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skeye
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   Posted 8/8/2009 12:08 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi Palady,

Your other thread was getting kind of long, so I thought I'd start a new one! I just wanted to see how you were doing & send you some healing vibes! We ought to start up those late night threads again & that way we can keep each other company during the wee hours of the morning & enjoy a little humor!

I hope this finds you well (or at least better than yesterday, or even this morning! One step at at time!)! We all worry about you, because we care for you so very much. ((((((((((((((((Palady)))))))))))))))))).

healing hugs,
Skeye

golitho
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   Posted 8/8/2009 4:09 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi PAlady, I really hope this next lot of anti biotics does the job. It still sounds as if you need a different one to me or an added type. Recovering from bronchitis recently I ended up on two augmentum duo and doloxyl before it cleared. Are you immuno suppressed? I'm worried about you, golitho.
PS goodluck with the plumbing.

Hara
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   Posted 8/8/2009 4:24 PM (GMT -7)   
Yes, soft(((((((((HUGS))))))))) for Palady
 
HARA

PAlady
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   Posted 8/8/2009 9:41 PM (GMT -7)   
Skeye, Golitho and Hara,
My thanks for all your caring and kindness! Thank you, Skeye, for starting this. There just aren't the words to thank everyone here adequately!

Golitho (and everyone) I have concerns about this whole infection deal, too. I've talked with two of my cousins today - both tearful conversation (on my end). My cousin who is a pharmacist that often helps me doesn't have much money to give me this month as she has to travel to see her daughter, but she is going to send a little money to help pay the plumber. My goddaughter's hubby, well-intentioned as he is, never did return my call and that's ok. But anyway, this cousin had trouble with her root canal, and she said the endodontist who did her procedure had to go back in a second time to fill in the areas that were infected with some kind of antibiotic powder, and then she had a second round of antibiotics before her infection cleared up. I really feel like I need to try to get a second opinion this week from an endodontist (the specialists in root canals) and I'm going to at least call and ask them what they think of what's happening.

The second phone conversation was the toughest. It was with my other cousin who I love dearly, but I hadn't told her everything about the Barrett's esophagus and cell changes, and how afraid I am of having that develop into cancer. She was the one who took me for the endoscopy, but I didn't share the biopsy results with her, as she tends to tell the rest of the family things (I asked her to please not tell others and I hope she can restrain herself) because with my extended family next thing you know I'll have one foot in the grave! They don't tend to keep details accurately, probably as in many families! LOL BUT I had to ask her if she could loan me some money for the endodontist if I need to go to another dentist to get this fixed right. She doesn't have a lot herself, but said she would. I had to tell her I didn't know when I could pay her back. It was SO HARD to ask. This is not like me at all. It seems like I'm losing my ability to take care of myself, and I've always been able to. This is the second cousin I'm having to ask for financial help and likely may not be able to pay her back.

I am (once I get the mounds of paperwork that HAVE to get done finished) going to start selling some things that really have just been collecting dust or are sitting on shelves, although I don't know how much they'll be worth as everyone else is probably doing the same thing. I have two sets of sterling silverware; one was mine, one my mother's. They've not been used in ages and ages, and I don't anticipate using them anytime soon. And my goddaughter already has a set from another relative. There is some of my mother's jewelry that I think has some value and again, one expensive watch I couldn't wear if I wanted to as it's too small. Mom had it sized to her tiny wrist. Anyway, I've thought I might not get a lot, but anything will help. Plus they are things I'm not using and never will. It's strange to acknowledge that. Those of you who are older may be able to relate. Having things you either never used or used during a different time period in your life, and thinking you might go back to using them again "someday". Even certain clothes. So I don't see this as a bad thing, but it's also hard to know who to take them to in order to get the best deal.

Ok, I've rambled enough.

Thank you!!!

Hugs to all of you, too,

PaLady

Smoochie
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   Posted 8/9/2009 5:52 AM (GMT -7)   
PaLady
I wish you the best I ko how you feel, I too have no insurance and over the past year we used everything from cashing out life insurance policies to selling all my jewelry (excepy my wedding band, couldn't bare to part with that one!) to trying to sell plasma (they wouldn't take it because my veins were to small!). We are bankrupt, we are losing our home have disconnection notices for my electric and water and gas and I keep getting more and more things wrong with me, so if we aren't in the same boat we are at least side by side in the ocean. I too have borrowed money from family without knowing when or how it will be paid back it is a terrible feeling, I grew up very quickly as a child and took care of myself as a teenager and never looked back. Iwas always the one everyone came to for help emotionally ad financially but that is no more and I feel embarrassed and not a very good person and I know I shouldn't but it is just how it works and I am sure to some degree you feel the same. I can't offer you much but an ear to listen and if your ever in Ohio I can give you a nice big, yet gentle, hug1 I do know what you mean about certain items, my mother does the same she keeps things even though she hasn't used them in years she just cant seem to part with them. She was so poor growing up and had some real hard times as an adult too that she fears that if she gets rid of something she will need it don the road. I have worked with her on some things but she still hoards alot, but everything in due time. I too have some stuff to sell to get some money. With paying for scripts and everything its killing us and I am sure you too. I wish you the best and here is my e-mail if you just need to talk or vent. Take care and I'll talk with you soon.

Hugs
Kel
 


PAlady
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   Posted 8/9/2009 11:57 AM (GMT -7)   
Kel,
Thanks so much for sharing that, although I'm sorry you're going through this, too. But you're right the best we can do is at least hold eachother's hands as we face all these challenges and that is the greatest thing about Healing Well!! I think the last thing I would ever let go of is my internet connection because of this site!

Yes, I understand and share your feelings. I have always been viewed as the strong one in my family, and everyone has always thought oh, don't worry, you'll be ok, and it has been so hard to convince some of them that I am NOT ok. Last night when I talked to my cousin and I was telling her how bad things were (I hadn't told her the full story before) I was really needing to ask her for some financial help but didn't know how to. Couldn't get the words out of my mouth. My other cousin didn't wait for me to ask - she offered. But then she lives alone now since her divorce and I think has a better understanding of it all. I know the cousin I spoke with last night, she and her husband are retired and their two children struggle sometimes, and they have 2 grandchildren with another on the way, so they don't have a lot but they have saved and prepared as well as any middle class family. I know they don't lend money out (at least not that I know of). It was way into the conversation when she finally asked me how she could help. And I told her I needed a shoulder to cry on (which is true), and after a couple of minutes I mustered all my courage to ask if I could borrow some money for the endodontist or whoever I need to see to get rid of this infection in my mouth. I am scared that it could make things worse for the precancerous condition in my esophagus. And she said yes. But this just tears my guts out. I know you understand.

So I thank you for sharing. It isn't always easy to put it down the words and see them come to life on the screen because that makes it a reality. But reality it is.

So I want to offer you some hugs of support.

((((((((((((((((Kel))))))))))))))))

BTW whereabouts in Ohio are you? You don't have to say specificically, I just wondered if you were in the northeastern region (Cleveland or east). We wouldn't be too far apart! Course my car is about ready to fall apart so I can't even travel much right now.

Thanks again for sharing!

PaLady

Mrs. Dani
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   Posted 8/9/2009 1:42 PM (GMT -7)   
 
 
   Dear PALady,
 
     Good evening *warm huggs* I hope you are relaxing a little.
 
I am glad you brought up an endodontist!!  That would be a good way to go about it. If you tell them how long it has hurt maybe they can work you in sooner. I really hope they are able to help you. Too long to be in pain in the face. Its no walk in the park! You have got to be just down right exhausted from it all!!! *huggs*
 
I run into a long time friend. He says he had a whole section of teeth removed, just to find out the pain wasnt originating from his teeth atall, but from his spine  near his skull? I wonder if that is true, and if something like that could cause pain in the face? His sounded general "area" though, and yours is at a very specific location. shakehead
 
Argh I hope Dr.Wonderboy & Quackologist &  DirtyDentist all have the pleasure of meeting one day  devil
 
*huggs*
  dani
TWO roads diverged in a yellow wood,  
And sorry I could not travel both  
And be one traveler, long I stood


White Beard
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   Posted 8/9/2009 3:01 PM (GMT -7)   
Dani
 
What your saying is true, in Human Anatomy, we had to learn those 5 major nerves that come out of your upper spine and invervate your face.  But chances are if that was the problem it would not just be one tooth but the whole upper or lower side of the jaw on what ever side that it is.
 
PALady I know things are tough for you,  and I don't envy you your situation at all!  But it can happen to any and all of us, just as it has to you! You just never know what fate has waiting for you!  I do hope you can get all your paper work done and turned in,  SSD would be a real Blessing for you to have, and hopefully you will get it the first time around, but make sure you have it documented when you first became disabled, as hopefully they will back date it, and approve it with Medicare Part A & B right away. That is what they did with mine! You would then get back pay and also have your medical coverage! 
 
You know I am always here for you, and I do hope your tooth starts feeling better!
 
White Beard
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golitho
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   Posted 8/9/2009 4:34 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi PAlady, I'm so sorry to hear of your struggle to ask for money. I had to borrow money off my sister a few years ago when we were going through a low patch, so I can sympathise. I felt a real sense of failure that we needed to ask. She was very good about me paying her off as we could afford it...but its so hard for you when you're not working and alone. Very tough on you. But I feel happy to hear you're getting a second opinion with your tooth, I just don't feel I trust this horror dentist of yours.
Best of luck, PAlady, thinking of you, golitho

Smoochie
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   Posted 8/9/2009 6:19 PM (GMT -7)   

PaLady,

I am in the west suburbs of Cleveland, about twenty minutes west of downtown.  :))


 


PAlady
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   Posted 8/9/2009 8:02 PM (GMT -7)   
Thank you all so much for your understanding! Dani - that meeting of the Quackologist, Dr. Wonderboy and Dirty Dentist sounds great! If only they would have to work on eachother!

It's starting to storm here so I'll keep this short for now. Big red blobs on the radar with lots of lightening coming over the Lake. Pretty to watch but can get a tad scary!

PaLady

LLPLUV
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   Posted 8/10/2009 5:32 PM (GMT -7)   
I think 50% of all doctors are just plain ole crazy. Wont' go into details but thats just the way I feel today!!

I had an infection it took 3 different antiobotics to get rid of it. Thats why I hate dentists and will run as fast as the wind if I need to go to one but not to them the other way! I know from infections in the past with my teeth that if I started the right antiobotic the pain would start to go away after 24 hours that is "Start" then get better. So I'm with everyone else you should be getting SO MUCH better already.

So do what everyone says and go to a specialist and get that powder stuff.......

Laurie
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Chronic Kidney Stones, PKD (Polycystic Kidney Disease), Chronic Kidney Failure, Severe Hypertension, Urological RSD

Also CHF (Congestive Heart Failure) and Sleep Apnea

Hopefully NO MORE........ I think I have it all


Draka
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   Posted 8/10/2009 6:51 PM (GMT -7)   
PAlady.... you always have kind words for others..... I wish I had some advice or great words of wisdom to offer.... just know you have lots of friends here..... I hope to be one of them as I get to know you better.

+++++ thoughts/vibes for you....
Lisa


PAlady
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   Posted 8/10/2009 11:03 PM (GMT -7)   
Lisa,
Kindness to me is much more appreciated and needed that any great words, so I'm really touched that you responded. I'm sure you will be one of them, and I am SO glad you came back!

Keep those vibes comin' everyone!

Lisa - I wish I could just draw a picture of me with fangs. I would love LOVE LOVE to go into my dentist's office, smile, and then whip out those fangs!!! LOL And then I'd go over and visit Fatherjohn's Quackologist. And then Dr. Wonderboy. And then....??? This could really be fun. Maybe we could make our own vampire series?

Second opinion is in the process of being set up. Will definitely get one before I allow the permanent filling to be put in, but may do it without my dentist's knowledge.

Thanks again everyone!

PaLady

Hara
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   Posted 8/11/2009 5:31 AM (GMT -7)   
turn  Palady, You just made me laugh which I needed....LOL
 
HARA

Chartreux
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   Posted 8/11/2009 6:23 AM (GMT -7)   
Sure hope you can get that tooth fixed soon, will keep you
in my thoughts and prayers, lots and lots of soft hugz...
(((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((PALady))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))
wwwell wishes and healing hugz being sent too...
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