Friday Koffee Klatch! Come join us~~

New Topic Post Reply Printable Version
[ << Previous Thread | Next Thread >> ]

Chutz
Veteran Member


Date Joined Jan 2005
Total Posts : 9090
   Posted 7/2/2009 11:05 PM (GMT -7)   
If you are new to the forum or just new to our Koffee Klatch please feel free to jump right on in and join our daily Koffee Klatch. This is a small portion of our day when we talk about everything but the 'P' word...lol We deserve some laughs, happy memories and delightful daydreams and this is the place where we give them away daily for free. Where else can you get a deal like that??? idea

So today's insightful questions is....When did you first consider yourself grown up? For me it was a very, very long time. I'll keep it very short and say about the time I was 40. I know, I know...what the heck was I before then???...lol A very lost soul. But once I got rid of the ex and found ME again I felt like a true adult. Hard to explain but that's my answer and I'm sticking to it... smhair

How about you?? When did you really feel like you were an adult?

Chutzie
Co-Moderator Fibromyalgia & Chronic Pain Forums ~~~
Fibromyalgia, Ulcerative Colitis, Insulin dependent diabetic, PTSD, dermatitis herpetiformus, osteoarthritis, collapsed disk, and a few other side dishes.

(\__/)
(='.'=)
(")_(")

If you ask what is the single most important key to longevity, I would have to say it is avoiding worry, stress and tension. And if you didn't ask me, I'd still have to say it.
George Burns


Gretchen1
Forum Moderator


Date Joined Jan 2007
Total Posts : 3459
   Posted 7/2/2009 11:45 PM (GMT -7)   
You feel grown up? Oh man..................um, it hasn't happened yet.  blush Oh by the way, I really enjoyed chatting with many of you.  My eyes keep me from following perfectly but it was fun while it lasted.  What a nice, nice group!!! 
Gretchen  ~  diagnosed with MS July 2006
 
I have no lesions on my soul and so I will live with no limits.


SpaceButler
Regular Member


Date Joined Jun 2009
Total Posts : 23
   Posted 7/2/2009 11:56 PM (GMT -7)   
I guess I haven't really grown up yet, but It could be like one of those never-attainable goals; one always yearns for it, feels like it may be right around the next corner, but never really gets there. At least that is how it has been for me so far haha
Web development, programming, camping, chess, go, painting


PAlady
Veteran Member


Date Joined Nov 2007
Total Posts : 6795
   Posted 7/3/2009 12:06 AM (GMT -7)   
We're supposed to grow up? smhair rolleyes

Carly Simon has a song called grown up and the chorus is:

See I've just gotten older
I've just gotten taller
And the little ones they call me
a grown up.

Nearly 6 decades and I still can't answer that question, Chutzie!

PaLady

Hello~Kitty
Veteran Member


Date Joined Jun 2005
Total Posts : 610
   Posted 7/3/2009 12:18 AM (GMT -7)   
Well sadly for me (if you are offended I'm sorry) I had my first child when I was 16 and my 2nd when I was 18, but it wasnt til I was 21 and all my friends where out drinking and partying and I found that I rather stay home and take care of my children and not be hung over the next day and not be able to take care of them is when I realized I was grown up. Actually today I went to my friend's house for a b-day party for a little girl and the little girls grandma and great grandma came over, they where so use to my friends being drunk all the time and only thinking of themselves, and I got dinner for the children and set up their food and put straws in their drinks, the grandmothers seemed very impressed that someone was actually taking care of the kids while all my friends where sitting there drinking, and seemed shock that I wasnt drinking at all. I guess I just feel that my children need a mother and not a 26 year old out partying everynight and pawning them off on everyone. but actually this seems to be ore of having no life then realizing I'm grown up lol

-hellokitty

Chronic Pain Moderator

Dx-Gallstones at age 14 that caused Fibromyalgia in 1998. Chronic Pancreatitis at age 15 from Pancreatic Divisum. Fell down cement basement stairs on my bottom in 2001. Got severe migraines after the epidural from my 2nd childbirth in 2002. Was rear-ended by a lady doing 55mph in 2004 then 2 months later rolled my car down a hill and did even more damage to my back. Depression caused by having chronic pain. Asthma from allergies.

meds- Suboxone for pain, Cymbalta for pain and depression, Lyrica for pain and migraines, Imitrex for migraines, Ibprofen for migraines, Ventolin Albuterol inhaler for asthma. Phenergan for nausea, Seroquel for sleep.

"I know God will not give me anything I can't handle. I just wish that He didn't trust me so much."         -Mother Teresa


White Beard
Forum Moderator


Date Joined Feb 2009
Total Posts : 3611
   Posted 7/3/2009 4:33 AM (GMT -7)   
Actually , for me it was after I retired from the Air Force, I was 41 and I had close to 22 1/2 years in the service. I went to the junior college,  talked to a guidance counselor and took a bunch of appitude tests,  afterwards I went back to the guidance counselor and we descussed the results. The best match  for me was college professor, and then anything in the Medical field.  She asked me why I didn't  go into one of the career fields I had been trained in, and worked in, while I was in the Air Force.   I told her the Air Force had taken care of me for 20 plus years, sending me where they wanted me to go, and doing what they wanted me to do!  It was time I grew up and started taking care of myself and persue a career entirely of my own choosing!
 
      My mother had died the year before of colon cancer,  you know, I so admired those  hospice nurses that took care of her, I new that I wanted to do that, at least to take care  of  the sick if not dying people! Thus I chose Nursing! I was never much of a student in High School, but I honestly Loved college, all of it, and I excelled at it!  I was very very close to the top with not quite a 4.0  grade average!  I even helped tutor or mentor students, I felt old, and mature, and I was compared to most everyone else there, but I  Loved the experience! I was so proud of myself when I graduated! I felt I  had beat the odds, as I did not have the support of my wife and  her family when I went back to school. Don't You know? , I was suppose to go directly to work after retiring! I mean, after all  that training  I had while in the military! First in Photography, then in Flight Simulators and then Communications/Data Processing.  I had, had enough schooling and training! It was time to get to work! But other than Photography my heart was not in those other jobs, and I didn't feel Photography was a job to support a family on!  But something, I can't explain it, just told me that Nursing was my calling! Maybe it was my deceased mother, she had been a nurses aid for many years!  I don't know, but I knew I had to be a Nurse!  Anyway  after spending my first year of getting allot of the basics out of the way, and a few of the first Nursing courses, I worked part time  at the local Hospital as a Nurse Extern on the Oncology Unit. I did that, the rest of my way through school!
 I was finally an Adult! yeah
 
White Beard


Moderator Chronic Pain
 
I'm Retired USAF, went back to school and became an RN, and now am on full disalbility!--Degenerative Disc (affecting mostly the thorasic disc but all levels involved), C6/7 laminectomy/diskectomy& fusion, Osteoarthritis, Ulcerative colitis, Chronic Pain, Fibromyalgia, Complex Sleep Apnea, and host of other things to spice up my life!(NOT!) Medications: Oxycontin, Percocet, Baclofen, Sulfasalazine, Metoprolol, Folic Acid, Supplemental O2 at 3lpm with VPAP Adapt SV

Post Edited (White Beard) : 7/3/2009 5:47:24 AM (GMT-6)


Smoochie
Regular Member


Date Joined Jun 2009
Total Posts : 71
   Posted 7/3/2009 7:11 AM (GMT -7)   
That is an easy question for me and also a sad one, the day for me was five years ago, I was at the hospital with my mother and my father and my sister, this was probably dads thirtieth time there but this time was different, the doctor and me and my sister and my mom stepped into the hall and I asked the doctor how dad was and she said this is the beginning of the end, his lung cancer had spread to his liver and she said maybe he would have two weeks. My sister lost it about this time and so did mom, we all agreed that dad should not know so they went off to collect themselves and I went back in the room with a cheery smile and told him the doctor said you can go home tomorrow, and even though I didn't tell him and I had a big smile on my face I knew he knew and he grabbed my hand and said "promise me you will take care of your mother" and I said of course I will,but you are going to be here so dont worry about it, which I know he knew was a lie. It was at that moment that I realized that I had to take care of the family now, ot mom,not my older sister, no the baby, thats me, was the strong one and everyone knew it, so I took care of mom and two weeks later dad passed. And I have taken care of my family since. Just a extra tidbit here, dad died of Lung Cancer he smoked three packs a day and at the time I smoked one pack a day, I havve been smoke free for almost four years now and I am so glad I dont smoke so if you do smoke do some research on cancer when you see how it ends it should scare you into quiting. Everyone have agreat Friday, off to watch a movie with my hubby. : )
 


fatherjohn
Veteran Member


Date Joined Feb 2009
Total Posts : 999
   Posted 7/3/2009 8:23 AM (GMT -7)   
I remember very clearly. I thought I was grown up at 16 when I moved out into my car. I was in charge. No one to yell at mea any more. about 12 years later and a tragic even, I was a drug addict and alcoholic. I admitted that and went for help and have been clean and sober since. I finally started taking responsibility for myself instead of blaming others.

PAlady
Veteran Member


Date Joined Nov 2007
Total Posts : 6795
   Posted 7/3/2009 12:29 PM (GMT -7)   
Reading these stories is really very heartwarming. And made me think a little more seriously about the issue, especially after reading Smoochie's story. I remember returning back to the small town I grew up in after I finished graduate school because somehow I knew as an only child with aging parents, somehow I'd have to take care of one of them. So I turned down an opportunity to go to California with a friend and came back "home". Never really intended to stay here this long, and I may have some regrets about that one day, but within about 3 years of my returning back from college my father died. And my mother was a very loving but dependent woman who didn't even know how to write a check. I suppose that's why I became so stubbornly independent (maybe too much so in retrospect). And then my mother died about 10 years later, and handling that was all on me, even though there was some help from family. Somewhere in there at least part of me grew up. But I still think part of me isn't sure.

PaLady

anice
Veteran Member


Date Joined Apr 2009
Total Posts : 536
   Posted 7/3/2009 3:47 PM (GMT -7)   
I guess I knew I was a "grown up" when I was about 18. I moved out,got married and with all the bills piling up, I knew I had no choice but to grow up.

I really enjoyed reading everyones' posts on this. PaLady, what type of work did you do? I read that you went to graduate school. I hope that isn't too personal,just wondering.

WhiteBeard, I know you made a great nurse. I really admire you for going back to school. I am just a medical assistant. It still is nursing. I always wanted to go back for my RN. But I was young and dumb and had to get something fast. I always regretted that. I always wanted better for myself and my children. I'll be 40 this year. I don't think I will go back to school...
anice

Mrs. Dani
Veteran Member


Date Joined Jun 2009
Total Posts : 2787
   Posted 7/3/2009 4:38 PM (GMT -7)   
 
 
    Dear Chutz,
 
         I think it was when I got my first speeding ticket... Not when I was pulled over. But when I went to court and was given the sum total of my fines devil
 
          Sobering *KICK* into adulthood for me!
 
*huggs*
dani
TWO roads diverged in a yellow wood,  
And sorry I could not travel both  
And be one traveler, long I stood


PAlady
Veteran Member


Date Joined Nov 2007
Total Posts : 6795
   Posted 7/3/2009 4:41 PM (GMT -7)   
Anice,
Do NOT think 40 is too old to go back to school! Just look at White Beard as one example. I taught college for 12 years, and over that time the number of adult students grew to be about half of the classes. Many, many people go back for new careers, a lot have to but many want to. And there very well may be financing out there for someone who wants to be a nurse, and they're in demand. So if that's your dream once your heal, Go For It!

And don't think of yourself as "just" a medical assistant. That's often who a lot of us deal with in a doctor's office, and how we're treated by staff can make all the difference in the world about how our experience of treatment is to us. We sure know enough bad experiences, but I'm sure you provide soothing, understanding care!

PaLady

Post Edited (PAlady) : 7/4/2009 1:11:16 PM (GMT-6)


White Beard
Forum Moderator


Date Joined Feb 2009
Total Posts : 3611
   Posted 7/3/2009 7:27 PM (GMT -7)   

anice

I was glad to see PALady's post! I most certainly agree, it is really never to late to go back to school! I figure if I can do it anyone can! If you really want to be a Nurse, go for it check out your closest college, or junior college,f ind out what it will take you to make your dream come true. Maybe you will be able to work and go to school like I did.  It is something to think about anice!

White Beard

Boy would I have liked to had you as one of my Professors PALady, to so many of them that I had, I was a real pain! smilewinkgrin
Moderator Chronic Pain
 
I'm Retired USAF, went back to school and became an RN, and now am on full disalbility!--Degenerative Disc (affecting mostly the thorasic disc but all levels involved), C6/7 laminectomy/diskectomy& fusion, Osteoarthritis, Ulcerative colitis, Chronic Pain, Fibromyalgia, Complex Sleep Apnea, and host of other things to spice up my life!(NOT!) Medications: Oxycontin, Percocet, Baclofen, Sulfasalazine, Metoprolol, Folic Acid, Supplemental O2 at 3lpm with VPAP Adapt SV


fatherjohn
Veteran Member


Date Joined Feb 2009
Total Posts : 999
   Posted 7/3/2009 7:41 PM (GMT -7)   
White Beard and others, I know this is not along the original lines of this thread, but going back to school always a good thing to consider. It doesn't even have to be to get a new career or new job. I am looking forward to slowing my pace someday and taking some cooking classes for personal enjoyment. Even taking some adult classes just for the fun of it can be great from many perspectives. Learning something new, making new friends, having purpose and even distractions etc.

anice
Veteran Member


Date Joined Apr 2009
Total Posts : 536
   Posted 7/3/2009 8:25 PM (GMT -7)   
I apoligize for getting away from the subject. I was thinking about all the things that we want to do but didn't. It was then, that I knew that I was all grown up and no turning back.

PaLady, Thank you for sharing. I am sorry if it was inappropiate to ask you that. I had a feeling that you were among those lines as profession. You have so much insight and knowledge. You did good,girl!!! I am very proud of you.

Again, I am sorry for getting away from the subject. Shame on me... I'll see I don't do this again. I talk too much!!
anice

PAlady
Veteran Member


Date Joined Nov 2007
Total Posts : 6795
   Posted 7/3/2009 10:13 PM (GMT -7)   
Anice,
I don't think you got off topic at all, and even if you did I have a hunch Chutzie wouldn't mind. I think these daily threads are to get a discussion going that's just focused on something other than the "p" word! And you weren't in appropriate!

Thank you for the compliments Anice & White Beard. But Anice I for one think you need to stop apologizing! Nothing to apologize for!

That "all the things that we want to do but didn't" is a good topic for another koffee klatch (ahem, Chutz!)

PaLady
White Beard why do I think that although you'd have been a bright student, you still would have created a little mischief? smilewinkgrin
New Topic Post Reply Printable Version
Forum Information
Currently it is Wednesday, December 07, 2016 3:38 AM (GMT -7)
There are a total of 2,733,991 posts in 301,165 threads.
View Active Threads


Who's Online
This forum has 151299 registered members. Please welcome our newest member, ABBear.
207 Guest(s), 2 Registered Member(s) are currently online.  Details
tdnjam, fiddlecanoe


Follow HealingWell.com on Facebook  Follow HealingWell.com on Twitter  Follow HealingWell.com on Pinterest
Advertisement
Advertisement

©1996-2016 HealingWell.com LLC  All rights reserved.

Advertise | Privacy Policy & Disclaimer