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quahog
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   Posted 8/4/2009 1:14 AM (GMT -7)   
Hello everyone,

I wanted to give everyone an update and let you know that our cat passed this morning
cry

We were in the middle of chemotherapy but unfortunately, despite what we were able to do wasn't very
helpful as it appears the cancer was just too advanced.


He wasn't his usual self for the last few days but he was still eating, drinking.
Today, however he only ate a small about hid a lot.

about 2:30AM I noticed him in one of his favorite spots and he was seizing. He
was unresponsive and having a hard time breathing.

So myself and my wife bundled him up and took him to the emergency vet but he
passed before we could get there.

We are so beside ourselves with grief right now he was a wonderful friend and
I'm going to miss him something awful.

We are planning on burying him at sunrise in the town in which my wife is from.

We are also wondering what we can do for our other cat. He is Tabby's brother
and they have been together since birth.

bsjaguar
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   Posted 8/4/2009 2:55 AM (GMT -7)   
Quahog, I am so sorry for your loss. I too have lost a pet to cancer and it is no different than having a close family member pass away. I don't have any suggestions about your other cat but I'm sure he will notice that his friend is gone. He will need alot of loving and attention in the coming days.
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Chartreux
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   Posted 8/4/2009 8:59 AM (GMT -7)   
Awe, I'm so very sorry about the loss of your beloved pet..
The loss of a pet friend can be very hard and so you have my sympathies.

I would suggest you play with the other cat as much as you can..

Lots and lots of soft hugz...

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PAlady
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   Posted 8/4/2009 9:36 AM (GMT -7)   
quahog,
So sorry for your loss. I know my pets have been like my children. You did all you could and for your beloved companion, and I'm sure he knew it.

I've never had more than one cat, but when I had a cat and a dog and my dog died, I know my cat would look for her. I had to give him some extra TLC, but he eventually adjusted. I know they miss their companion, too, but loss happens as part of living.

I'm glad you're going to get to bury your friend in a choice location.

Hugs,

PaLady

TDoern
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   Posted 8/4/2009 10:03 AM (GMT -7)   
Quahog -

*hugs*

I am so sorry to hear about your loss. For hubby and I, our pets are our kids and we are so attached and love them so much. What was your cat's name? (I hope yo don't mind me asking, not sure if Tabby is the cat that passed or the cat still here.) Would you mind saying a bit more about your cat? (If you can/want to).

As far as what you can do for the cat that is still here, it depends on how the cat is handling the loss. I've always felt that animals seem to live much more in the "now", in the present than people do. We seem so bogged down with the past and the future while pets seem to just enjoy everything that is going on in this moment.

Hubby and I adopted two dogs one at six weeks the other at eight within a week of each other. Sasha and Chubbs. So they two had been together as long as we could remember. We lost Sasha to epilepsy after fighting it for two years. She started seizing one night and never stopped.

Chubbs grieved over the loss for about a week or two. She would run looking for Sasha whenever we came home, or whenever Chubbs was let in from outside. I think the hardest thing for Chubbs and us, was that Chubbs had moved on and we hadn't. We were still grieving and it was hard to put those feelings aside and just be happy and love the dog we still had with us. Chubbs knew something was wrong with us, but had no clue what that was, all she knew was we were sad. She wanted to play and run and everything and we were still hurting.

The best thing you can do, in my opinion, is to take all the love you would have given to your other cat and double it up on the one you have left. Remember this kitty doesn't have his buddy to romp with anymore and is going to need an outlet for all that energy. Your cat is going to grieve to, but in his own way. I found when I was hurting the most for Sasha going and playing with Chubbs helped both of us. I knew Sasha was chasing a never ending set of balls in heaven.

I KNOW that animals go to Heaven and are waiting for us. I can't imagine a God that would give us such great friends to love and care for, and then not let them be there when we go "Home". Heaven wouldn't be paradise if they aren't there. So know that your cat has no more chemo to deal with, no more aches and pains, or anything else of our worldly problems to deal with. He's doing whatever he loved the most and if he's anything like my Sasha was, waiting impatiently for us to join him.

I wish I had the right words to say, this was all I could come up with.
"When we come to the edge of the light we know, and are about to step off into the darkness of the unknown, of one thing we can be sure; either God will provide something solid to stand on... or we will be taught to fly.'"

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   Posted 8/4/2009 6:40 PM (GMT -7)   
HUGZ
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skeye
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   Posted 8/4/2009 7:45 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi Glen,

I am so sorry for your loss! I know how hard it is to lose a beloved animal. I pray that you are able to find comfort in your memories of your fine feline friend, and in your other cat.

As for your other cat. It may help to show your cat something with his buddy's smell on it, if you can -- a collar, the blanket you had him wrapped in, etc -- and maybe even leave it out, sitting around for a few days. This often helps provide some closure & comfort for the other animals, although animals have an uncanny ability to know the fate of their friends. They will grieve in their own way, in their own time.

When we had my horse put down, we kept his buddy in the barn. After it was over & he was gone, we let her out. She came tearing out of her stall, ran to his body, stopped, and then quietly turned around and walked back into her stall. It was amazing. These two were inseparable, and she knew in an instant that he was gone. Usually, she would freak out if he were out of sight (in fact she was quite anxious before we let her out), but after seeing his body, she was perfectly calm & remained so. She definitely mourned, and I'm sure that she missed him every day for the rest of her life, but that one instant provided her with closure. When she died, the younger horse had a very hard time accepting it. Although they had only been together for less than a year, she was like a mother to him. He freaked out & became such a danger to himself & others that he had to be sedated, but eventually, one of the things that helped him was a towel & a saddle pad with her smell on it, that we hung in his stall for several days. Your kitty, too, will adjust.

I hope that with each passing day, life becomes a little easier & your heart a little less heavy.

hugs,
Skeye

PAlady
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   Posted 8/4/2009 9:25 PM (GMT -7)   
Skeye,
I had heard that having the other animal see their deceased friend's body was recommended, or saving the blanket on which the other animal died, if possible. I forgot about it until you mentioned it. Guess I never had to do it, but now you've validated it for me. I'll try to remember it should I ever need it in the future.

Like someone said, I don't think animals hang onto the emotional attachment the way we humans do. Not that they don't experience grief, but my hunch is they are more aware of the cycles of life and death, and probably better at accepting it than we are!

PaLady

edt
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   Posted 8/4/2009 10:17 PM (GMT -7)   

Hi Glen,

I am so so sorry for the loss of your cat!  My Homeopathic Vet told me when our beloved Cocker Sp. died that animals never really leave us they go to the other side of the wall and wait for us!  Don't know if you believe in Animal Communication but she also told me that when an animal is very sick, when they die they rest for awhile but do stop in regularly to check on us.  I like to believe she is right, sometimes I feel him with us still!

Journal your feelings, it will help to ease the pain you  are feeling.

Take care,

Patti


Blessedx8
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   Posted 8/4/2009 10:56 PM (GMT -7)   
Quahog,

I'm so sorry for the loss of your beloved cat; my sympathies to you and your wife...

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merrygirl
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   Posted 8/5/2009 7:34 AM (GMT -7)   
Just this side of heaven is a place called Rainbow Bridge.

When an animal dies that has been especially close to someone here, that pet goes to Rainbow Bridge. There are meadows and hills for all of our special friends so they can run and play together. There is plenty of food, water and sunshine, and our friends are warm and comfortable.

All the animals who had been ill and old are restored to health and vigor. Those who were hurt or maimed are made whole and strong again, just as we remember them in our dreams of days and times gone by. The animals are happy and content, except for one small thing; they each miss someone very special to them, who had to be left behind.

They all run and play together, but the day comes when one suddenly stops and looks into the distance. His bright eyes are intent. His eager body quivers. Suddenly he begins to run from the group, flying over the green grass, his legs carrying him faster and faster.

You have been spotted, and when you and your special friend finally meet, you cling together in joyous reunion, never to be parted again. The happy kisses rain upon your face; your hands again caress the beloved head, and you look once more into the trusting eyes of your pet, so long gone from your life but never absent from your heart.

Then you cross Rainbow Bridge together.... 

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quahog
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   Posted 8/5/2009 9:53 AM (GMT -7)   
Thank you all for your kind words.

We buried Tabby yesterday morning where he and my wife grew up a little town in Northwestern Maine. It is a very nice town and I would like to live there myself.

Before we did bury Tabby we allowed his brother to sniff him and he seemed to do ok with it. He knew his brother was gone.

He has been a bit anxious and when I return from home a bit clingy. I suspect that he is lonely. He always had a bit of separation anxiety, Meaning he would cry if he couldn't be near anyone.

This has been very hard on all of us. Needless to say my pain levels have been through the roof and I haven't been able to sleep.

Chartreux
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   Posted 8/5/2009 8:14 PM (GMT -7)   
May I ask, what Tabby's brother is named?

Sure can understand that this is hard on you, it's never easy.
So you do have my sympathies...

Please try to get your rest as it can help...

Do you think Tabby's brother would benefit with a kitten? not a really young one maybe 7 to 9 month old kitten,
just a thought.

I thought gettting another kitten after my beloved Maximillion died would be hard, but it actually helped and got me thru
the grief better, but give yourselfs a little more time to grieve first, maybe in a couple more weeks, just a thought..

lots and lots of soft hugz
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Smoochie
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   Posted 8/5/2009 8:28 PM (GMT -7)   
My deepest sympathy to you and your wife, I know how very unfortunate it is to lose a valued family member and I wish I could say something to make you feel better, but I can't, so I won't tell you he is in a better place because there is no place like home, and I wont tell you at least he isnt suffering because he may not be, but you are, so what I will tell you is what my dad told me before he died ( yes I know alot of people will say this was a cat not a person but to alot of us, our pets are little peoples and in some cases the most important ones) anyway, he said "I am never really gone, I'm just taking a really long nap" lol. He was the best!! Please take care of each other and once again, I am so sorry for your loss.

Kel
 


Splashdancer
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   Posted 8/5/2009 11:43 PM (GMT -7)   
I am sooo sorry about the loss of your beloved friend/family member. I lost my baby (a doberman) years ago and it took me quite a while to get passed it. I now have 6 cats - four that I started out fostering, then could not part with. I've always been a "dog person", but now can't imagine my life without my neurotic cats (Princess (she earned the name), Kadie, Mitzer, Momma, Jason (AKA Dufus-self explanatory), and Kitty (just could not figure out a name!). I know how hard it is to lose a beloved friend and you are totally "allowed" to grieve in any way you do - it's a very personally thing. The suggestions everyone else gave are right-on. Her(?) buddy will grieve in his own way, but he will be fine. Just give some extra lovin' and attention! This will get better, I promise.

quahog
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   Posted 8/6/2009 1:00 AM (GMT -7)   
I apologize for not mentioning my kitties names. They are Tabby & Baby both are 9 and they had been together since birth.

My wife named them, well, too be honest that's not quite true; Our nieces did when they were younger.

Their official names are Kung Fu Tabby & Cry Baby Blue. Unfortunately, the back story behind Tabby's name is escaping me at the moment but when Baby was a kitten he had the most amazing blue eyes are would cry everytime he was left alone. As he grew older his blue eyes faded so his name was shortened.

Here's an image of the two of them snoozing together. Tabby is on the left and Baby is on the right

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Post Edited (quahog) : 8/6/2009 2:04:44 AM (GMT-6)


edt
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   Posted 8/6/2009 4:50 AM (GMT -7)   

Quahog,

Beautiful, thank you for sharing!

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XXOO
Patti

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