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Chutz
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   Posted 5/5/2009 10:12 PM (GMT -7)   
We all need to feel loved and cared for....even if some people don't admit it. At least that's my opinion. But some people are more comfortable showing it that others. When you greet or are around others are you a huger, hand shaker or do you need 'personal space'?

If it's hubby then I take all the hugs I can get!!! With other family members I must admit I love hugs but for some reason have a hard time initiating them. As far as others go...I have this personal bubble the size of a small country! And stay OUT of my space...lol There are a couple of reasons why and the first one is the 'P' word...the one we can't talk about at Koffee Klatch. And the other is from how my ex treated me.

But one funny thing...I have met a few people from Healing Well in person and I ran right up and hugged with meaning and passion...just like they were my closest family. Strange huh???

How about you? Hugs or not?
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White Beard
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   Posted 5/5/2009 10:46 PM (GMT -7)   
I always extend my hand to shake hands, but I feel a little awkward with initiating Hugs even if I know the person, although I will admit I don't mind "Hugs" and I as I have aged I will on occasion even iniate a Hug once in awhile! I to am not usually comfortable with people being to close though, I like a reasonable amount of personal space! I do not like anyone being "in my face" so to speak. Unless they are invited! Actually Chutzie I can understand what you mean about people from Healing Well being just like closest family, yes I think many of them are!

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PAlady
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   Posted 5/5/2009 11:09 PM (GMT -7)   
Well, I come from a family that's fairly demonstrative (at least the females, and even most of the male cousins!), so hugs are common. With strangers, or casual acquaintances it's probably more of a handshake at first. I do admit I'm a little more gun shy now because of CP. My goddaughter's husband is great but he's one of those people who squeeze when they hug, so...you get the picture.

But I would feel as comfortable hugging people I might meet someday from this forum as any other family member!

PaLady

anice
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   Posted 5/6/2009 3:48 AM (GMT -7)   
I do like hugs,especially from my children. I don't like other people in my personal space that I don't know,especially. It makes me really uncomfortable. But I actually think I could hug the people in this forum and do so comfortably.
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   Posted 5/6/2009 4:23 AM (GMT -7)   
Well, I am a hugger. I have to admit my favorite hugs are from my husband and from my granddaughter, Kelly. She puts her arms around my neck or around my middle and just squeezes and it feels sooooooooooooooooo good. She is the sweetest part of my life (and her baby sister, Anna too).

I hug others easily and will often initiate hugs. I am very friendly. This is the exact opposite of what my mother was like. She was very stand-offish and did not like to hug until her later years. (I wore her down). My grandmother was very stoic too. In her later years, she, too would hug me easier than when she did when I was young. Don't know about those two.

My father hugged easily and was a very warm man. I miss him a lot. He died when I was 18.

Well, that's it about me. Thanks for letting me share my story too!! Hahahahahahahahahahaha!!!!!!!!!!!
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edt
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   Posted 5/6/2009 5:32 AM (GMT -7)   

I am a hugger!  Happened around age 40, when I realized that hugging is just another way of saying I Care, you mean alot to me, I am so sorry or I am so excited for you.....!  Sometimes, when you have no words that will relay what you feel a hug speaks volumes!

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   Posted 5/6/2009 6:33 AM (GMT -7)   

Oh Pattie......I like how you explain it.  Hugs do say all those things.  I am a hugger too.  I will hug people I have just met, especially friends of friends.  I met my absolute soul sister from healing well.  We live 2,000 miles apart.  When we get together, it is a hug fest!! 

My own children love hugs.  They get them all day long here.  I am also a big kisser!!  I don't know how that even started but everone gets kissed too.  It just seems to me a natural part of that hug.  You hug, then you back up and plant a big one on the cheek. 


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skeye
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   Posted 5/6/2009 3:07 PM (GMT -7)   
My family is really into hugging, so I suppose I was brought up a hugger! I do like my personal space though. I hug family very easily, but friends, I only hug if they are close. I'm certain that I could hug everyone here right away, though, since you are like pretty much family and have helped me through so much! As you've probably noticed, I don't give any lack of virtual hugs!

I must say, there is nothing like a good hug! Especially when you are sad, or upset, or hurting :-) They just makes you feel so safe & loved.

We should all get together & just have a giant hug fest! We all could use some hugs to help us through!

Oh, and Palady, I know what you mean about those squeezing hugs! Ouch! They often hurt me, and I don't have a bad back (although bad shoulders, yes)! Even I shy away from those people a bit. I can't imagine your situation!

hugs (haha),
Skeye

PAlady
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   Posted 5/6/2009 3:51 PM (GMT -7)   
This thread is making me long even more for a way we could all have a convention and meet eachother, but I know that's not realistic. I couldn't even afford to do it, and then there's everyone's pain issues.

But it's a heartwarming thought! I'm sure we'd all need a lot of kleenex at first, and then there would be lots of hugs and laughs and sharing of stories! Oh, how great that would be!

PaLady

White Beard
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   Posted 5/6/2009 4:43 PM (GMT -7)   
PALady
Wouldn't that be Great? It is a very heart warming thought! I like it!

White Beard
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skeye
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   Posted 5/6/2009 8:09 PM (GMT -7)   
That would be fabulous! I was feeling the same way after reading this! Maybe one of these days...

Skeye

PAlady
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   Posted 5/6/2009 8:37 PM (GMT -7)   
Maybe someday we'll have a lurker who's a millionairre and will set us all up in a nice, temperate climate with great doctors, and warm beaches and cabanas and...hmm...maybe it's time for another one of "those" threads. smilewinkgrin

PaLady cool
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