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Scarred_for_life
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   Posted 8/4/2009 2:48 PM (GMT -7)   
You know....it's funny that I would choose this topic, since I have for the past 9 years tried to convince my family that my CP is real.  But....let me tell you all a story that will totally blow your mind (or it did mine LOL)
 
My baby sister has had hemoplegic migraines ever since she was 10 years old.  In fact when I was in labor with my oldest she had to go to the ER while I was upstairs in labor with my first child.  They are dabilitating for her and she really needs to get her stress under control so that they won't be so bad.  But my sister worrys about everything...even the little things!
 
Anyway.....I called her yesterday evening and she informed me that she lied to her boss earlier in the evening because she was angry with them for taking her off of prep.  She works at a local McDonalds and has been for the last few months.
 
She told me that she told her boss that she was down with a migraine and wouldn't be coming in today for work because she was sick.  Which apparently was a total lie!  Now....here is the problem I have with this:
 
I would LOVE to go back to work and am envious of those who can work.  I loved my job and wish with all my might that I could go back to it...or any job!  Secondly....to lie to your boss just because your mad that they took you off a certain job is way wrong in my opinion.
 
I'm irritated that she would Fake a migraine and wonder if she hasn't done this before.  I can recall that every time mom paid attention to me...my sister would suddenly be striken with a migraine and that makes me a little curious that maybe she is making much more out of this then it really is.
 
Now....don't get me wrong.....I love my sister to death.  But...we've never been that close and she is so pampered by our mom that it's unbelievable.
 
So.....IMO..and this might sound a little harsh and I appologize to anyone that I may offend.  But...the OSCAR goes to My Sister for great acting!!!
 
Scarred
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Jim1969
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   Posted 8/4/2009 2:59 PM (GMT -7)   
While I do understand that there are people who have psychological issues who use illnesses to gain attention, and your sister might fall into this group, it never the less upsets me some because these people make it so much harder on those who really do suffer.

The fakers, be it because they are wanting attention or are seeking drugs or whatever the reason make it that much harder for those who do have a condition that requires a certain level of care, certain medications, and a certain amount of understanding by employers for us to get through the day.

What can be even more aggravating is that these types of people know how to work the system so well that more often than not they walk away with what they want.
2 confirmed herniated lumbar discs. Spinal Arthritis. Spinal Stenosis, diabetic peripheral nueropathy.


LLPLUV
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   Posted 8/4/2009 3:29 PM (GMT -7)   
I sat here and read this twice. One thing is how old is your sister? My sister has MS and yes she has wanted to go home just cuz, don't know the reason but she has on occasion used the excuse. I will admit I have hurt and left work before that I could of stayed there and it wouldn't of been so bad.

The reason she called in all depends on her age. When I was young I might of done something like that. Am I saying it is right,? No not at all. Do I feel your frustrations,? Yes I do. I hurt all day everyday and I'm also envious of others who can work without feeling as much pain as I do.

I'm not trying to be harsh and boy I hope I'm not coming across that way I just know I was young once.

Laurie
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39 yr young female with,
Chronic Kidney Stones, PKD (Polycystic Kidney Disease), Chronic Kidney Failure, Severe Hypertension, Urological RSD

Also CHF (Congestive Heart Failure) and Sleep Apnea

Hopefully NO MORE........ I think I have it all


Scarred_for_life
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   Posted 8/4/2009 8:09 PM (GMT -7)   
Not at all LLP. My sister is 6 years younger then me (39 this next Oct) and has never held a long term job in her life. I hate to say it but her previous employer was sexually harassing her (or so she said) and she didn't even bother to file a suit or nothing. In fact she quit for 2 months then went back!! Uhhhhh Why????

When I was her age I was in a real relationship with my current husband, raising a child and dealing with chronic pain. So you see I cannot feel sorry for her just because she wants a day off to look for another job.

Another thing is....she told me that she hurt her back at work on the previous job. Now has siatica pain but yet she went to work at McDonalds and goes out every weekend to party?? Geez I only wish I could do half the stuff that she is doing now!

Okay...off my soap box LOL

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Scarred
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LLPLUV
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   Posted 8/5/2009 3:22 AM (GMT -7)   
Ok now I see the bigger picture. I am on the same page as you now. Yes she seems to need to mature. I really don't think she knows what real CP is and if she does this might be the way she is reacting? But partying all weekend boy I can only WISH!!!!!

Laurie
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39 yr young female with,
Chronic Kidney Stones, PKD (Polycystic Kidney Disease), Chronic Kidney Failure, Severe Hypertension, Urological RSD

Also CHF (Congestive Heart Failure) and Sleep Apnea

Hopefully NO MORE........ I think I have it all


edt
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   Posted 8/5/2009 6:38 AM (GMT -7)   

Hi Scarred,

I understand!!!  Years ago I worked with my best friend, not only was she late everyday for work BUT she would call in sick frequently to have a play day. 

I think we are even more sensitive because all of us on SSD would love the opportunity to be working again!

So when you see her, you now have a reason to do an internal chuckle over her recent Academy Award win....tee hee!! 

XXOO
Patti


Mrs. Dani
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   Posted 8/5/2009 10:59 AM (GMT -7)   
 
 
   Hey Scarred!
 
      *huggs* Good to see you! I am glad you stopped by :-)  
 
I was laffing to myself.. You know it is funny. Right now I have PRIME examples of the exact same scenario. Half of me wants to laff other half wants me to scream.   smhair   Really makes you want to shake them and say...
 
"...YOU are part of the PROBLEM!!!!"
 
And no, I don't think they understand for one moment that they are adversy effecting the society here in america in a very real way.  shakehead
 
**But lets give this a closer look**
 
 ... If we could turn back time and get our bodies back, with the knowladge we have now, would WE party? No way Ladies! Were packing our bags to lazy in the sun in the Bahamas!
 
I once got very .. frustraited? In therapy and I said
 
" I dont deserve THIS! I worked hard! I did everything I was supposed to do!!!"
 
Mary quite calmly says "Who do you think could withstand what your body is going through?"
 
....................... smhair smhair smhair
 
"Fine. Doesnt mean I have to like it thou!"
 
*huggs*
   dani
TWO roads diverged in a yellow wood,  
And sorry I could not travel both  
And be one traveler, long I stood


Scarred_for_life
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   Posted 8/5/2009 1:11 PM (GMT -7)   
LOL Dani!!! I know what you mean. I went through the stage of saying "WHY ME!?" But, I think that it's horrible that many take for granted that they are even working to begin with. Many in the US are without work and I think that is so sad.

It's funny cause I am fighting with WC.....fighting with SS and it's just not fair, ya know? I've worked hard all my life and this is what I get for my trouble? Sometimes it just is so frustrating that I want to smack my head against a wall.

But, I digress......It Could Be ALOT Worse! Right???



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Scarred
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Smoochie
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   Posted 8/5/2009 8:54 PM (GMT -7)   
I kept saying that same phrase to myself "It could be alot worse,right?" I quit saying it because every time I do it gets worse. I have been denied twice by Social Security Disability, their final conclusion was, I can't sit at a job I cant stand, I cant walk for more than five minutes and no lifting, I cant be under any stress and I cant socialize with people but I can still go to work, I am guessing as a Nun!! I understand your frustration with your sister but remember she isn't rying to upset you, she is just sharing with you, I know my sister has done it in the past to do something else and I got mad too until I realized I wasn't really mad at her I was mad at what she could do as apposed to what I couldn't and she was an easy target. We didn't talk for five months and it sucked royally, so now we talk and visit and I have realized that we are all different and that sometimes I can be a royal paintoo. Just a thought, not a lecture, just my own personal experience. I hope you two can figure it out and make restitution. Good luck and best wishes.

Kel
 


nurse2
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   Posted 8/6/2009 10:10 AM (GMT -7)   
Smoochie,
I had to laugh out loud at your "Nun" comment! I wasn't laughing at you, please don't think that.
I'm fighting the system also and I know how frustraited you are. I'm in the process, for the second time to get my disability and with a lawyer this time. These jokers who know how to work the system and there is not a darn thing wrong with then should be shot! I live in a small town in southern Ohio where welfare is rampant. Third and fourth generations of people who are on welfare because old Mom and Dad never worked so why should they? So disturbing!
Nurse2
Degenerative disc disease,osteoarthritis, status post 4 cervical spinal surgeries with plate insertions and fusion, Lupus, Sjogren's Disease, Fibromyalgia, chronic heacaches and chronic pain.
 
Find blessings in every day!
 


Smoochie
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   Posted 8/6/2009 11:00 AM (GMT -7)   
Yeah I know the feeling, I am in Ohio too and this is what I have learned, I can get disability if I am a *****, a drug addict, a liar or mentally unstable (which anti-social doesn't fall under, darn!). I was stupid I went and told the truth and look where it got me, no where. So I have got it figured for anyone new trying to file for disability this ia all you have to do: Go sleep with any man for some money andy amount then use it to buy heroin then when you are caught lie about it being yours then when the nice officer arrests you act crazy, with all that documented along with a few reports from the prison docs you should have a good case. But by no means tell them all your medical problems the four surgeries you have had, your pain pump, your fusion and the list goes on and on because then they tell you nothing is wrong with you that a little work could fix! I am so with you on the mom and dad being on welfare so why should the kids go to work, it runs through families like crazy here in Ohio, but when you need help nope can't help you, but the lady (and I use that term loosely!) that I saw trying to get them to help told me that if I would divorce my husband they could help and even, believe it or not, gave me the number to legal aid, I got up and walked out (on her, not my husband,lol). The one person who has been my rock thats who they want me to leave, not now, not ever. I will figure out another way to get medical help. Trust me on this one though if you are ever in a finacial jam, don't let them shut off your pump I did and it was a huge mistake. Okay enough rambling, the system sucks maybe we all should start our own system!!
 

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