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anice
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   Posted 4/18/2009 2:53 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi everyone, I haven't posted in a while. My son spent srping break in TN with my parents. They are on there way back today. I have really missed him. My mom will be staying with me for awhile to help me. I am looking forward to them getting here. It has helped me having something to look forward to. He is 11 and really a sweet child.

Question. I am having my laminectomy this Wednesday. My son wants to be there. I am having a hard time making that decision. We are really close. He sure has been sweet to me since all this pain started. However, I do not want him to see me like that. I have tried to reassure him that I will be okay. And that hopefully the surgery will "fix" me and that I will be all better. I really feel like he is worried that I will die in the hosp. His daddy passed away when he was only 9 months old. And ofcourse, he is a mamma's boy. He is adamant about being there when I have the surgery. My mom and husband will be there. I have been back and forth with this. I just don't know what the right answer is. I think he should go to school and someone should bring him to see me later that day. He gets real emotional about talking about me having the surgery-that's why I think he is afraid that I will die.

It is going to be a long weekend. I am getting low on my percocet. I am hurting pretty bad today. It is raining here and it seems to make the pain worse. I only have 8 left. I am trying to hold off as long as I can. I still have 3 days to go. And I don't want to be completely without. I am on edge today. Everything seems to be getting on my nerves, especially my 4 year old daughter. I think she intentionally trying to!!! I love her but she is constantly making messes and leaving them. She is almost like a little tornado!!! She simply refuses to mind me. And I am losing my patients.

I am also concerned about what pain meds will be written after my surgery. I am on percocet now. I am worried that they may send me home on something not as strong. I am worried enough about what the aftereffects will be after the surgery anyway. I am just scared about being in that kind of pain.

I welcome any feedback anyone has. Thank you for letting me ramble on again. I hope all of you have a good weekend.

Anice

LLPLUV
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   Posted 4/18/2009 3:08 PM (GMT -7)   
I have been in your spot. My son was 13 when I had one of my kidney surgeries. (hes now 15) My husband and I thought and thought about it. I came to the desision that I let him go with us. He was already going to see me when I got home looking miserable and I knew with how sensitive he was that he's be REALLY STRESSING away from us. We are a VERY close family and care about each other alot. He had his father sitting with him throughout the procedure so they ate in the cafeteria and bought junk food out of the vending machine. I believe it was a bonding time for his father and himself. Plus it felt he was in somewhat control and felt important to be there for ME.

This was what I went through pull out what you need and throw the rest away...lol

They will send you home with a medication that should work. I have been on percs now for over a year and they send me home with Morphine or Demeral.

Little tornado boy to I remember those days..lol The pain is making you edgy. She's to little to understand. I know you know this... Breath in Breath out....

{{{{{anice}}}}}

Laurie
Chronic Kidney Stones, PKD (Polycystic Kidney Disease), Chronic Kidney Failure, Severe Hypertension, Urological RSD


PAlady
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   Posted 4/18/2009 3:12 PM (GMT -7)   
Anice,
That's not rambling! My opinion about your son would be to let him go to the hospital. He's only going to worry if he's at school. Siince your husband and mother will be there, they can comfort him while you're in surgery. But one thing is I would have smeone - a nurse, if you, your mother or husband can't do it - prepare him that after surgery you'll be groggy, kind of what he'll see. And that doesn't mean you're going to die, but that you are groggy from the medicine. If he agreed to go to school, and then be picked up and brougt to the hospital, that would be fine, too, but if he won't agree to that (considering his father's untimely death) I'd let him wait with your husband and mother.

As far as post-op meds, you'll likely be given whatever you need. Plus you'll be able to call your surgeon's office once you go home. I wouldn't worry so much about that. But can you call your doctor's office and get some medication to help you for the next few days? If you're in pain you're just going to get more anxious and feel worse going into surgery. That would be my

Post Edited (PAlady) : 4/18/2009 4:34:06 PM (GMT-6)


Tony McGuire
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   Posted 4/18/2009 3:28 PM (GMT -7)   
Let him 'get away with' not going to school, and to 'be there for you' the day of your surgery.

IF he'll agree to 'be there' for you.

I can nearly guarantee he will be a young man that day.

And if you forced him to go to school, it would be exactly as PAlady said - a wasted day worrying and at the VERY MOST getting into trouble a few times.

But only allow it if he'll do exactly what he wants to do anyway: be a caring young man for his mom.

And be sure to reign him in on daughter in the meantime. Once you give the OK, don't be surprised if he starts trying to control her right away.

I say these things cause that was me in a similar circumstance at about the same age. And I was the 'Man of the House' for about a week in an effort to control me.
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PAlady
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   Posted 4/18/2009 3:36 PM (GMT -7)   
Anice,
I don't know what happened but my post got all wacky and when I tried to finish it by editing I couldn't.

But I think my thoughts were pretty much there! I'd try to get some meds to help yourself through these next few days. If you call your doctor even the doctor on call might understand if you explain the situation.

Good luck with everything!

PaLady

White Beard
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   Posted 4/18/2009 4:18 PM (GMT -7)   

Anice

I would agree you should let your son be there with you, it will not do him any good to be in school if his mind is going to be with you in the hospital! Your his moma let him be there to  share in this experience with you! It will probably be not only good for him, but it will, I am sure, be good for you too! I do hope you have your pain medication problems worked out now, so you won't have to worry about your pain meds when you get home from the hospital!  If not you need to get that done quickly! I hope this all works out very well for you anice!

 You will be in my prayers!

Good Luck to You

White Beard


  I'm Retired USAF, went back to school and became an RN, and now am on full disalbility!--Degenerative Disc (affecting mostly the thorasic disc but all levels involved), C6/7 laminectomy/diskectomy& fusion, Osteoarthritis, Ulcerative colitis, Chronic Pain, Fibromyalgia, Complex Sleep Apnea, and host of other things to spice up my life!(NOT!) Medications: Oxycontin, Percocet, Baclofen, Sulfasalazine, Metoprolol, Folic Acid, Supplemental O2 at 3lpm with VPAP Adapt SV


anice
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   Posted 4/18/2009 8:27 PM (GMT -7)   

Thank you all for all the wonderful advice. I have also discussed the issue about my son being there when I have my surgery. We decided to have him there. I will ask the nurse to prepare him as to what to expect. I have tried myself. It will most likely be better coming from a nurse,too.

It means alot to me reading all of your replies. It feels  good to know that I have such a wonderful group of friends. I look forward to getting acquainted with all of you. And I plan to spend a good bit of time here while I am recovering. You all are wonderful and so well spoken and heart felt.

Thanks also for making me feel welcomed here.

Anice

 

 

 


White Beard
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   Posted 4/18/2009 8:38 PM (GMT -7)   
anice
We will all be here for you when you get back from your surgery, you just concentrate on your self right now, try to keep you pain down to a minimum, till your surgery and then healing and getting better afterwards! Again I wish you onlyu the best and you will be in my thoughts and prayers!
 
Good Luck to Yoou anice!
 
White Beard
  I'm Retired USAF, went back to school and became an RN, and now am on full disalbility!--Degenerative Disc (affecting mostly the thorasic disc but all levels involved), C6/7 laminectomy/diskectomy& fusion, Osteoarthritis, Ulcerative colitis, Chronic Pain, Fibromyalgia, Complex Sleep Apnea, and host of other things to spice up my life!(NOT!) Medications: Oxycontin, Percocet, Baclofen, Sulfasalazine, Metoprolol, Folic Acid, Supplemental O2 at 3lpm with VPAP Adapt SV


Becoming undone
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   Posted 4/19/2009 12:54 PM (GMT -7)   
I know it's late...but just my 2 cents...as a teacher...YES, your son should be with your family on this day...just let the school know ahad of time(VP or school nurse). They'll let his teachers know (it's the not knowing in advance that can frustrate some teachers. and yes, some won't understand, but the VP, Principal or nurse is usually much more understanding.)
I hope it goes well for you...take care...
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golitho
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   Posted 4/19/2009 3:30 PM (GMT -7)   
I know I'm late too, but I think you made the right decision. My 9 year old was beside himself last year when I was in hospital for double pneumonia, as a friend with two kids had very recently died with a brain aneurism. He was sure I was going to die too. He clung to me like a toddler for about 3 months afterwards. Kids seem to take on these emotions very deeply and I really feel the more you can let them help you and be there for you the better for them. I agree the hospital won't let you go home without really good pain killers they completely looked after me. (I had to go off my Rheumatoid arthritis drugs as they are immunosuppressents and after 6 days in hospital had swelled in most joints plus developed costochondritis, sent me home with a small pharmacy of pain management drugs as well as sleeping tablets.) I wish you the best of luck, its so hard dealing with young kids and pain together. Regards golitho
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