I have read in several posts lately that the issue of when should a person tells the truth comes up. Some believe that one should always tell the truth either because of religious or personal conviction. Sometimes it comes down to how much of the truth should you share. Still I know that there will be a variety of answers to never volunteer information to only that which is absolutely necessary. Some of us have been in the situation that afterwards we wished we would not have shared something.
Without going into my personal history much most should know that I have been fighting the CP battle for 11 years after being injured as a law enforcement officer. I worked through allot of red tape with my department, Work Comp and even the state I was living in and had to take my case all the way to Washington DC to win. Long story. I went back to work as a pastor of a small church with WC on board. My work Comp claim will remain for the rest of my life as there was no question I was injured at work in the line of duty. about 6 years ago, an organization came to me and asked me to start a college program for them allowing individuals that have gone through a drug/alcohol treatment program and been clean and sober a year. We resigned our church and the school has been open for 5 1/2 years. My CP has increased the last 3 years and in the last 1 1/2 years I have had three surgeries, many pt sessions, medication changes etc. I knew that this day was going to come. I was asked today by the A Corp. Officer what meds I am on and what others I have been on recently. After sharing what information I thought was appropriate as I refuse to lie, I was notified that they will be bringing me in for a meeting with the Corp. Board. There has been a change in individuals on the board and I know the one who is the power broker does not believe that anyone should be on narcotic pain meds. I feel I am starting to see the writing on the wall that will bring another battle that I will be facing. There point is, how a person on drugs can help other drug addicts. They don't recognize dependence verses addiction. I have never taken a day off because I was hurting in over 5 years. I have never used all my sick leave or vacation time and end up just turning it back into them (not remunerated for). Now I am finding myself in the sights. My question is not do they have a right to do this or if it is legal or ethical. The question is how truthful should we be.
Skeye, I know that whether it is me or anyone else, even several of the other threads currently listed evoke emotions when people with CP are labled directly or indirectly as abusers or addicts. This has nothing to do with the law enforcement community in any way. I had to fight a battle after being labled by the state WC as being totally and permanantly disabled. The county then argued I was not due insurance because I was not retired just disbaled. I fought them at the Dept. of Justice in DC and won with no problem. This is a private, faith based non-profit that I am now dealing with. The one and only issue will be that I am using narcotics while being the Executive Director of a center for the Corporation. Things do wrok a little differently in the non-profit world so I will be waiting for a notice of a meeting. I am leaving next week for a week at a conference in Arizona. They could surprise me there but I doubt it. I deal with crisis on a regular basis and one more just gets added to the pile. I have already checked the corporation's policy manual and there is not much they can do but time will tell. It really is an organization that has done so much good.
Tony, a common thread with us. Even if they say I am high while at work or driving, they will have a hard time proving as I don't take my meds during the daySome students ask what meds I am on and I always close that conversation quickly. They know I hurt and have had surgery and are stupid. They know I am on mds. I refuse to tell them as for protection. Thanks for the offer but I hope it is not needed I handled beter before and I will stand agau-in,
Post Edited (PAlady) : 6/18/2009 12:33:25 AM (GMT-6)
Wow, I think I am still in shock. I too believe in being honest and have always found that just works the best for me. My mother taught us kids this and we lived by it. I have seen many times in the past honesty was something someone else perhaps did not want to hear but, none the less it was put out there. I have just seen it too many times once a person starts off lying it takes another lie to cover the one before.
You know with you working and getting this program off the ground and obviously making the program a complete success. I have to question the motivations of the person that asked you about your medications. I have to wonder about what is really behind this whole picture with this? I need to think about this a bit.
I have to agree that honesty is best, but like Susie also question the motivation behind this person's inquiry.
I can't add anything that hasn't already been said!
The bottom line is that your work record should serve as proof that despite the pain and PRESCRIBED medication, you give 200% to your job and are always there when needed.
You are in my prayers!
It is going to be hard keeping up with this one as i have too many extra hours. I will try to amke a few connections.
Chutzie, I know that we deal withn different catagories of people and it could be smart to be careful with each group. When tellin g someone you don't feel it is there need to know information that tends to put the realtionship back a bit which could be ok. Others we trust can handle more information. If we get through without a lie, we should not have to fear the future. A lie can open things up later.
PAlady, in checking out the policy manual all that it states is personel are not to report to duty under the influence of alcohol or drugs. Drugs can be vague. Aspirn to herione. I take drug tests every month and can prove that there is noting in me that has not been prescribed. I may look into an attorney. My insurance is not through the corp. so they can't get my information there.
Dani, I dod not tell my students what meds I am on. They know there is some meds I just don't go into details.
Lori, what was it hat hade it his right. He called to ask a question and I reminded him I wsa do for surgery but should not miss much work. I only took one day off. I did not by any poilcy have to share with him but it would look bad if I refused to answer. They don't check on me much, I do my job and more. They see me walk with a cane and I have to walk through there offices. It is hard to hide pain but I must be good. They have no idea what my level of pain is.
Rather than saying I will not tell a lie, we can say I won't lie but I am not going to offer information to people who don't have the need. I will add more later, bad night.