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Date Joined Apr 2009
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   Posted 4/5/2009 5:04 PM (GMT -6)   
Hello to all, I'll start by saying how much I really appreciate you answering my posts.  I feel like you all are concerned and do care. Even though we don't know eachother. It means so much to me that I have found a group of people that share a common thread. 
I want to try to anwer some concerns as best I can.  My mother will be coming to stay with me after the surgery for a while.  I plan to give her my meds and let her give them to me. I think that will help the situation with my husband. After she leaves then I will have them in a locked box,why didn't I think of that myself? It is a great idea. I know my husband has a huge problem. I will wear the key on a chain around my neck.  He would not fight me for it. As truly horrible as all of this is, he actually has been good to me. It sounds so backwards to even say that, even to me.  I know that the entire situation will be addressed further after I am stable enough.  I have been alone before. I am not scared of that.  But I won't stay in a situation like this. He is my husband. He has already made me not trust him because of all this.  And I will not spend the rest of my life like this. Life is hard enough under normal circumstances.
I am having a ortho do my surgery. The neuro that I saw wanted me to do PT and then come back in 6-8 weeks. I opted not to do that. I have suffered long enough. And I am very concerned with all the nerve pain, I already have. I don't want it getting worse than it already is. The ortho and the PM both have said that surgery is my only hope for success.  This dose concern me with being a ortho instead of neuro, but I do trust him. He is older and I feel he is qualified for this.  I just am concerned that there may be nerve damage already...
I am 39 years old. My daughter is 4. and my son is 11.  They are my life.  I am determined that I am going to make it for me but most of all for my kids.
I have enjoyed this sight so much. I feel blessed for finding it and all of you wonderful people.  Your input and advise has been valuable to me.
I have alot of books to read for after surgery.  I love to read. It is better to me than watching tv. I don't know how medicated I will be, but they are there for when I want to. I need to get other things together, just kinda unsure on what things I need to be doing that will make it easier. The only surgeries I have had up till now are 2 c-sections. So this is all new to me.
That is all for now. Sorry I am so long winded. I do talk alot!!

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Date Joined Nov 2007
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   Posted 4/5/2009 5:16 PM (GMT -6)   
I think you've got a great attitude about dealing with your husband in the future. Remember there are treatment programs for addiction, and that may be a possibility for you hook up with in the future, but for now focus on you.

And I'm really glad your Mom is coming to stay with you. I hope she knows about your husband's stealing the medication; she needs to. It can be tricky to keep the meds away. Even a lot lf lock boxes can be broken into quite easily.

If you're comfortable with your doctor, then that's what's important. Do remember this is very different surgery from a C-section. One thing that sounds odd is that the worst thing you can do is sitting! So be careful of assuming things that don't "hurt" aren't hurtful to your healing, if you understand what I mean!

Yes, this is a great group! Hopefully you'll be posting to us during your recovery, so we'll know how you're doing.


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   Posted 4/5/2009 6:02 PM (GMT -6)   
Like PA Lady said, it is going to be hard to keep those meds away from your husband. He could easily tell your mom that you asked him to bring you pain meds and then take them himself if he gets desparate enough. I would suggest that you tell your mom that you and only you will tell her when you need meds and that she is not to give them to anyone but you directly.
If you trust your surgeon, then that's good enough for me. It is truly important that you feel comfortable with your surgeon.
I'm glad that your mom is coming to stay with you too. I would hate to see you trying to do for yourself and children, when you need to be doing nothing other than what the surgeon ordered.
Take care of yourself.
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On going back pain and neuropathic pain, failed back surgery, consult for scs, decided not to do that at this point.
Adhesive Arachnoiditis also......just what I didn't need..9/08- adding bilateral ulnar neuropathy with severe compression to the mix. They want me to see a surgeon for ulnar nerve surgery, but I'm not biting.
I've seen enough surgeons over the last few years.

White Beard
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   Posted 4/5/2009 9:10 PM (GMT -6)   


Thank-You for this post it is reassuring, I think I can speak for others, but if not I will speak for my self, when I read someones post, and if they have problems I do get concerned about them ( maybe it is the nurse in me or maybe it is just how I am) most of the others here that post  also seem to be the same way.  Anyway  this post has made me feel better about your situation, it has allayed some of my fears, so Thank-you for that.

I know all to well about trust issues with one spouse, I do hope  that it all works out well for you  in the end! But as long as you have your meds kept safe, it is your health that is the most important thing for you now!     You said: ("I am 39 years old. My daughter is 4. and my son is 11.  They are my life.  I am determined that I am going to make it for me but most of all for my kids.") I think that says it all, you definitely have the right attitude and have your priorities right! You will do just fine with the surgery!

It is so important to trust and have faith in your Doctor, that is a biggy! So it sounds like you are in good hands and from the sounds of it you have definitely made the right decision!

 I do wish you well! Good Luck to You

White Beard


I'm Retired USAF, went back to school and became an RN, and now am on ful disalbility!

Degenerative Disc (affecting mostly the thorasic disc but all levels involved), C6/7 laminectomy/diskectomy& fusion, Osteoarthritis, Ulcerative colitis, Chronic Pain, Fibromyalgia, Complex Sleep Apnea, and host of other things to spice up my life!(NOT!)

Medications: Oxycontin, Percocet, Baclofen, Sulfasalazine, Metoprolol, Folic Acid, Supplemental O2 at 3lpm with VPAP Adapt SV

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Date Joined Mar 2009
Total Posts : 96
   Posted 4/5/2009 9:28 PM (GMT -6)   

did you get your fibro after the surgeries, when did the doctor diagnose you. My muscles hurt when they are touched or bumped. My feet burn. I am scared to go hunting for a new doctor (paranoid) I think me husband is starting to realize how much I hurt but he wont support me with going to the doctors.

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Date Joined Jul 2007
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   Posted 4/5/2009 10:55 PM (GMT -6)   
cs, my fibro was diagnosed between my PCP and PM, i began taking lyrica and cymbalta which have completely taken away my symptoms. lyrica has a website that has excellent info on fibro. there is a difference between nerve pain and fibro, i am only catching the tail end of this post so i am not 100% on whats going on, but my nerve damage was diagnosed first.... then the fibro. there is some questions as to whether or not i have ms and i need to see a neurologist i just get so sick of going from one dr to the next i'm being lazy. sometimes i get uncontrollable shakes, once it happened as a nurse was trying to put in an iv and blood went everywhere. i was so embarrassed.
back to fibro, i used to be really sensitive to touch and muscle aches all over, not even my narcotics helped. i had a lot of "vertigo" and a few more other small complaints. i read a story of someone who was so tender to touch they have to sleep in the buff because the clothes/sheets were too much weight on them. so it can get pretty serious. hope you get a good diagnosis. maybe consider talking to them about the two if you haven't already tried them. good luck, and good luck with your surgery!
RX's: Oxycontin 80mg 2x's daily; Oxycodone 30mg 5xs daily; Zanaflex 4mg 3x's daily; Restoril 15mg 1x; Soma 3x's daily; Lyrica 100mg 3x's daily (pain & fibro.); Phenergan 25mg (as needed); Amitriptyline 25mg 1x (chronic pain); Cymbalta 60mg 2x's daily (pain from fibro); Abilify 5mgs at bedtime (depression); Metoclopram (as needed) & Senokot (as needed).
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