Ok, slow down take a big deep breath. So, the appt was not what you expected. Please keep in mind surgeons are different ducks so to speak. This guy assumed and gave you his usual speech of going back to work 6-8 weeks post surgery. Its the same one he has given all of his other patients that had your type of surgery. Its called textbook medicine. I would hate to hear what he tells his fusion patients. But on the other side of the coin, do you think alot of people would give in and have surgery if they were told they would be off work for 6 months to one year. Most would say no and walk out. Economics is in their mind, I cannot afford to be out that long end of story.
Now, I agree totally with what he says about talking to your physical therapist. Why, the PT person watches you, see's where your deficits are, knows what needs work. You walking into the drs office and doing his little stand up, sit down, tip toe, heel walk, bend over, thing is not enough for him to know what you are capable of doing in an average day, think about it. He is with you at best fifteen minutes at your appts, that cannot possibly tell him what you need or don't need. He did give you some valuable info Anice, your surgery was a little more involved than what he thought.
Now is the time for you to get with your physical therapist and put a plan of action together that will rehab you back to where you need to be to get you back functioning fully. Back to where you can return to your job. This is going to be tough, nothing is ever easy. You must stop your might set you are in now, about all you are doing is totally overwhelming yourself and yes it is and will interfere with your recovery. PaLady and the others on here have told you how valuable a good PT can be in your recovery. This is so true, I have seen it first hand. Actually for our clients, PT is what got our folks back up on their feet and back to work. It sure was not the surgeon. His part is done, he corrected the problem surgically which all any of them ever do. The physical therapy was the key to the whole thing. It was the final piece to the puzzle.
I would get the script of Medrol DosePak filled and give it a try it can only help, it certainly will not hurt anything. But, do not take the Mobic with it.
Emotionally you are going to have to get yourself to a better place than where you are today. Its tough but you can do it. if you feel depression is setting in go see your PCP. Put all that negative crap away and turn it to rehabing yourself. Talk to your PT and let them know how the appt went with your dr and how the dr said to talk to them about what your needs are as far as rehab goes. Concentrate on your rehab. Be sure your PT person has a job description of what your work day is like. Get an appt ASAP with your pain mgt dr and get that handled.
Above all let you job know what is going on. I do not think I would say the dr said I will be out 6 months. I would say that the dr wants me rehabbed to the best of my ability before he will let me return to work. Let them know you are in the process of having a program put together.
Please get yourself calmed down. It is not helping your situation at all, you are adding stress you don't need. You have had a good cry and gotten it out. Yes, you will go back to your job. Its just a little bumpier there than you knew. Thats ok, when we hit a speed bump we slow down so should you. This will pass and you will look back on it and say, Anice what were you thinking about going back to work so soon!! Each person is different in how they heal remember that. The ball is in your court now, you just have not figured that one out yet-but you will. Hugs, Susie
Anice, I know I started behind on PT after my frist surgery. The Surgeon wanted to wait longer than normal and the PT told me that in his oppinion, it made my recovery tougher. I was told by others who had back surgery that PT would be painful and difficult but if I did not give in or up and do the stretches and exercises at home, it would help. Even though mu back surgery was considered a failure, PT was what helped me get where I could continue. I would advise you to discuss the frustration and the goal over with your PT and get a schedule to follow.
I also agree with Susie that it is time to give yourself a break. I am glad that your husband was at home when you returned home and has been able to give you support. Surgeons know that everyone heals at a different rate and they are also aware that not everyone will be ready in 6 to 8 weeks. It also depends on the kind of job you have. The more physical your job, the more you want that healing to be as far along as possible. You have so many things that are going on and the more strung out you allow yourself to go mentally, it can hinder the healing. Any one of us that have gone through back surgery knows it is not easy. My surgeon told me up front that the multilevel fusion surgery is one of the most painful surgeries there is. He also told me that it will take at least a year for the heling process. We will continue to hang in there with you. Tomorrow is another day.
I am so sorry to hear what happened to you today. Straydog, PALady and FatherJohn have given you great advice and info.
Similar scenario for me I was told 3 hours for surgery it took 8, I was told double CS fusion ended up with Triple fusion, I thought it would be a mere 6 weeks to recoup it was 11 mos....I was told at 11 mos. the picture was grim because of the spinal cord damage from the ruptures, didn't believe him returned to work......Just stay focused on today and do all of your PT and meds...thats all you can do right now. We are here for you ALWAYS!!
Its your cheerleader speaking again,lol. Key word dr said it may take 6 months. He left the door open on that one to heal or return to work. That one is up to you. I will say put the 6 months totally out of your mind. Stop putting high expectations on yourself its really hindering your recovery. Learn to concentrate on the day it is only. You simply need to tell yourself each morning upon rising today will be a little better than yesterday. Get rid of the garbage that is cluttering your mind so you can concentrate on the important issues. Letting your mind race with 50 million different things is just torturing yourself, then in the midst of that you forget and lose track of your goal. Tell yourself my goal is to heal properly and rehab myself so I can return to work. Do not give yourself a time limit. I think if you can get yourself calmed down enough and really work at this you will see starting to fall in place as they should. The negative thoughts are using up good energy and taking your mind off the important things.
Stop the what ifs, they will eat your lunch, instead its when I return to work, The other things will all fall into place as they come. Your mind set is just as important as your rehab, its all in the attitude and keeping your head on straight. You are a high strung person no doubt.
Again, watch how long you sit at intervals-stay away from the recliner. Limit your sitting time to 20 minute intervals get up move around some then go sit back down. Always set in a straight back chair with your feet on the floor. You need good posture. Remember sitting causes lots of stress and pressure on your back just as it will the buttocks and hips. Go lie down a few times day even if its for only 15 minutes at a time. Tell yourself this is part of my rehab. It is not laziness girl. Try to do little stretches when laying down. Also, do you know how to make your body relax? I learned how to relax my body through a hypnotist that I went to it was amazing being able to relax myself starting from my toes up. Sounds wild huh lol? It worked so who cared.
Our clients that had lammies all returned back to their jobs. For some it took a little longer than it did others. Thats because we are all different and heal different. Some of our slow starters were the ones that put too high expectations on themselves, the what if's totally overwhelmed them and got in the way. They were basically setting themselves up for a fall because they were not able to look at the big picture realistically. They learned that eventually everything did fall into.\ place.
Make your appt with PM dr so you don't get too far out for an appt. Forget all the things that has happened since surgery put it away in drawer somewhere. Concentrate on now, not yesterday or the day before. You can and will do this if you approach it correctly. Hugs, Susie
I'm happy I could make you feel something other than pain and frustration....
Usually I keep my profound statements to myself so others don't think I'm crazy and insane. My kids always tell me to stop being ghandi or Buda...lol I like my saying Your the Master of your own destiny.......
Thank you for your comment. I hope your day is going better then yesterday..