco(double strength vicodin) 80 to 100 mg @ day
Ms Contin(morphine) 45 mg @ day,Lyrica 600mg @ day
 
 
 

Post Edited (QTKaren) : 3/17/2009 11:56:30 AM (GMT-6)


straydog
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   Posted 3/17/2009 11:10 AM (GMT -7)   
Woohoo you go Pete. Take a break-forget the house-forget work oh hell forget it all it will always be there. Lesson that is hard to learn. You feel guilty about work cuz thats exactly how they want the employees to feel ok. Don't give them the benefit of feeling guilty, its not like you ran out & robbed a 7-11,lol. Enjoy taking care of Pete. Deep breathing, deep breathing-hey it sounds good.

Susie


PAlady
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   Posted 3/17/2009 11:19 AM (GMT -7)   
Pete,
Your health is NUMBER ONE on the list. Let me tell you, without it you have nothing. So you literally may be killing yourself for that job, but if you don't take care of yourself now you won't be able to work at all.

First, re: your neck. Are you sleeping with the brace on? (not sure if your doc told you to - do what he said). But if not you definitely need a good cervical pillow for sleeping. We've had threads here in the past about them; there are a variety and I lost count of how many I tried before I found one that worked for me, but just one night on a regular pillow and I have all the symptoms you describe. I even pack it in the back seat when I go see my cousin (rare as that is anymore). Do you have a medical supply store around you? They often have a selection. Be careful about just picking up something off a shelf just anywhere that costs a lot but does little. And the tempurpedic ones flatten too fast. I got two free ones with my mattress, and love the mattress but hate the pillows. So that may be one reason things are getting worse for you overnight. The brace is keeping you supported when you're upright, but then it gets undone when you sleep.

And about your depression, yes, we all remember and I know the issues revolved around your thyroid, hormones, and your anti-depressant meds. Have you taken care of those yet? Because even one of those can send your moods on a roller coaster. Of course, you must stop beating yourself up about not working. Look at how much your employer thinks of your health! (NOT MUCH!) Or your wealth for that matter. If you don't take care of your health, no one else will.

I'm thrilled you stayed home today; it's a good first step. Sometimes when we take those first steps toward taking care of ourselves when we're not used to it, there will be some guilt. Guilt won't kill you. But that job sure will!!!!

Get online and shop for cervical pillows and then see if you can find a store in your area. And drop the cell phone so it breaks (well, tell your boss that!).

Oh - and try a moist warm towel around that neck. I have those things you throw in the microwave that go around your neck (they have some kind of rice or something in them), but a warm, slightly moist towel will also help.

Hugs!!!!

PaLady

bluejet2
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Date Joined Feb 2009
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   Posted 3/17/2009 1:21 PM (GMT -7)   

Hi Pete:

I am new to this site, so we haven't had the pleasure of "meeting" directly, but I have read a lot of your posts and you give a lot of support to everyone, now it is your turn!

I know when I was working, I too almost never called in sick for myself - I would call in sick if one of my kids was sick, but rarely for myself.  If I did, I felt like I was letting the pain rule my life, like the pain was "winning" somehow.  Eventually, it was getting harder and harder to get there everyday, and when I got home, I couldn't do anything else. 

I, too, fell into a terrible depression and wound up having a nervous breakdown because I was pushing myself too hard and I couldn't come to terms with how much pain I was in and how much that pain was affecting every aspect of my life.  I still have trouble to this day dealing with my limitations.  My mind may be willing, but my body is not!!!  After my breakdown happened, when I looked back, I realized I had been spiraling downward for several weeks, but I was too busy trying to "do it all" to realize what was happening to me.

I still push myself to do as much as I possibly can, I try to ask for help when I need it, but there are definitely times when my husband will tell me that I am overdoing it and if I don't take care of myself, it will always catch up with me and I will wind up in bed for several days, and ocassionally I land myself in the hospital for a few days to get the pain back under control.

I'm sorry to go on about myself, I just wanted to tell you from experience, that you do need to take care of yourself!  The housework isn't going anywhere and the people you work with need to learn to stand on there own two feet because you are only human and there will be times (like with your upcoming surgery) where you will not be able to "do it all" for a period of time.

Please let go of the guilt, relax, and resolve it in your mind that you are doing what you have to do so that you will be able to cope with tomorrow.

Take care!

Bluejet2

 

 

 

Pamela Neckpain
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   Posted 3/17/2009 2:30 PM (GMT -7)   
Oh Pete,

I hate that you don't feel good. You're always helping me with your words and
making me laugh and all that. You know?

But when it comes down to it, I don't know what to say to you except I want you
to feel better. I want it to happen soon.

Now. Right Now.

Pamela

I like a hot water bottle on my neck. Sometimes my back gets a certain kind of
cold and my neck realllllly needs the moist heat.

Also ... Tiger Baum is good stuff. But it OTC at the pharmacy. It comes in
a teeny, tiny round tin so you'll have to ask the pharmacist because you'll
never be able to find it.

Chartreux
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   Posted 3/17/2009 2:42 PM (GMT -7)   
Pete, I sure hope your feeling better soon! Those sick days are
there for you to take when you need them and you deserved one,
now turn off your cell phone...
{{{{{{HUGZ}}}}}} and lots of them..
I would recommend a cream but everyone is different and well what
works good for me, might not for you...
are you supposed to wear the brace 24/7? I would think a good
memory foam pillow would be good at night for you...
(((((((((((((((((((((((((Pete)))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))
Hope you get a low pain day soon!
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******** "We could never learn to be brave and patient if there were only joy in the world" from Helen Keller *********

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Pete trips again!
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   Posted 3/17/2009 2:56 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi everyone!
QT, I love you too! I read back over what I wrote this morning, it wasn't as bad as I thought. You are right! Sometimes it's good to just let it out. I was so pissed off this AM but I'm not anymore. I took my two perc's and it helped the pain a little or was it because I put my neck gismo on and wore it all day?
Susie, You are rigt too! I'm glad I stayed home today, the hell with them! I took a much needed rest even though it's only Tuesday, I didn't sleep pretty much all weekend! I was dead yesterday at work and really thought I was getting sick. I felt that way even more at 4:00am when I usually get up. So between the neck to hand pain plus the sore throat & headache I had since yesterday, the double whammy was enough to make me pick up that phone at 6:00am! Oh, I love you too Susie > you are a special Lady!!!
And >Scarecrow, I mean PA, I think I love you the most! Thanks for the advice on the C-pillow, I need to get one of those! I'll check them out on line later. No, I haven't been sleeping w/ my brace, he didn't tell me to and I didn't ask, I guess I should have. I will when I see him tomorrow. As for the depression> thyroid > anti-D meds. no I haven't gone back to see my Doc yet but to my defence, I have been averaging 2 and sometimes 3 doc's or tests a week! I am so tired of them. I am going to try to see him later this week after I have an answer for sure about my new neck tests and surgery. He would want me to come back again anyway to let him know whats happening. Thats going to be my excuse for him, I just wanted all the answers before I came back! I have one of those microwave neck rice things but I've been using my heating pad. I'll try your towel trick tonight and let you know how it works! THANKS!!!
Hello Bluejet2, The pleasure is mine and thank you for writing me! It sounds like you and I have lots in common! Please keep posting as what you're telling me is so Right! I just have to learn how to let go of the ding-dang-darn-beeping guilt! Did you see the last post on guilt? It was a doosie! Had me and others crying lots last weekend. We sure could use somemore help with some of the subjects that pop up and just seem to affect us all. You never know who is going to say something that helps all of us solve the problems we all share! Welcome> I love you too Blue! All for now, I actually forsed myself to do something I love today! I finished building a little spinning rod thats been sitting around almost finnished for months! It's out in the garrage on my rotary drying machine and I must check on it! So Again Thanks so much for your help!
Pete
56 years old, Surgury, Radical Prostatectomy 8/20/03, PSA 6.6, Gleason 3 + 3 = 6, Adenocarcinoma extent (moderate) Stage & Margin:T2NOMX, No Metastases, Organ Confined, bone scan: Neg. 3 1/2 years of depression after surgery prior to Hypogonadizm DX, Testosterone Theropy> new 2/6/09> 400mg injections every 2weeks . 56 and so glad to still be here to see my two sons grow up to be fine young men. They are both serving in the US Navy, one on the aircraft carrier USS John Stennis in port in Japan and the other on a Gator Freighter USS Bataan stationed in Norfolk, Va. I am one proud PaPa! 


Pete trips again!
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   Posted 3/17/2009 3:13 PM (GMT -7)   
QT, I am such an Idiot! I was busy thinking about me again and GEZZE!!! It didn't dawn on me untill I read back over after posting that it was you and OMG!!! How are you??? Everyone here has been so worried about you. We have been all praying for a quick recovery. Did you write this post or have someone do it for you? God bless yoy Dear Karen! I'm so sorry for being so slow and missing your post the first time! We Love YOU!!! Get well soon, we all need your wisdom & help, espessially me!
Your good Friend,
Pete
56 years old, Surgury, Radical Prostatectomy 8/20/03, PSA 6.6, Gleason 3 + 3 = 6, Adenocarcinoma extent (moderate) Stage & Margin:T2NOMX, No Metastases, Organ Confined, bone scan: Neg. 3 1/2 years of depression after surgery prior to Hypogonadizm DX, Testosterone Theropy> new 2/6/09> 400mg injections every 2weeks . 56 and so glad to still be here to see my two sons grow up to be fine young men. They are both serving in the US Navy, one on the aircraft carrier USS John Stennis in port in Japan and the other on a Gator Freighter USS Bataan stationed in Norfolk, Va. I am one proud PaPa! 


PAlady
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   Posted 3/17/2009 3:41 PM (GMT -7)   
Am I the scarecrow? BOO!! smhair smilewinkgrin

Why don't you ask your doc about a pillow recommendation tomorrow. He might be able to write you a script and your insurance would (maybe) cover it? I wouldn't wear the brace at night unless he tells you to, though.

You worked on something you loved today!!! That's great!!! yeah We're proud of you! yeah

You need more sick days so you can build rods and do what you love! That's healing!

Hey - I'll write you a note for your employer and put a little fear in him about bugging you!!! devil nono

PaLady

skeye
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   Posted 3/17/2009 6:58 PM (GMT -7)   
((((((((((((Pete)))))))))))))). Stop worry about everyone else, and start taking care of yourself!! YOU are what matters, not your boss, not your job. They might not like it, but they can get by without you for a day. They have to, because if you keep this up, you could hurt yourself even more & put yourself out of commission for much much longer, and no one wants that!

Hopefully you are feeling much better tonight & were able to enjoy at least some of your day off!

Skeye

fatherjohn
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   Posted 3/17/2009 7:33 PM (GMT -7)   
Pete, wow I have to quit working so much. By the time I get home all I get is reruns and old posts. If I knew you were going to stay home today I would have also. Next time lets plan this a little better. Maybe you should take more time off and not answer your phone. That way after several days of no one getting parts and the business getting behind, you won't just get your overtime but also a riase. I am a fine one to talk about taking time off. If I died in my sleep tonight, I would still make it into the office in the morning. sounds like someone else, huh. Sorry to year your neck is hurting so bad. I hope tonight treats you better. Blessings my friend. 

Chartreux
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   Posted 3/17/2009 7:51 PM (GMT -7)   
Pete, my friend I wish you well in getting a good night rest tonight and if that
should happen then don't over do it tomorrow at work...Take it easy my friend you need to
We luv ya...
(((((((((((((((((((Pete)))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))
**********************************************
* Asthma, Allergies, Osteoarthritis, Spinal Stenosis, Degenative Disc, Fibromyalgia, Gerd, Enlarged Pituitary Gland
******** "We could never learn to be brave and patient if there were only joy in the world" from Helen Keller *********

********>^..^<********>^..^<********>^..^<********


Becoming undone
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   Posted 3/18/2009 10:31 AM (GMT -7)   
Pete....tell this to my husband all the time...take some time for you...would the world end if you didn't go in just this one day?...(Now this might be true for President Kennedy during bay of pigs...but I heard he had some pretty good meds)...but JMHO...you need to take time for you...as so eloquently stated previously...We luv ya...
(((((((((((((((((((Pete)))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))
"The earth laughs in flowers"


straydog
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   Posted 3/18/2009 11:08 AM (GMT -7)   
Hey Pete, check with your neuro's nurse about sleeping in colar. May not want you to do that, please make the call. Susie

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