Well Hello all my good & true friends! Thank you so much for your caring posts!
Yep, I did go back to work today but after a rough night last night, I was still awake at 4:00am when my alarm went off so I re-set it for 6:00am and went to sleep! Woke up at 6:00am and called in and told my boss I'd be there when I get there! I pulled in a little after 8:00am to a big office politics cluster-mess! Don't want to talk about it! I had about 7 phone calls before I got there as my boss never bothered to tell or e-mail anyone that I (the guy who is never late) was going to be late. I made up my mind to wear my collar most of the day which I didn't do yesterday. I left at 3:00pm, just walked out after desciding enough is enough! Oh how great it would have been to get home so early but a tracktor trailor full of tomatos overturned on my favortie road> I-95 in Boynton Beach and had me stuck. It took me an hour & 3/4 to get home! GRRRR!!! It was 90+ degrees w/ a cold front aproching, thunder and lightning and waves of rain only made the stop and go more delightful. Tomorrow is going to be 80 degrees and dry after our big cold front passes tonight! I feel much better tonight than last night, I think I better keep the collar on a bit longer! Yes, I am going to work shorter hours and if the boss doesn't like it he can kiss my big> white> hairy, well y'all know what! Thank you so much for caring about me! Y'all are so right, I have to take care of myself! No one else will! I'm going to try really hard to get to sleep early tonight. I was sleeping so good when I wasn't working, it's got to be some sort of mental block or maybe some sort of self fullfilling proffecy that I'm tired and cranky at work every day. Who knows?? Well, I must go get myself something to eat as my big round friend with the new hernia surgery scar which crosses my prostatectomy scar to form a perfect cross is growling at me (grrr>feed me!! grrr>feed me!!!) What a pest he can be! Later good friends!
Pete when they did your fusion, did they put plates in you, or anything to stablize the fusion? I know when I had mine done, I had nothing but the bone graft in it. I was warned to be extremely careful not to do anything that would jar, or move, or upset, that graft. I was not allowed to work for 8 weeks and then I started working 2 hours in the morning for two weeks and then 2 in the morning and 2 in the afternoon for two weeks then increase each by one hour morning and afternoon every 2 weeks till I was back to normal hours. At that time I was in the Air Force and a Branch Chief of the A-10 flight simulator, I was head of the shop and sat behind a desk, but my hours were all dictated by my Civilian Neurosurgeon. I know it is different now, I had mine done in 1985, and I was in the military and not doing a civilian job like you. But with that said, the fusion and the stress on the body is really no different. And what you are doing scares the Bee Geezes out of me! Please be careful!!!, and by all means wear that collar! You are only a year younger than I am, and by God you really need to be taking care of yourself! We are not young whipper snappers any more, and we just can't do the same stuff we used to! You know it takes a while for that graft to even start to take hold. If you jar it, or knock it out of place, or alignment, you will be in a world of hurt, at best! and I shutter to think about the worst! Heck they wouldn't even let me drive a car till after 8 weeks! They were afraid of having a sudden stop or something and having that graft move!
Anyway it sounds like your boss needs a good swift kick in the seat of the pants! But don't you go trying to do it!
Pete take care of yourself and please don't over do it!
Good Luck to You!
P.S. Keep that collar on! ( Please!!!)
Pete & White Beard,
Pete I would like to know if some of the screaming burning pain has let up any? You may not like wearing that collar and its all so tempting not to, but you just need to give things time to heal properly. I basically told to already your scar may be healed but on the inside where it really matters, no you are not healed. Has the dr done any post-op x-rays? Thats the very same point White Beard was making as well. It will take months for that neck to heal on the inside and I am not talking one of two. Just remember the seriousness of it, remember that horrible first 48 hrs post-op, you sure don't want to mess things up and go back thru that again.
Pete, I think you found out while off, yes, that place will still stand and still operate whether you are there or not. Don't kid yourself on that one, we can be replaced at our jobs no matter how valuable we may think we are. Oh sure, they called you at home & wore you out, that because they knew they could get by with doing that,
Back in 1979 I went to work for a law firm that my brother-in-law was a partner in. Bad move, never work for a relative. Anyway, went thru various split-ups over the years, different attys coming in and leaving, some on their own some not on their own. We had two sections in that firm, pre-lit and litigation section. I knew both areas but preferred pre-lit and worked in it, loved it. Then we had a big shake up and the firm split with major partners leaving and I stayed with one of the old partners and continued working for him. He was a very good man and excellent to his clients, they all had a great respect for him. I continued working for him and he began having serious health problems from colon cancer to having a leg amputated due to diabetes. He eventually sold his practice to our new trial lawyer. That guy had a gold mine essentially handed to him. My boss had an excellent reputation and had quite a following to the point he never did any the advertising on tv, considered bad taste, we called those guys tv guide attys lol and he did not spend $30,000 a year on yellow page ads, his business was built on word of mouth. Over the years Pete whenever I took vacation before cell phones, I had to call and check in with my secretary and make sure everythng was ok, then had to talk to my boss to see if he needed anything. By doing that I never really got a complete break from the place even on vacation time. Always had to stop whatever I was doing and go find a pay phone. I had been having health problems but always managed to keep them at bay for years my boss understood. If I needed off to go to dr no problem. But, after the sellout things changed, the stress level of that place went to 500%. Lots and lots of internal problems. My health started on a downward spiral and the stress was making things worse. So, I decided in 1996, after 18 yrs enough was enough, the place just was not worth it, I quit. You cannot imagine the scene when I went upstairs and told the little man adios,lol. He told me I could not quit, that I just needed time off and yada yada that he needed me there, because I made him more money than his own trial lawyers did, and yada yada. I said you know what, thats your problem now, not mine. I told him my health was more imporant to me than that place would ever be. He thought I would take a 2 week break and come back-nope, I had no intention of going back. I got several phone calls and home visits with lots of offers for more money and I am so thankful I did not crater and give in. I already made very good money working there so money was never an issue. After leaving Pete, you would not believe how much better my health got, my pain mgt dr was shocked. Oh, he knew I was under a lot of stress and pressure at work and he just kept patching me up so I could keep on working. Many times he tried to get me to stop but I was very hard headed. You know those internal problems I spoke of, well, in less than 4 yrs the place closed down, due to the atty and all of his personal problems., The business literally got ran into the ground. He has since lost his license to practice but thankfully not due to a client getting screwed and filing a grievance against him. He was self destructive and destroyed his life and practice.
My point Pete in giving you the above info is to remind you, your health is worth more than any job, yes we can be replaced, life will go on for your boss and you too. I know jobs are scarce, but we only get one body to last a life time and we need to take care of it. I could kick myself Pete for not leaving sooner, the difference in my health was shocking once I left that place. I enventally went back to work after losing both of my parents within 18 months of each other. I continued to work again until serious health problems got the best of me.
Pete that little devil voice that pops in your head once in awhile that says "oh Pete to hell with it, its not going to hurt you to lift that little box of whatever". You step on him with your foot and squash him- lol. He will get you in trouble. Listen to the real Pete that knows better than to do something foolish he will pay for later.......Susie