I feel so very very very bad for you. I was worried about you, yes I do feel closer to all of you here than any of my family and friends, because you all here have become my family and friends! There are a few of us that really feel this way! With that said anice, I am concerned for you, I wish your mother could stay with you a while longer, you really need the help so you can heal, and that takes time. You can't! You just can'tdo it all yourself! It will cause you damage, and then where will you be!
I feel uncomfortable saying what I really think about your husband, it really isn't my place I guess, and under the circumstance with what I am going through,..... well.....all I can say is, I care about "my family" here at this forum, and that includes you! So please don't let him ruin you credit or make things worse for you anice! What ever you need to do, to take care of yourself and your kids, do it! I will also say this, your husband should never, ever be taking your or your childrens medications! There is no excuse for that type of behavior! My God he is your husband he should be taking care of you and his children not stealing your or their meds to get high! I can't begin to tell you how I feel about that! That is just not right! I am sorry I am not venting toward you anice, maybe consider it for you! But just the idea of that upsets me so much! I actually worry for you and your children!
anice don't ever feel bad about posting your feelings and or frustrations! we will listen and support you, after all you are "family" I do wish I could be of more help to you!
I wish you all the best!
Post Edited (White Beard) : 4/27/2009 9:51:31 PM (GMT-6)
You said;("It's late and I don't have much energy ") are you sick? or not felling well? I haven't seen you post much today. Are you alright? Now I will worry about you too!
I hope your well!
I feel so badly for you. You need peace and quiet to heal. It is unfortunate that you husband chose this time to show his true colors. It is very important that he is not permitted to get to your meds or your childrens. I would definitely speak to the bank about your missing money.
I am sure that if you called some of the churches in your area there would be some people that would be delighted to help you while you recover. If I loved close to you I would help. Please put that lazy, useless, thief out of your home and life - you don't need another child to care for (even if it isn't my bneusiness.)
I will keep you in my prayers.
I am so sorry for all that you are having to deal with when the only thing you should have to worry about right now is healing.
I know the emotional torment you are experiencing because of your husband's actions. When I was recovering from my first back surgery, my mother was stealing my pain meds, and to this day (12 years later), it pains me to think about it, and my heart aches for you! I wish so much that there was something more I could do or say.
I remember you...How is your husband doing? I hope that things are better. I feel like it's easier to talk to people here then to talk to my friends and family...Only because family sometimes feel like they should "fix" you...then they end up "not listening" when that's all I want in the first place. I know I can't be "fixed", but I would like to vent... Also, everyone here has been through some degree of what I have been through, so they have great advice and experiences to throw out there.
These People here are my friends...I may not know you personally, but it doesn't matter, you are my friends...So, thanks friends...
I hate Boats!!!!
Post Lamenectomy Syndrome, Spinal Stenosis, DDD....
1999 Hemi Lamenectomy/2005 Spinal Fusion(L4-S1)
Methadone 120 mg. a day/15 mg. Oxycodone as needed(up to 4 x a day)
High Blood Pressure: Lisinopril HCTZ 10 mg. daily
Type 2 Diabetes: (March 16, 2009)
Metformin HCL ER 1000 mg. at night
Hi Anice and I have not been here long posting but lurked for a long time and sad to say I have a way of being blunt and if this offends please forgive me.
Dont expect sending away your Mom will make him wake up or give him a kick anywhere.
His drug problem is his problem but there are those who enable others to be what they are and you looking the other way and allowing him take your meds and the kids meds is well enabling him.
If he thought for one moment that the police would be called and he would be turned in for stealing meds that were not his then maybe he might think twice and if he didnt then he would sit in jail and at least you and your child wouldnt run out of meds.
You knowingly allowing him to break the law is abetting in the laws eyes. If he is taking your childs meds and these meds are controlled that is a felony and if CPS gets wind that you knew and didnt do something or report it they will hold you just as responsible as him.
He has a problem and ignoring it isnt going to make it go away or help it.
I realize you said your not in love with him anymore then maybe it is time to move on with your life and protect your child from this behavior. Doesnt seem to me like he is doing anything great to help and appears he is hurting you all more then helping.
If someone doesnt make him accountable for his actions then at least leave him to them without risking you losing your kids and everything else for him.
Sorry if this is a bit harsh but it looks to me like it needed harsh words to wake up more then him sweety. What will happen if you do nothing and one of those times he doesnt wake up mixing opiates and speed and your left trying to explain to the coroner and police just how this happened with your meds and the childs.