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Sam Roberson Jr
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   Posted 5/24/2009 10:40 PM (GMT -7)   
I have been getting that "look" at work lately, everyone who works with me knows about my back and all of the problems I have with it and I don't hide the fact that I take pain pills to help control my pain. Now lately I have been getting looks from my co-workers when I take my pills some have even gone as far as to call me Dr House, and it is starting to make me feel uncomfortable when it shouldn't, I am starting to wonder if I should step away to the bathroom to take my pills when I need to but that makes me feel like I am doing something wrong and that I am hiding the fact that I take pain medication. has anyone else had or is having this problem? any help would be appreciated.
                                                                         Thanks Sam
tying to make it one day at a time....corney right


PAlady
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   Posted 5/24/2009 11:43 PM (GMT -7)   
Sam,
I think we get all kinds of looks from family, friends, and co-workers. And many people don't understand and probably never will, although that's not the the case with everyone. For a lot of reasons, though, my opinion would be to take your medication privately. Sometimes I prefer to even take a couple of aspirin in private simply because, well, it is a private matter. Especially when we're talking about co-workers. The other thing is you leave yourself open to people who may want those pills for other reasons, and may even try to steal them, etc.

I wouldn't see it as hiding the fact you take pain meds, but do you let everyone else know all your medical history or financial history? I think it's fine to keep those things to share only with those we're close to, but for safety sake I wouldn't take pain meds in front of co-workers. Others may have different opinions.

PaLady

DiLane
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   Posted 5/25/2009 1:07 AM (GMT -7)   
The only people that know I take opiods are my doctor, my husband, and a friend who would take a bullet for me. The world is filled with judgemental creeps. Even if you tell them in confidence and they act like your friend, they'll only use it as ammunition against you later. I quit drinking 23 years ago. I was discreet about it as nobody knew I had a drinking problem in the first place. I quit when I was 27. I confided in my sister-in-law. I met her after I quit drinking. She acted so sweet and supportive. She died four years ago. I found out after that she called me "a drunk" behind my back for years. I always helped her financially and other ways. I was so hurt. I couldn't discuss it with her as she had died. The only people I trust in this world are my husband and my friend. Keep everything close to the vest. There's no benefit in telling anyone.
I'm sorry you're getting looks. Stick your tongue out at them, lol.   tongue

fatherjohn
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   Posted 5/25/2009 1:38 AM (GMT -7)   
Sam, I have to agree with PAlady regarding the privacy of the medications. Who you tell and who you don't is entirely up to you. I ask myself before I tell someone, why am I telling them and what motive or or outcome am I trying to achieve. It is very difficult to hide the fact that we live in constant pain. For instance, all of my students, staff and those I am accountable to see me respond to pain and the outward effects (using a cane, difficulty walking, sitting or certain movements.) I do not share what medications I take as there are many people that abuse pills and are always looking for supplies. Even when I am asked about what medications I am on, I am very vague. I say something like, "I am constantly having my medications changed or I take only ones that are prescribed." I have even told some that push to know what medications I take that I prefer not to discuss the issue. I don't let people see me take my medications at work or at functions. The fact that many people don't understand or view anyone taking medications as addicts protects me from judgements that I don't desire. In the show house, the cameras always focus on the dr as he dispenses pills from a bottle and then the way he takes them. It is done to make him look like an addict. Thus, it is easy for people to make the connection with us. I am even ver discrete where I keep my medications at worm and if I carry them with me in a pocket, I put cotten or kleenex in the bottle so they don't raqttle when I walk. As per what people think, I don't let that bother me. I don't have time to worry about them. i have more important things to deal with which includes my pain.     

modelmaker
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   Posted 5/25/2009 7:13 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi Sam,

When I was employed I always tried to take my meds either in my office or in a rest room. You never know who may be looking for pills. I didn't want ot become a target one night in the parking lot.

It was difficult to hide the pain and discomfort of back pain at work. Word quicly got around about my problems. But I found most co-workers to be understanding and accommodating on my bad days. It was hard not to be short with people when in pain. But as long as they knew it was the pain, not me talking they were fine.

But do be careful with your meds.

Modelmaker
Degenerative disc disease, 4 back surgeries, fused from L2-S1, instrumentation. Being treated for chronic pain. Oxycodone 30 mg. IR. Candidate for SCS in the future.


LLPLUV
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   Posted 5/25/2009 7:28 AM (GMT -7)   
Sam....
First off its all up to you who you want to know.  Taking your pills, well I take me pills in my department for there is only me and a co-worker who is 18 and she is the sweetest person in the world.  I personally choose not to take them in front of others.  For the reason of getting all the strange looks.
 
I made one mistake.  I had to tell the man in charge when my injections started so that I could have Mondays off.  His data entry clerk got wind of it.  (she had to change my schedule in the computer).  She had just gotten out of rehab for drinking.  Here we go she had the Kahonos to lecture me on addiction.  But being my nice self I just told her I will always have it under control.
 
If you want to keep everything out in the open KUDOS to you.  But realize some others will think differently and some could have other ideas for your meds.
 
In a perfect world judgement wouldn't be passed so easy on others.  But sad to say our world is far from that.
 
Laurie
39 yr young female with,
Chronic Kidney Stones, PKD (Polycystic Kidney Disease), Chronic Kidney Failure, Severe Hypertension, Urological RSD
Also CHF (Congestive Heart Failure) and Sleep Apnea
Hopefully NO MORE........ I think I have it all


Sam Roberson Jr
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   Posted 5/25/2009 10:34 AM (GMT -7)   
thanks for all of your advise, I have never kept the problems that I have with my back a secret at work because there is a lot of things that I am not supposed to do like lift anything heavier than 40lbs or to do any constant lifting or bending and that is hard to do in a kitchen that is as busy as mine is, so I am honest with the people who work for me because lets face it honesty is the best policy right and the way I see it if I am honest with them they will be honest with me. As far as worrying about someone stealing my meds at work I always keep them on my person at all times and I am 6'4" 225lbs so there is very few people who would intimidate me not to mention that I have the respect of all of my co-workers. It is just upsetting that all of a sudden they are looking at me this way or maybe they have always looked at me like that and I have just now noticed it, I don't know. It is just frustrating because all of a sudden I feel like I am doing something wrong when I am not. again thanks for the support;
                                                                    Sam
tying to make it one day at a time....corney right


LLPLUV
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   Posted 5/25/2009 10:58 AM (GMT -7)   

Heres another way of looking at it.  Your last post brought this to mind.  Have you ever thought that maybe its all in your head..lol  Just kidden what I mean is when we have chronic pain sometimes we become depressed or hypersenstive to those around us.  The looks might be cuz you pee'd in there cornflakes..lol  Kitchens can get under stress at times.  I know for I used to work in one I love to cook.

What I'm trying to say is sometimes we jump to conclusions when we feel so much pain.  I catch myself doing this with my hubby and have to stop myself.

Just an idea

Laurie


39 yr young female with,
Chronic Kidney Stones, PKD (Polycystic Kidney Disease), Chronic Kidney Failure, Severe Hypertension, Urological RSD
Also CHF (Congestive Heart Failure) and Sleep Apnea
Hopefully NO MORE........ I think I have it all


PAlady
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   Posted 5/25/2009 12:04 PM (GMT -7)   
Sam,
Are you the head chef or owner? I just wondered, since yes, they do need to understand your physical limitations, if you wanted to share a little with them about how you're feeling without blaming anyone. Now I don't know if this is the right thing to do or not, but it came to me as one possible option.

Yet, I would still expect some people not to understand, but maybe you can open some eyes. If it was me, though (which it's not), I wouldn't share the specific narcotic meds I'm on, but that's just me.

You can share your physical limitations, and just say this medication you take is what enables you to keep working at all. Otherwise you might not be able to function even with limitations. Maybe if they see how much you want to continue working, that would help.

I don't know. Just my opinions.

PaLady

Sam Roberson Jr
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   Posted 5/25/2009 8:19 PM (GMT -7)   
I am the Executive Chef and I have confided in my souse' chef tonight and expressed to her what I was feeling and she has assured me that it is all in my head because although they mite tease me by calling me Chef House it is all in fun. Yes I have been under a lot of pressure lately with all of the party's and events that are scheduled for this month so I guess that it was all in my head. Thank you for all of your help.
                                                                      Sam
tying to make it one day at a time....corney right

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