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Date Joined Aug 2006
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   Posted 5/27/2009 7:52 PM (GMT -6)   
I'll be gone for awhile, brother in law comitted suicide, I just found out yesterday and sad part is he's leaving two very young kids
behind, so my plate is full with trying to get things organized for a Graduation on 5th June, then a Graduation Party up in Michigan
and then a wake in Iowa, the whole trip will be fast paced and hard and I might need to get injections in my back, right knee and left
shoulder when I get back, just so, I'll be able to move...
I wanted y'all to know that I'll be too busy to post, but will keep you all in my thoughts and Prayers (if you don't mind) till I get
back in July..
and I want to give all here a very BIG SOFT HUGZ, with hopes that you get low pain days, I consider y'all family and I'll try to
peek in if I can get a chance and I'm sorry...
I hope I don't let y'all down, but you will be in my thoughts..
So posts so I can see them from time to time and please add in soft hugz from me...
I will be back (corny as it sounds) and posting hugz just as soon as I can, so don't go away...
Luv Ya all, your all so nice..
lots of them along with well wishes....
and no more bad news for anyone.......(my wishes)
So see y'all in July...
* Asthma, Allergies, Osteoarthritis, Spinal Stenosis, Degenative Disc, Fibromyalgia, Gerd,
Enlarged Pituitary Gland, Sjogren's and Ocular Migraines


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   Posted 5/27/2009 8:06 PM (GMT -6)   
Oh, wow, Char, I am so sorry for your/your family's loss. That is truly devastating! My sympathies to you & your family!

Best of luck with your daughter's graduation & all the traveling! I hope that it doesn't hurt you too much & you can enjoy your daughter's ceremony & party! And maybe your allergies will be better where you are going. At least, here's to hoping!

Many hugs, my friend. (((((((((((((((((Char))))))))))))))))))

Just remember, that we are always here if you need us (if you can sneak onto a computer). And if not, know that we are all here rooting for you anyways!


Pete trips again!
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   Posted 5/27/2009 8:32 PM (GMT -6)   
Chart, I just don't know what I can say to you to express how bad I feel for you and your families loss. There just aren't words, you poor dear. Just remember what Skeye said> we will all be here for you whenever you need us. Godspeed my good friend, I'll pray the road is not to rough on you and we'll see you when ever!!
Your Friend,
56 years old, Surgury, Radical Prostatectomy 8/20/03, PSA 6.6, Gleason 3 + 3 = 6, Adenocarcinoma extent (moderate) Stage & Margin:T2NOMX, No Metastases, Organ Confined, bone scan: Neg. 3 1/2 years of depression after surgery prior to Hypogonadizm DX, Testosterone Theropy> new 2/6/09> 400mg injections once a month. 56 and so glad to still be here to see my two sons grow up to be fine young men. They are both serving in the US Navy, Joseph is on the aircraft carrier USS John Stennis headed for Hawai and Pete Jr. is on The Asault Ship USS Bataan "The Jaws of the Fleet" on their way to the Middle East w/ 2,000 Marines aboard. I am one very proud (what they call me)> Big Pops! 

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Date Joined Nov 2007
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   Posted 5/27/2009 8:55 PM (GMT -6)   
What tragic news, but at the same time in your life there's celebration. I am sending you many soft hugs, as you've sent to us, and I hope your allergies and pain are as minimal as possible.

We will be thinking of you, so I hope you will feel our energy coming your way when you need an invisible shoulder to lean on or cry on. Close your eyes and remember us!



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   Posted 5/27/2009 11:28 PM (GMT -6)   

I'm so very sorry. I do know the pain of loosing a family member to suicide. In my case it was my son. Please be very gentle with yourself and the family. It will take a long time for healing to begin,...just take your time.

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   Posted 5/28/2009 7:34 AM (GMT -6)   


I am so so sorry for your/family's loss.  We will miss you, take care of yourself!!! 

Remember to rest when you can!  And ENJOY your daughters celebration! I had my surgery on my youngest daughters Graduation day, so I missed out on one of lifes greatest events in  a Mothers life...so treasure the day with her!! 

You are in our thoughts and prayers.



White Beard
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   Posted 5/28/2009 10:24 AM (GMT -6)   
What a tragedy! Yes it always seems that the young innocent children are the ones that are left to suffer the most! I will say a prayer for them! Be good to your self on your travels! And say high to Michigan for me, I have many relatives that live there!
Good Luck to You Chart, you will be in my thoughts and prayers during your travels!

White Beard
  I'm Retired USAF, went back to school and became an RN, and now am on full disalbility!--Degenerative Disc (affecting mostly the thorasic disc but all levels involved), C6/7 laminectomy/diskectomy& fusion, Osteoarthritis, Ulcerative colitis, Chronic Pain, Fibromyalgia, Complex Sleep Apnea, and host of other things to spice up my life!(NOT!) Medications: Oxycontin, Percocet, Baclofen, Sulfasalazine, Metoprolol, Folic Acid, Supplemental O2 at 3lpm with VPAP Adapt SV

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   Posted 5/28/2009 3:35 PM (GMT -6)   
Char, I am so very sorry for the loss of your brother in law. It is such a tragedy. And I feel for your sister and for the children. I will remember to keep your family in my thoughts and prayers,daily. I am glad that you will be able to go and be with them during this time. I know you will be a big comfort to your sister.

Please travel safely and take care of yourself as best you can. Bless you, my friend. I wish I knew what to say that would make it better for you. I do care and we will all be here in July when you come back. This sounds like you have so much to do and so many places to go.A joyous time with your daughter graduating and then sorrow for your brother in law-a roller coaster of emotions.We will all miss you and will be here to comfort and support you on your return. Sending you lots of hugs for the days ahead.



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Date Joined Sep 2008
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   Posted 5/28/2009 8:21 PM (GMT -6)   
Oh Char that is so very sad, so hard for small children to understand. Best of luck with all you are coping with rightnow, be it health or family, golitho

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Date Joined Sep 2008
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   Posted 5/30/2009 9:04 AM (GMT -6)   
I am sending a lot of hugs to you because you need them more then we do at this time.I know it is hard for your family to understand why he would do this to his family and want to tell you that he was not being selfish it`s just that you get so depressed that you can not think of anything but the pain of living.It becomes so unbearable that you fill that it is the only way out and that your family will be better off with out you.I now what I am talking about I tried it 1 1/2 year ago.But lucky for my family The DR. were able to save me.I wish that could have been what happened for your family.
Lost half of my small intestineJan.2008.Ilieostomy for 5 months then reverst in June 2008,Nerve damage to right leg,part of my right hip bone removed Jan. 2008,Cronic pain,hernia,infection in my back called discites,and depression.Gallbladder removed Nov,2008.Surgery to fuse L3 and L4 vertabra Dec. 31,2008.Mother to 9 kids 7 boys 2 girls and 1 stepson.4 grandsons,9 grandaughters.4 of my grandkids I inherited from my twin sister who passed away 6 1/2 years ago from a blood clot after surgery.God has given me my life back after I almost lost it.Even though its a painful and sometimes hard road to walk I take it one step at a time and give thanks to god for every step I take.

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Date Joined Dec 2007
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   Posted 5/30/2009 1:20 PM (GMT -6)   
I am truly sorry for the loss that your family is suffering. It is tragic that he took his life and left young children to have to deal with this, as well as the rest of your family. I hope that you all can find the strength to hold tight to one another through this.
Congratulations on your daughter's graduation. I can't imagine how you will manage all of this, but know that you will.
Best wishes to you,
PLIF/TLIF Fusion w/Instrumentation L4-5 Spondololysthesis L4-5.Laminectomies L4-5, foraminal stenosis L3-4, L4-5, L5-S1, herniations L3-4, L4-5, L5-S1, central canal stenosis L3-4, L4-5 and L5-S1
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On going back pain and neuropathic pain, failed back surgery, consult for scs, decided not to do that at this point.
Adhesive Arachnoiditis also......just what I didn't need..9/08- adding bilateral ulnar neuropathy with severe compression to the mix. They want me to see a surgeon for ulnar nerve surgery, but I'm not biting.
I've seen enough surgeons over the last few years.

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