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flower123
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   Posted 8/11/2009 3:31 AM (GMT -7)   
little to us, like washing dishes, laundry, straightening up, etc. Oh man, these things are so hard for me to do. I have a husband that helps me a lot. He has been very patient and caring and understanding. Last night though, he got really annoyed with me...said that I ask him for too much...said some things that really hurt me. So, I guess he hit his breaking point with me needing help. I can't even explain how good he is to me and how much he helps me and loves me, but last night he said that I need to be more independent and now I feel terrible about myself. I feel sorry for him and for myself.

I guess my questions are:

1. Do you have someone to help you with things that bring your pain up?

2. Do you have any tips for doing cleaning that will help me not want to cry my eyes out afterwards?

I really appreciate any replies.
Thank you,

Flower (I'm here every day but don't post too much.)

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   Posted 8/11/2009 5:29 AM (GMT -7)   
Good morning Flower,
So sorry for what happened to you. I know how you feel as my wife sometimes just hits the end of her rope with me. I generally never write about her or our marrage here in the forum because I don't think anyone needs to know about that part of my private life. I'm making an exception this time because I think lots of us go through this with our signiffigant other, it's part of being in a relationship w/ CP!!! There's no getting away from it. It wears people down and sometimes they snap and say things they wish they hadn't! I'm sure it's happened to most if not all of us. I think my wife gets so frustrated that there is nothing she can do to help me with my pain that sometimes it erupts in anger. I can't blame her because it must be as hard or harder living w/ a person w/ CP than having it. It sucks all the way around! When I got cancer and was going through a really bad time and feeling sorry for myself, I said to her, "How could you know how I feel, you don't have it?" It was the worse, meanest, uncaring thing I could of said to her! In a loving relationship, when one of us has a setback, we both have it!!!!!!!! When I thought about it and put myself in her shoes, I realized how helpless and scared she was feeling. Six years later, I still feel bad about what I said to her that day! But I believe that love can conqure all but it takes a lot of work!! My 29th weding aniversary is about a month away and I love her more now than I did back then! Enough said> sorry for rambling on! Good luck to you Flower, I'm sure iot will work out!!!
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   Posted 8/11/2009 5:42 AM (GMT -7)   

I'm sorry your hubby snapped at you. You need to tell him all that you just said about him in you posting. That was so sweet. If I had any suggestions I would give them to you. I have a 17 year old that is helping when I ask him to, but me and him have to do laundry together because we have to walk down 16 stairs, across a parking lot and around a corner and into the laundryroom. Then plug my clothes in the washers and walk back across the parking lot and up 16 stairs. Now that's hard and I can only do that 1 to 4 times. I wish I could slide down the rail like the little kids do...LOL

HARA


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   Posted 8/11/2009 6:34 AM (GMT -7)   

Good Morning Flower,

You will find that alot of us here UNDERSTAND what you are going through!  I have been where you are, I am unable to do alot of house chores, most of the things I used to do without blinking an eye and am on SSD.  Lets just say that CP changes your life and relationships!  Many months back there was a post started about that very subject!  Many heartfelt overwhelmingly sad emotions were shared there and it helped me a great deal to finally release my feelings to this safe group of friends and family at HW.

There responses gave me the courage to speak to my husband and share things I have held in for 9 years.  A few years back when I thought our marriage was ending we had a heart to heart where my husband revealed the most hurtful comment which was "you went from 40 to 80 overnight"  I was devastated by those words!  Thus began a journey of pretending things were fine, I no longer complained of pain and bitterness that was eating me alive.  After posting I found the courage to tell my husband that I could no longer live like this, that CP was stressful enough, that I did not need to live with someone who looked at me with disdain and barely spoke to me.  I told him as soon as I could find an apartment that would accept big dogs I was leaving.  That I would rather live on welfare then live like this.....I also told him that he needed to get back to his WHY, why he fell in love with me, WHY he married me, that I had not changed but his perception of me had.  It was a turning point for us, he revealed to me that what bothers him most is he can't fix me.  I told him it isn't his job to fix me but to support me, help me and understand I beat myself up enough over my situation, all I need is his love and understanding! 

My PMD told me that Housecleaning is a tax deductible medical expense and gave me a prescription (my acccountant also verified that it is).  When we are financially able I have someone come and clean, my husband now vacumns and mops between her visits which are once a month.  He is a Real Estate Appraiser and business is very slow so during this time he is also doing wash, cooking and other assorted chores he has NEVER helped with until we had our talk.  I also now ask my grown children to help me Grocery Shop etc.  I never asked before because to admit I couldn't do something would admit that I was Handicapped.   STUPID when I look back.  What I have found now is that everyone wants to do something to help and if I ask, its done with love and my kids and friends feel happy that I do ask.

I hope this makes sense!!  I would say having someone come (even though we really can't afford it) to do the heavy deep cleaning is the best thing I have done.....share your feelings with your husband let him know how you feel and especially how you feel having to ask for help!!  I do chores but not all at once, does it bother me yes but its just the way it is! 

I tell my husband I appreciate what he did not matter how small and Thank you everyday....from doing this I notice he does more and more without me asking!  I no longer feel responsible for his silence or bad days (I did this all the time before).  When he snaps I ask right then and there if he's okay...funny that it never has to do with anything I said or did, before I always felt responsible for his moods.

Sorry for the long rambling reply but I've been where you are.....!

XXOO
Patti

 


flower123
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   Posted 8/11/2009 8:11 AM (GMT -7)   
Thank you so much for your replies. They touched me to the point of tears. I really appreciate all of the support. I know that it's so hard for him too to deal with all of this. I know that if he were like me, I'd get very frustrated too. The thing is, he has never before said that it was a lot for him to deal with my pain, but last night it kind of all came out. I wish that I were better. I guess that I'm feeling sorry for myself right now. I just wish that I could do more and the last thing that I want is to be a burden on anyone. It's really hard sometimes to feel this way all of the time.

Thank you again,

Flower

Scarred_for_life
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   Posted 8/11/2009 8:16 AM (GMT -7)   
Good Morning Flower!

I too wanted to comment on this post, because it is very, very foremost on my mind! I've been married to the best, most loving and caring man for the past 13 years (this next Sept.). He has been there for me when I had to go through my back surgeries (3 fusions and a revision). He would sit by my side while I lay on my back in gobs of pain trying to heal after a two level fusion (my first) and has changed his schedule to be there on every doctor appt and every psych appt. In fact, today I am headed for Wichita in three hours for my psych appt. and hubby refuses to allow me to drive.

He's helped me out of the tub.....helped me dress and coddled me when the pain has been real bad. Now......I'm not complaining but, hubby is a horrible house keeper!!! But he does try and he is the laundryman.....dishwasher......vaccumer......and picker uper in my family as of 9 years ago when I got hurt. Though he does not do the house cleaning like I wish, he does his best and its all I can ask. Our house is not messy but it is a little "Lived in" LOL. There are his socks on the floor when he comes home at night he leaves them where he takes them off....or dishes that need to be done in the sink. But he eventually gets these things done. For all of these things he does I am blessed. But I still feel bad that I cannot do it myself and try to do what I can to keep our house running. I'm in charge of the balancing of the check book.....paying the bills and running certain errands that need to be done. For example tomorrow I have to take the truck in to have a new exaust manifold replaced.

Anyway I wanted to put my two cents in. Hope this helps.

Hugsssssssssssssssss

Scarred
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PAlady
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   Posted 8/11/2009 10:25 AM (GMT -7)   
Flower,
I have another perspective on this. I live alone. There is no one to ask to do the immediate day to day things. So I either learn to do them, or they don't get done. Let me tell you, a lot doesn't get done.

I think you've been given a lot of great information from people here who have wonderful spouses. I really wish I wasn't alone, for many reasons, but it is what it is right now and I really have no energy to give to changing that at the moment. Maybe one day it will be different. I am learning - and it is very hard - to ask for help from my cousins but I have to save that for the big things like helping me with surgeries and medical appointments I can't drive to. I can't ask them to come over and sweep and change my sheets and I am embarassed to say those things don't get done much anymore. Fortunately, I can still do grocery shopping and the wash, but my house is a mess. It's the best I can do right now.

So as Scarred's post indicates I think we all have to adjust our expectations. The things your husband can do may not be done the way you'd do them or like them done, but you may have to accept that. And maybe slowly - slowly - test yourself on a few activities to see what you could do. Make pretend you were living alone. Now I'm NOT saying injure yourself and go overboard. Start very small. And like Scarred, you might find there are things you can do like the checkbook and such that maybe your husband does now. Things you can learn to do. Just a thought.

Don't know if this helps, but I just wanted to share my perspective.

Hugs,

PaLady

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   Posted 8/11/2009 10:32 AM (GMT -7)   
I'm sorry your feeling were hurt Flower..... hang in there!
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   Posted 8/11/2009 12:15 PM (GMT -7)   
flower123

You know I just posted about this over on PALady's older thread, I did some venting over there about not having the help of doing things for the house that my spouse once did. I am finding out the hard way that I have to do things the way PALady does! But I can't let to many things go, because I have to keep up the house for it will sell! But yet I can't do allot of the things that need to be done! Anyway I understand how you feel! I do wish you well!

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   Posted 8/11/2009 1:06 PM (GMT -7)   
I find that if I pick 1-3 things to do a day, I really feel satisfied. That doesnt mean i pick the 3 hardest things to do that day. an example of a few things I would pick are:

clean kitty litter
empty dishwasher
make needed phonecalls

etc


If I can get my mini list done, I fele like I acheived something, and actually got something done.
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PAlady
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   Posted 8/11/2009 4:27 PM (GMT -7)   
Merrygirl,
I like your strategy!

PaLady

Scarred_for_life
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   Posted 8/12/2009 2:32 AM (GMT -7)   
Thanks PA that's exactly what I was trying to get across. Sometimes its just picking up a few things that helps us get through the day. I don't do the laundry because the stairs are way too much for me, so hubby is in charge of that and he does a great job. My jobs are to make sure the bills get out....balance the checkbook and do what I can to insure that the house is in running order. I do what I can even if it takes 2 hours to put a sink full of dishes in the dishwasher.

One thing that I have learned over the last 9 years...."Listen to the Back!" when I feel a twinge of pain I stop and rest. That way I don't overdo it and the back is rested.

Hugsssss

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flower123
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   Posted 8/12/2009 2:51 AM (GMT -7)   
Thank you for all of the replies. I feel better. We talked and I cried a lot, which I rarely do. It's not the he doesn't do things the way I want them done, it's that he does so so so so much and he was feeling frustrated with me b/c I can't do a lot. I did more yesterday and am paying for it now, but I will start doing more little things.

PAlady--yes, it does put things in perspective. I was definitely feeling sorry for myself but I am very thankful for him and for family. I know that it is hard for him, too to see me this way all of the time.

Thank you,

Flower

BionicWoman
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   Posted 8/12/2009 7:48 AM (GMT -7)   
Answer 1 - No. And, my partner seems to think since I'm not working right now, it's alright to act like a total slob and leave crap everywhere for me to clean up during the day. mad

Answer 2 - I'm a clean freak, almost to the point of being clinically OCD on the subject....

I use grabbers to pick up a multitude of things off the floor, or to get down/put up lighter stuff on shelves up higher. I have 2 different kinds and between them, they'll pick up just about anything.

I keep a little rolling desk chair in the kitchen, so I can roll around the house if my feet aren't cooperating. A lot of times, I'll grab a trash bag and roll through the house with my grabber, picking up trash that's been left on desks or tables, then go back and put it in the can. That saves me steps and repeated trips from room to room.

I have extra long handles on my broom and mop, which makes it easier to use them without having to lean or hunch over. It doesn't seem like it should help, but for some reason extending the handle by about 10-12 inches helps me out a lot. My broom and mop are both about 4 inches taller than I am.

I have 2 large dustpans I found at a farm supply store that's on the end of a handle, so I don't have to bend to sweep up dirt piles.

I have a rolling mop bucket with a ringer, and I put a piece of PVC pipe on the ringer handle to extend it higher so I don't have to bend to ring out the mop. I use environmentally safe cleaning products (usually vinegar or grapefruit seed extract) in the mop bucket, so when I need to change the water, I just roll the bucket out into the yard and kick it over, then roll it back inside and refill it with the sink sprayer.

I have a shop vac hang-up central vacuum unit, so I don't haul a whole vacuum around the house. I just take the hose and attachments around the house, which is very light and it sucks things out of corners, cracks, and crevices really well. It also sucks up cobwebs and dust from the ceiling and tops of door moldings really well. There's a ceiling fan attachment for vacuums that works really well too. I actually tend to vacuum a lot more than I sweep, because it's easier for me.

I put a small wooden platform under my trash can, so I don't have to bend over to flip the lid open, push the trash down in the can, or fix the bag when it slides off. That also makes it easier to empty the full bags out, because I can grab the edges, then pull it off the platform toward me, then the can slides off on to the floor.

We have one bath with a tub and a second bath with a standing shower. I use a Mr. Clean Magic Reach to clean the walls of the bath tub/shower. I found the Magic reach pads to be too expensive, so I sewed up some terry cloth covers that I use once and then throw in the washer. I keep an extra large sponge mop, with an extended handle. just to use in the bottoms of the tub/shower.

I put a piece of small PVC pipe on the end of the toilet brush, to extend the handle so that I don't have to bend over the toilet while I clean it. I use the Magic Reach to clean the toilet tank, because all the sides are flat. I haven't figured out a way to wipe the curves around the outside of the toilet bowl, so I still have to bend down and wipe that down. I use the extended handle toilet brush to scrub the cracks around the base of the toilet and the floor, though, and then wipe up the excess solution with the Magic Reach.

I also use the Mr. Clean Magic Reach to wash windows. Just have to be sure to change the terry cloth cover, so the ammonia in the windex doesn't mix with the clorox from the bathrooms. Bad news, there!

I use a regular, dry Swiffer dust mop that I also sewed terry cloth covers for to dust my cabinet doors. I spray the pledge on the terry cloth, then wipe the flat cabinets and woodwork with it. If you stuff plastic grocery store bags under the terry cloth (between the cloth and the flat part of the Swiffer) it makes it flexible enough to dust curves and fancy moldings, too. (I've tried the fluffy Swiffer dusters and they work well too, but I'm too cheap to keep paying for the replacements.)

I bought a bunch of the plastic summertime dishes from Walmart when they went on clearance for 25-50 cents each and we use those most of the time, so I can load the bottom dishwasher rack with my grabbers and not worry about breaking anything I happen to drop in the process. I also set the silverware basket on the counter and load all the utensils into it before I put it back in the rack. I buy those Cascade jet packs for dishwasher soap, so I can put them in the soap container and close it with my grabbers, too.

For laundry - I have a top loading washer, but front loading dryer. I line rolling hampers with plastic bags and when the hamper gets half full, I push the top of the bag down and put another one in, so the bags don't get too heavy for me. When I get the laundry downstairs, I pull the bags out one by one and dump them on the table. I sort the clothes by loads, then put each load into a plastic bag and set them on the top of the dryer. That makes it easy to just slide the bag toward the washer, open it, and dump the load in. For the most part, I'm able to get the laundry out of the washer without too much trouble, but I use my grabbers to get anything that gets away from me.

To get the clothes into the dryer - I took one of those pieces of plastic that you put inside of trash bags to hold them open while you fill it with leaves. I put it in the door hole of the dryer and when I drop the clothes down it, they slide through into the dryer, without me having to bend down to throw them in. If something needs shove to get all the way in or to get them back out, I use one of those 3-prong "mini-rakes" for gardening. I extended the handle slightly and covered the prongs with plastic caps so nothing gets torn. I prop the clothes hamper against the door and use the little rake to pull the clothes out into it. After 2 loads, it goes back upstairs and gets dumped on the bed for folding. I hang all shirts and pants, all undergarments go in the top dresser drawers, sheets and towels go on top shelves in the closet.

I haven't figured out any way to make changing litter boxes any easier, though, so that task still just sucks. LOL!

I can't/don't do all of those things every day - like merry, I pick a few things to do each day. I've found if I can do little bits to keep up with things, I do well. If I let it get out of hand, there's hell to pay! At the very least, I pick up the empty drink cans/junk food wrappers; dishes go to the kitchen and into the dishwasher; and the hairball tumbleweeds from the animals either get swept up or sucked up. Then, I pick a couple of "hard" things to do each week - usually some laundry and one other "hard' thing that can be stand to be done once a month.

Post Edited (BionicWoman) : 8/12/2009 9:01:01 AM (GMT-6)


Piercings
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   Posted 8/12/2009 3:40 PM (GMT -7)   
Bionic... I actually have a suggestion for the kitty boxes. Something that I did was to add an extended handle to this utensil to use as a scooper. You have to make sure that you're using a good quality of scoopable litter cause otherwise the clumps fall apart as you're sifting. I don't know the name for the utensil, but it's commonly used in Chinese cooking. It's like a flattened slotted spoon. They look like this: importfood.com/media/cwsk1201_1l.jpg It's strong enough to not collapse as I scrape around the bottom of the box like regular plastic kitty scoopers do, but the holes in it are also large enough that it will allow it to drain out the clean litter.

When cleaning the kitchen put a large glass measuring cup 3/4 full of water in the microwave and put it on high for about 3-4 mins. Of course, be careful when taking the water out, but the steam that's generated will loosen most anything stuck onto the walls of the microwave and will make it easier to get clean.






A-HA! I found the name for the utensil. It's referred to as a skimmer.

Post Edited (Piercings) : 8/12/2009 4:43:32 PM (GMT-6)


LLPLUV
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   Posted 8/12/2009 6:41 PM (GMT -7)   
Flower I know exactly how you feel!!!!!!  I have a husband who works 50 to 70 hours a week.  He keeps the kids on task with chores, he's learned to cook, he does laundry, washes dishes, pays the bills, runs the errands and grocery shops.  And he has been dx'd with Fibro.  He hurts all the time but he can't sit down or else thats all she wrote and hes done for the day or night.
 
He has never said anything cross to me but at times I can see annoyance in his eyes.  I tell myself its not at me it is at the situation.  If I even breathed a word that I thought he had resentments towards me or my condition he would get so mad.  Like how dare I even think a thing.
 
Don't take me wrong I do alot.  Mainly I work long and hard hours that even he thinks I need to think about disability.  I do deal with alot of the teenagers issues when it comes to the dramas that follow them around.  I love to cook but have admitted that at times its too much to take on.
 
Just know that you are not the only couple that deal with CP.  As Pete said when one deals with it, it becomes both your issue.  My husband as told me hunderds of times that if he could fix it he would.  If he could take the pain away he would.  And as far as if he could bear it for me he would with a smile on his face.
 
So just bare with you hubby and understand he is only human and more then likely regrets what he said
 
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BionicWoman
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   Posted 8/13/2009 1:49 AM (GMT -7)   
Piercings, I use wood pellet litter. Clumping litter doesn't hold up with my cats. They eat a prey model diet (raw meat and bones, whole mice, whole quail, etc.), which keeps them very well hydrated. They don't make much poo, but they make LOTS of tinkles - so much that clumping litter tends to turn into one enormous clump by the end of the day.

With wood pellet litter, it's exactly opposite of clumping; when the wood pellets get wet, they turn to sawdust. I've tried several contraptions, including buying expensive litter boxes that are supposed to let the fall through into a tray that's easy to dump, but leaves the good wood pellets still in the top box. Even those weren't worth the money, especially with the number of litter boxes I need.

I think cleaning cat litter boxes is one of those tasks that's just meant to suck... tongue

flower123
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   Posted 8/13/2009 3:15 AM (GMT -7)   
Thank you so much again for all of the help. Oh my goodness, I am so touched. I am going to try all of these things! Bionic-I am going to make a list today of all of the things that I need to buy and reread the post. Thank you! I will write more later...just wanted to say how much I appreciate everyone.

Scarred_for_life
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   Posted 8/13/2009 6:58 AM (GMT -7)   
Hey Flower; I also got into an car accident many years ago and recieved for my wrecked truck and horrible pain a closed head injury to go with it. Now this is not fun to live with, I have to write every little thing down or I will forget. It affected my short term memory so I have many problems remembering the little things. So I keep a small pad of paper beside my chair and when hubby wants me to make phone calls or run an errand I make sure I write it down.

Also hubby has picked up on something that I have been doing as of late.....apparently I'll forget to write it down!!!! So he will leave notes beside me if I'm asleep before he heads for work. I also have hi go back through the checking account to ensure that I have deducted and added right so that is not screwed up as well.

I've forgotten to pay bills....send them out......forgotten phone calls......conversations. and this is all from that closed head injury that I got from the accident many years ago.

Anyway, just thought I would throw that in.

Take care

Scarred
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   Posted 8/13/2009 7:07 AM (GMT -7)   
This is a great thread!  I have nothing to add since you all did such a complete job!  My fave is list making and choosing just a few things to manage in a day.  I have two wonderful boys (12 and 15 years old).  I have seen my disease benefit them.  They are learning to add to this family by jumping up and doing whatever I ask of them.  I have explained to them that any attitude they flip me really hurts my feelings as I would do it all if I could.  They get that and never complain.  My husband works long hard hours and is so thankful to come home to a reasonably organized home.  He helps tons as well and actually loves to cook, especially if we clean ;)
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PAlady
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   Posted 8/13/2009 11:24 AM (GMT -7)   
Scarred,
I had to chuckle about the memory thing. And it isn't only the head injury! I have to write down all my meds when I take them now because there are too many to fit in any of those little day containers (they need to make them the size of a jug for each day! LOL) but once in a while I forget to write it down - or I think I forget! I don't know. So I stare at the pill bottle wondering....did I take that nexium or not???? Yesterday I took the nexium (for my Barrett's esophagus, not pain) and took the risk I might have been taking an extra one. With the precancerous condition I figured I'd rather do that. But I REALLY have to force myself to put the pen in my hand right after I swallow the pill and go over to my piece of scrap paper and write it down! And now I've got an antibiotic 4 times a day in the mix!

Does it ever end??

No.

Sigh.....

PaLady

Hara
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   Posted 8/13/2009 11:25 AM (GMT -7)   

That's the way it should be, the kids helping around the house. My son cleans the litter box now and re-fills it on occation I do the re-filling. My son will only do the dirty dishes if he has dish gloves to wear. hehehehe I love it. Those are two things I don't have to do, because I already have enough to do as it is.

HARA

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